rknapp Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 I'd rather be a Pennsyltuckian than being a New Jeryorker. Poor soul... you must be terminally ill, then!
Rakuten06 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Oh, snap! Robbie has scored a point against Jackie, lol..
Phantom Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Oh, snap! Robbie has scored a point against Jackie, lol.. No... Robbie's just confused as to thinking NJ is a good place to be Oh and this thread is starting to get *OFF TOPIC*
Jack Frost Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 I know. hehe But you mods went off-topic making fun of rknapp's spelling of "sown". He'll realize his mistake once he moves to DC or Colorado.
rknapp Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 No... Robbie's just confused as to thinking NJ is a good place to be Oh and this thread is starting to get *OFF TOPIC* Eh, I tried. I know. hehe But you mods went off-topic making fun of rknapp's spelling of "sown". He'll realize his mistake once he moves to DC or Colorado. My mistake? Hell no! It was Siemens' mistake for transferring my dad from the Boca Raton, FL office to NJ in the summer of '96. I was dragged here, kicking and screaming!
Rakuten06 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 But I'm happy that you are with me instead with DeMetz if you know what I mean, lol. He lives in Tampa.
rknapp Posted July 25, 2008 Author Posted July 25, 2008 But I'm happy that you are with me instead with DeMetz if you know what I mean, lol. He lives in Tampa.
rknapp Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 "That's it?" was her reaction... you'd think coming out would have gotten more of a rise out of someone but I guess some people can't be pleased... She said that the only things I could have said that she would have disapproved of would be admitting to having a child pornography collection or that I suck donkey dick... which is a definite no on both counts, in case any of you were wondering. lol
Tiger Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Robbie, that's good to hear! I hope that is an indication of how your parents will react if and when you decide to tell them I just wanted to share a strange experience. I was talking to my cousin a while back. I don't know how I forgot, but I had actually told her a while back. So then, I mentioned something about it, and she was like, "Yeah, you told me last year."
MikeL Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 "That's it?" was her reaction... you'd think coming out would have gotten more of a rise out of someone but I guess some people can't be pleased... Robbie, I think that was a good response even if it was not quite what you expected. The only thing that might have been better would be a very enthusiastic, positive response, which is probably very rare. Did your sister have any feeling for how your parents may react? Best wishes.
AFriendlyFace Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 "That's it?" was her reaction... you'd think coming out would have gotten more of a rise out of someone but I guess some people can't be pleased... She said that the only things I could have said that she would have disapproved of would be admitting to having a child pornography collection or that I suck donkey dick... which is a definite no on both counts, in case any of you were wondering. lol Good for you, Robbie! I had a feeling I just wanted to share a strange experience. I was talking to my cousin a while back. I don't know how I forgot, but I had actually told her a while back. So then, I mentioned something about it, and she was like, "Yeah, you told me last year." Tim! It is easy to forget what we've told to whom sometimes
Jack Frost Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 which is a definite no on both counts, in case any of you were wondering. lol Oh believe me I wasn't wondering. Just wondering if you still stuck on some cheesesteaks.
Benji Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 (edited) Robbie, that's good to hear! I hope that is an indication of how your parents will react if and when you decide to tell them I just wanted to share a strange experience. I was talking to my cousin a while back. I don't know how I forgot, but I had actually told her a while back. So then, I mentioned something about it, and she was like, "Yeah, you told me last year." :wacko: ..............She said "Yeah, you told me last year" Tiger Alzheimer is for 'old' folks. Robbie, best of luck and be safe Edited August 17, 2008 by Benji
rknapp Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 (edited) She said our mom might be okay with it. Dad would be okay inwardly, but his outward reaction might not be pleasing. I dunno, we'll see in time. Edited August 17, 2008 by rknapp
Benji Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 She said our mom might be okay with it. Dad would be okay inwardly, but his outward reaction might not be pleasing. I dunno, we'll see in time. .......I'm not sure how to construe that? Inwardly to imply that he 'accepts'? Outwardly, meaning he is unable to face society's judgement, as it implicates the family?
rknapp Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 Meaning he would be okay with it but, at least initially, he would be unbearable. He gets that way a lot. For example, he hates the color of my sisters hair right now (she dyed it pink for Otakon). I think he could live with it, but he's adamant that she dyes it to a more natural color before she starts teaching undergrads next semester. I've been watching his reaction when any issues that have some sort of gay component come up and I'm getting mixed signals. When Gov. McGreevey resigned for "lying to New Jersey" by appearing to be straight with a classic American family, my dad said that being gay was no reason for him to resign, rather his piss poor administration was the real reason (New Jersey has a bad track record with Governors). However he has yet to give a clear opinion on solidly gay issues, such as same-sex marriage. He is also not above making jokes, as he has done that as least twice that I know of, but it was mostly a reference to the feminine kind of gay person (which I am not). Anyway, I get the feeling that while he would accept it, he certainly wouldn't introduce me as his gay son (as he shouldn't) in the sense that he would be proud of it. On the contrary he probably would not be proud of the fact that I am gay. I could probably bring a guy home to introduce to my parents, but I don't think we would talk about it. At least, that's how I construe it and imagine it.
Benji Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Meaning he would be okay with it but, at least initially, he would be unbearable. He gets that way a lot. For example, he hates the color of my sisters hair right now (she dyed it pink for Otakon). I think he could live with it, but he's adamant that she dyes it to a more natural color before she starts teaching undergrads next semester. I've been watching his reaction when any issues that have some sort of gay component come up and I'm getting mixed signals. When Gov. McGreevey resigned for "lying to New Jersey" by appearing to be straight with a classic American family, my dad said that being gay was no reason for him to resign, rather his piss poor administration was the real reason (New Jersey has a bad track record with Governors). However he has yet to give a clear opinion on solidly gay issues, such as same-sex marriage. He is also not above making jokes, as he has done that as least twice that I know of, but it was mostly a reference to the feminine kind of gay person (which I am not). Anyway, I get the feeling that while he would accept it, he certainly wouldn't introduce me as his gay son (as he shouldn't) in the sense that he would be proud of it. On the contrary he probably would not be proud of the fact that I am gay. I could probably bring a guy home to introduce to my parents, but I don't think we would talk about it. At least, that's how I construe it and imagine it. ........Ok, that is pretty much how I thought this was kinda going, I'm probably as old if not older than your dad, but I understand this 'generation'. Your right, he is probably not going to go out of his way to introduce his 'gay' son. This is, after new to them :wacko: (where have they been???) And yet on another thought, do you think he has already has suspicions of your oreintation? Hey, I don't know Drewbie, but I gotta tell you Fathers are not stupid, maybe I'm using to harsh a word here, but hey we already lived your lifetime, we really don't need a hammer to the head to figure things out. But anyway, I hope the best for you, and if you have the type of father I think........you might have, from taking his comments about the Governor, well I hope he is drawing you out. Stiill keep safe above all else. Take care!!
AFriendlyFace Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I'm inclined to agree with Benji...didn't you say in another thread that you once answered a call from your father and announced that you were in a GSA meeting? I'm sure he's able to put two and two together. So when would you tell him and your mom (assuming you're considering it at all)? Good luck! -Kevin
rknapp Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 (edited) I'm inclined to agree with Benji...didn't you say in another thread that you once answered a call from your father and announced that you were in a GSA meeting? I'm sure he's able to put two and two together. So when would you tell him and your mom (assuming you're considering it at all)? Good luck! -Kevin True, that did happen. I forgot about that. When I would tell them gives rise to another topic of discussion which I don't much feel like talking about right now. Edited August 17, 2008 by rknapp
Benji Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 (edited) True, that did happen. I forgot about that. When I would tell them gives rise to another topic of discussion which I don't much feel like talking about right now. ..........Ouch, sorry!!! But as the thread says, I believe the seed has already been sown! Drewbie take care! Edited August 17, 2008 by Benji
Krista Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 That's good news Robbie that your Sister took it well. I thought that she would and you'll have her in your corner later if you want to tell others.
Cynical Romantic Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Indeed great news! Glad to hear it went so well. But you never mentioned, when you told her, did she already know?
rknapp Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 Indeed great news! Glad to hear it went so well. But you never mentioned, when you told her, did she already know? She said she had her suspicions. Doesn't mean she "knew".
Benji Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 She said she had her suspicions. Doesn't mean she "knew". ...............Oh well! One down and a world to go.......!!
rknapp Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 ...............Oh well! One down and a world to go.......!! Thanks, that makes me feel SO much better.... [/sarcasm] lol j/k.
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