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Hey Alex! LOL, glad I could make ya happy! Not to disillusion you, but unfortunately I often use the word "mom". I don't really really consider it a different spelling so much as a different word though. If I wanted to use the word "mum" I would spell it accordingly.

Hi Bob! Wow! That definitely sounds like quite a fantasy! It's probably not exactly what I would go for, but it definitely sounds like an awesome day!

Hey Ieshwar! Well, the question/assignment , was to "describe your perfect sexual fantasy", and when I went about trying to do that I realized that it would be vastly different depending on whether or not I was in a serious relationship or if it were purely sexual. So that was the emotional sexual/romantic fantasy. WOW! That sounds intense! Definitely not shallow at all aww thanks I guess what I mean is that the "real reality" doesn't really matter because the perception becomes the reality. Like if someone told me there was a man-eating Lion outside, and I completely believed it and acted accordingly (never leaving my home unless it was dark and I thought the lion was sleeping or something), then it doesn't really matter if there IS a lion out there or not since I'm living my life like there's a lion out there. LOL, well you're terrific just the way ya are! Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

I am diggin that song right now! It used to irritate the pants off of me! But it's really grown on me, and I'm lovin' it, now! I heard and enjoyed "Fallin" by Alicia Keys today. I'm not usually a fan of her style, but I do like that song alot once in a while (like "Hotel California" by The Eagles, it's fantastic about once a week...after that it get's real old real fast ). I'm not sure if I can recall what "Unbreakable" sounds like, but I'm pretty sure I've heard it. I'm listening to "Seven Days" by Craig David right now. I think it's going to be like his song "Walking Away" for me. In other words I'm going to love listening to it alot for awhile, then I'm going to not want to hear it at all anymore for a really long time. Anyone else notice how some songs have much better staying power than others? It's weird to me how I can hate a song the first few times, and love it the more I hear it (like "Umbrella", and "Little Wonders" by Rob Thomas, and a ton of others). Then there's songs that I LOVE when I first hear them, and get so incredibly sick of them I want to scream ("Into the Ocean" by Blue October for example, or else pretty much anything by Nickleback). Then there's some songs I just really can't ever get enough of ("Beautiful" by Christiana Aguilera, "Thank You" by Dido, or pretty much anything by Three Days Grace). I dunno, just fascinates the heck out of me! -Kevin

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JAY!!! I hope you have a fantastic day and an awesome year Kevin

I picked the choice to accept yourself too. Well said, Nick! My reasons are pretty much in line with this. Also, my 2nd choice probably would have been the choice of a partner, but I feel that it's more important to accept yourself first. I'm a firm believer in not waiting around for other people to complete you, etc. I personally don't think someone who has major unresolved issues about themselves is a good candidate for a serious relationship. Oddly, that would have been pretty much the "least important" on my list. I don't really think it is that hard to change careers if you don't like the one you're one. I've known alot of people who've done it, and I fully plan to do it at least two or three times myself (if for no other reason than that I couldn't imagine wanting to do the same thing for my whole life). I also think the choice of where to live is more trivial than most of the others since, as someone who's lived in several cities, each time essentially "starting over", I can attest to the fact that it's not really that difficult to do, and with a partner, self-acceptance, and strong beliefs, it should be even easier! I do think it edges out career with regards to importance, however; since where one lives can easily make a massive difference about the level of acceptance and tolerance one might find, as well as impacting a ton of other things. I think the choice of a belief would have been my third choice (right after acceptance and partner). IMO, it's really important to know what you believe and to have a "moral code" or at least "life philosophy" in place, and indeed I might well argue that this should be the most important on the list since I think without this, once again one might not be in any boat to have a partner, and may not even be in a position to accept themselves. So anyway, acceptance, partner, and belief are very important to me. Profession and location, not so much. Great survey, old Bob! Thanks for getting us thinking about these things! Have an awesome day all and take care! Kevin

HAHA, the second girl did say she wished she could be dressed as comfortably . Blah, I don't care. Why fix myself up when apart from that brief 45 minutes or so out I spent the day relaxing at home? -Kevin

Aww That was such a wonderful post, Jamie! She is indeed a fantastic person! That is truly awesome and amazing! I was indeed very touched by both Loraine and sungod's stories!! And as I said, I seldom ever use the term "hero", but you know, Colin, with your positive attitude, confidence, and million other good qualities, you're a pretty terrific role-model yourself Have a fantastic day all and take care Kevin

I'm not sure if we're discussing the same article/study, but I once went over something similar in one of my classes and the prof. was quick to point out the following research problems: 1) As you pointed out they were studying the brains of deceased HIV victims. Now this was probably very convenient since you can't exactly hack open anyone's head and have look, and presumably in the time period that this study was conducted the majority of HIV victims were gay. However, I think the majority of scientists - if not the majority of people - would agree that it's not the best idea in the world to look at a diseased population in an attempt to make inferences about the general population. 2) Assuming point one is irrelevant you're still faced with the causality vs. correlation problem. Again, as my prof. pointed out there's evidence that the activities, learning, and experiences that one has affects one's brain structure/regions. In other words it might be that the differences in sizes of certain brain regions are due to the activities and experiences associated with being gay versus the differences in brain regions causing one to partake in the activities, experiences, etc. associated with being gay. I believe it's been postulated before that perhaps the genes that might cause male homosexuality are linked to female fertility and that thus it was an advantageous gene/set of genes to pass along (in much the same way that having ONE gene for sickle-cell anemia inoculates against Malaria and it's only when someone has BOTH genes for it that they have the blood disorder). Anyway, who cares? Let's just enjoy it I have quite a few gay and lesbian friends, and a very high number of them do have other gay and lesbian people in their families (and that's just the ones that I know about, several others may also but simply not have mentioned it to me). And even ruling out people who migrate and only looking at natives of an area, you're still going to have skewed results simply because it's easier to be out in some areas versus others. Great points, Robbie! My favourite quote about this is currently in Ieshwar's signature (I hope you don't mind me quoting it, Ieshwar ): "My mother made me a homosexual" "If I give her the fabric will she make me one too?" (I hope I remembered that quote correctly) Anyway, it's just like I've always said, when someone says "you're choosing to be gay", I think it much more preferable to respond "Yeah, so what?", than to get into an argument with them. Just my thoughts on the matter, Take care all and have a great day! Kevin

I can neither recall the title of the book, nor can I remember the exact words leading up to this sentence, but it's taken from a book about Happiness in which people were sitting around being dour for the sake of seeming intellectual and sophisticated. "Austerity never looked so good"

For me, probably the promise of eternal youth. Unlimited time in general or else, yes, knowledge would also be very tempting.

Personally, I don't think he's all that cute. I did enjoy 3rd Rock From the Sun however. Latter Days was also really good!!

Everyone deserves happiness I'm listening to Alanis Morrisette's "One Hand In My Pocket"

I'm sure you didn't hurt James' feelings. He probably just meant that we as individuals were too complex to be easily influenced by a movie.

So today has been totally awesome! I slept really late, caught up with some really fantastic people online ( 's to you guys ), finally got to talk to my friend Claire about her most recent break-up (I was really worried about her from her messages and stuff, but we kept missing each other's calls) and I think she's going to be okay. Then I caught up on ALOT of household chores, and I'm almost completely done, and I'm just SO much more relaxed and happy when everything's really tidy and clean. Otherwise it just feels like something constantly in the back of my head irritating me. Anyway, then I decided since it was Labor Day I'd treat myself nice so I went to this little dinner known for their awesome desserts and had a slice of chocolate fudge cake, with ice cream, whipped cream, and chocolate sauce. Oh my gosh SO good! HEHE, but I didn't bother changing out of my PJ's to go (What? I'm enjoying my relaxing, casual day! ). Anyway while there the cashier absolutely raved about my hair and said she thought it was natural (most people seem to think I am a natural redhead). So then I went to wine and gourmet food market and picked up a bottle of Chardonnay, some Brie, and some fancy crackers, then when I was checking out I was again chatting with the cashier and this one complemented my hair like crazy too! LOL, she even called her co-workers over to have a look. HAHA, who knew doing NOTHING with it would get it so many compliments?! Anyway, now I'm going to drink my wine, eat my cheese, and write (yes, I've started writing again, but I don't intend to post anything or even start getting it edited and stuff until I've gotten ALOT written). Take care everyone and I hope you all have a fantastic day!!! -Kevin

Uh huh! I think it's almost certainly a combination of genetic and environmental (but then I think almost everything about a person is). As I've said in previous discussions, IMO, the same stimulus would affect differently people in different ways. Anyway, I'm not particularly interested either. Take care all and have a great day, Kevin

Happy "Labor Day" all! (LOL, I do spell the word "labour" but since I'm referencing the specific U.S. holiday I'm not going to)

I just listened to it for the first time after reading this thread. I was really hoping I was going to like it, because I really am pulling for her...but I just didn't care for it very much. *shrug* I'm currently listening to the new Foo Fighters song, "Pretender"

WOOO HOOO! Congrats, Francois I've thoroughly enjoyed your first 1,000 posts and I can't wait to see what the next 1,000 bring!! -Kevin

Happy Birthday, Drew

Ha! There's one I hadn't added emphasis too!...not that your points weren't very thought provoking and well-reasoned, Graeme Wait a minute did I just... :wacko: *sigh* me too! -Kevin

My gosh! I must say I was quite surprised to see this thread. Mostly because it made me feel like I was missing something, lol. It looks like it was started in my "lurker" days prior to joining (about a month later), but then the reason I joined was because I eventually wandered into the forums, read something, and wanted to post. Before that I just read the stories. Anyway: what happened to this guy?! LOL, I think we'd have gotten on famously! (actually I think I do remember him vaguely) Thanks for the bump, Vic, I enjoyed this series of essays, and I hope we can replicate them in our current posts. Take care all and have a great day! Kevin

I actually worked it out on my way home (from playing pool), but by the time I'd logged in to answer Conner had beaten me to it! Hmm, I agree it sounds like some kind of gemstone or piece of jewelry. Perhaps a pendant of some kind, or a locket.

Well said, CJ! Well said, Andy! This is true. We mustn't forget our straight allies and we need look no further than this forum to find quite a few. -Kevin

WOO HOOO!!! Congrats, Krista!! It's been a pleasure having you around and I look forward to the next 1,000! hehe, I think Bond must be waiting to make it a special post!