While I mostly agree with you, I think it's worth keeping in mind that this is a very complicated situation and it's very difficult to predict how things will go. I read an article recently about a gay Iranian who'd fled to England to escape the oppressive nature of his homeland with regards to sexuality. However, in the article he was explicit that if there was a war with Iran he would return to his motherland and fight to defend them.
Anyway, the point is it's a delicate matter and we may very well end up alienating the Iranian gay population themselves. Also, I would be concerned that there will be a deadly backlash involved for many of these people as a result of the increased attention it's getting. Sure it's easy for us to say something like, "well it's for the ultimate good and it's the only way things will change", but we're not the ones who could get beaten or killed.
Anyway, I do agree with you. It's just not a black-and-white matter.
-Kevin