Hey Camy!

First off I'm so glad things are going so well with you and Mick . I bet it is really hard to wait like that, but it's probably a good idea in the long run to take things slow and have plenty of time to work out and communicate all your feelings.

I definitely agree that complete fidelity is very important. I suppose the dynamic has to be set in each individual relationship. Some couples are fine with their partners openly pointing out attractive people...this would make me rather uncomfortable. Other couples if they so much as catch their partner glancing at someone else there's hell to pay...that too would make me uncomfortable. Personally I think it ought to be a sort of middle ground where you don't desperately try to control the urge to take in and notice the sight of a beautiful person, but I think it ought to be discrete, and I don't think you ought to lust over them. That's just my opinion though. As I said I think it probably has to be determined in each relationship. So perhaps it is good then that you guys have some extra time to sort all that stuff out.

I wish you the very best with it and I'm really happy for you

Yay! on the music gig. You're right it is awesome to be paid for doing something you love! What type of music?

Anyway take care and have an awesome day!

Kevin

Hey Camy,

I am happy for you and Mick! I know what it is like to find that person. And by the way, because of your advice in helping me, Mike and I are doing great. Thanks for that.

As far as looking, I think that it is something that changes as your relationship grows. I started out being very jealous of anyone Mike looked at because I always felt he was the hunk eveyone else wanted. My problem not his. But it was a reality that I had to grow past. Well now that we have been together so long, we talk openly about other guys. We are secure enough now to feel free to share out thoughts with each other. We still at the computer and cruz sites of great looking men all the time together. He will even come get me when he runs across someone who is really hot so I can enjoy what he is enjoying. But, that comes with time and security with your relationship. Give it time. It is kind of fund to share that openly with the one you love. Straight people can't do it, so they sneak around and do it. We don't have to do that and it makes it all the more fun.

Congrats on the gig!!! So do you listen to Robbie Williams a lot? I love his music. It took me forever but I finally found his CD "Escapology".

Have a Good Day!

David