The Saga Continues....

Straight From D Hard!

By Nevin Jefferson

My best friend of 24 years confided in me about a problem that he's been experiencing lately. I've been hearing the same moans, groans, complaints, and boo-hoo's from many people. With my best friend, he wants an answer and he wanted it yesterday! In the development of strange in the Land of Queerdom, it seems that men are saying, "I love you" way too early in the spectrum of things. My friend feels that the person doesn't know him completely as a person yet nor does the person know that much about him to say that they love him. He questions the person who states this acclamation of affection and desire with his throwing the person out afterwards. The other problem is that once he has sex with the person they become obsessive and possessive. Not to mention demanding his full attention, closing him off from his social contacts while questioning his friendships with others. Things got to the point where my friend and his now ex were out at a bar and the guy went ballistic when my friend started a conversation with an old acquaintance. The guy, who isn't a memory to my friend at this point in time, announced to the entire bar that my friend was his and nobodies else and that he belonged to him. During their brief courtship the guy kept professing his undying love to my friend who "liked" the guy with nothing more to add to it. I was asked to give the perfect answer and reaction when somebody blinds sides you with "I love you" after two weeks. I told him to tell the person "I'm very fond of you" or "I like you a lot" then look the person directly in the eyes and make the suggestion that they take it slow. After a series of "I love you" encounters my best friend stopped dating for an entire year with getting close with a man being the last thing on his mind. If someone asked him out, he'd cuss the person out! It wasn't Blue Skies or Rainbows during this exile from the romance department. My friend braved the storm and accepted a date from a guy whom he'd known for a while and felt comfortable being around. It was also one of the ill-fated guys who had asked him out earlier and got called every name but the one his mother gave him. After a night of passion, the guy rolls over and says; "I love you!" My friend sat up in bed and lit a cigarette and responded with; "Get your ass out of that door!" Now my best friend wants me to explain to him why men act this way. Why say "I love you" when you really don't know the person well enough to love them? Why do men act obsessive, jealous, and possessive after having sex with you? The rest of my camp wants to know the answer to this as well with my answer better being the one that they want to hear while helping them understand this situation. There is an answer to dealing with a person who humiliates you in public, tries to breakup your friendships, has jealous rages, and is obsessive towards you. Exit stage left! It could be a great many of things that causes a person to blurt out those three magic words to some and a death sentence to others. There's love at first sight. But, this should be a mutual feeling between the two parties involved. You and the other person know exactly what you