Zolia Lily

I read an article about something called "microagression" that I'd never even heard of before recently - and it lead me to this site. http://microaggressions.tumblr.com/ I find this really really interesting. SO many times i have brushed comments off while thinking 'they didn't mean that' or 'i'm overreacting' or 'it's just a joke', but seeing it all laid out this way makes me realise how damaging casual remarks can be. Some of them, though, are so very very very very very very VERY casual. It made me angry and sad to read them, but it also made me really scared that I've probably said things similarly hurtful or damaging without thought in the past too. I think everyone has probably been a victim of this sort of thing at some point in there lives - and i think the general community here at GA perhaps more so than others. I have a story i used to tell a lot - my sister used to make this joke that i'm a lesbian because i wear jeans over my Doc Martens (that's all it takes, apparently... I'm afraid that my sister's agressiveness isn't even the "micro" kind. And it probably hasn't even OCCURRED to her that what she says is more than words.) and while she thinks it's funny, i don't really mind. I like wearing my Docs that way. However, maybe a few years ago my sister told me that she'd made that joke once and her friends had all beleived i was a lesbian for around three years. I kind of thought it was funny that they'd beleived my sister on the basis of SHOES of all things, and told my friends all about it for a laugh... and realised AFTERWARDS that maybe that was insensitive and possibly hurtful to the gay guy in the group. I spoke to him about it, and while he was really good about it, i can't help but think how EASY it is to say things which hurt people without even intending to. This has really made me stop and think - more than anything else i've come across in quite some time - and i thought i'd share it with you all. I've even sent it to my sister....

I usually eat lots of chocolate and cry on the phone to my mum. Failing that, I eat lemon cheesecake No, really. I try hard to make sure i haven't gotten out of a regular routine (that really seems to send me down). I make sure I have a good sleep pattern going on, try to eat healthy, try to walk and try to catch up with friends. Sometimes the hardest thing is forcing myself not to curl up into a tiny ball under my bed, but friends are amazing for picking me up when i'm down. They don't even have to do anything other than be them Same q.

oh - LOVE your new pic, Marky - so peaceful and GREEN! Us from Australia know what drought is. And this mild interlude between rain showers here in the southeast of England is not it. HA ha ha If you need to vent, Marky, i'm always there Work is quiet atm so i can check emails a bit. Not GA, but emails, lol. Will help in any way i can.

Thank you, Marky! (and sorry, Stuby! Wan't me I do love Jake - I'm a little familiar with OCD and i think there's a bit of it in all of us. Personally, I'm a counter... So glad you liked it

Water on the bathroom floor. HOW LONG does it honestly take to mop up after you have a shower and not leave PUDDLES on the floor which i'm then going to step in which wearing socks?!? UGH!!!

Well - we found a house. We are getting everything signed and paid for and it's all feeling good. Amazing how much anger and misery disappears when the frustrating situation resolves itself. That said - i'm going to have to be careful living with friends. I think being honest up front is good. Me and said girl had angry words the other day, and i think it actually helped. Now we all making sure we say what needs to be said and it feels amazing. Being afraid of hurting other people sometimes hurts you more. Still learning things every day

Liquorice!!!!! Or chocolate. Always same q.

SQUIRREL!!! I have a bush of red hair and when looking for my friends in a crowd apparently i looked just like a squirrel looking around... and they are hilarious. Whenever i see one i imagine it with it's own theme music with the stop and freeze thing going on..... Same q: Next!

I have some weird magical thing going on that may help... Every time there's a guy i like and begin to crush on... he turns out gay. I don't know what it is, i don't know why, but every guy i like ends up being gay. So really - just point me at them, let me develop a little crush and before you know it, they'll be jumping out of the closet. Either that, or they end up dating my best friends

Thanks Marky. Just don't know how to go about this. I'm such a coward Will let you know how i get on...

Supposed to be finding a place to live with 2 friends. One i actually want to live with. The other i asked to join us out of a misplaced sense of duty. She's been a friend for years and is so lost i felt like i should help out.... She's basically been homeless for half a year and can't get her act into gear. But she's making my life a misery and i am so frustrated. I can't exactly tell her that she's annoyed me so much that i don't think we have a friendship left and i really don't want to be around her anymore. There's no nice way to say it. I don't know what to do. It's making me miserable and frustrated and i don't want to live with her anymore, but i can't exactly take it back now.... but if i'm this angry now, then living together is NOT going to be wise either. I am in a pickle and it's really. really. really getting me down

Ha ha ha - Loved this! Laughed right outloud at such gems as 'hung like a baby carrot' and the Jazz fanatic thing and the pizza / conscience balance. Priceless. Slightly worried by the use of canes in schools (as a fellow aussie, pretty sure corporal punishment is out, these days) but excellent for its part in the development of the story ! Thank you for brightening what has been a somewhat sour day! I sooo needed that laugh!

I was actually looking for the answer to the question in the 'PS' about "buick" and "quick".... oops...

I totally love Brandon! I thought he was a really unique character with some nice juicy issues... and rather like the bratty side to him too

http://www.dailyfunnystuff.net/2012-a-comic-perspective-on-the-mayan-calendars-prediction-of-devastation

Now that i have recovered from the pure awesomeness that is "not the sun" i thought i'd try again and leave a review that wasn't just me gushing.... * try* being the key word in that sentence... I really loved every chapter of this trilogy. I haven't come across a concept like this one before, and it was complex enough to make my head hurt (I may actually have to re read some patches to get myself up to speed again...). The pacing was good, it was really well written ( i think i spotted a grand total of three errors in 60 odd chapters ) and it kept me hooked and kept me guessing right to the end (BOY did it!). I loved the characters, the plot... and thought it was all faultlessly executed. I was also really impressed that you didn't take any easy ways out- not just in regards to what happened to Leia, but also to the ending. It would have been so easy and convenient to have time passing differently Charion and Earth and Bran and Jordan arriving back just after they left... There was one question i was left with though (or rather, woke up in the middle of the night puzzling over...) - What happened to Ralph?! (ps- i did it again, didn't I? I can't help the gushing! )

YESSS!!!!!!!! Just finished your "not the sun" trilogy (as you know from my couple of gushing reviews - i can only say that this is possibly THE most excited i have ever been about a story i've read online... gushing isn't that common for me... ) and now feel incredibly gratified that my high opinion of your work is obviously shared by lots of others here too! I plan to devour the rest of your work as SOON as i have a chance... of course- then i'll be wanting more......

New favourite story - THIS WAS AWESOME!!!! * happy tears *

OOOOMG.... And now i have to start book three before i sleep! Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :D

Aaaaand i'm not going to be able to go to bed until i know what happens now... FAR too engrossed in this. Also slightly terrified and more than a little desperate to figure this all out! This is exciting and terrifying and enthralling... I sound like i'm laying it on pretty thick but this is honestly just SOOO GOOD!!!

I am so glad i took the reviewer's advice and waited until i had plenty of time to settle in and read this! This is a fabulous story and i'm thorougly enjoying it! It's got everything - interesting characters, intrigue, action, romance.... and a concept which i think is pretty unique! I think of myself as a pretty avid fantasy ready and i've never come across an idea like this one before. Now i have to keep reading so i can find out what happens next!!!

Owchies.... And no worries I'm just trying to edit and write today. It's 4pm and so far i've been unsuccessful at both. Having a day where i'm angry at my friends, so i decided to stay home and now they're all like "why aren't you coming?". Um, because you've all really managed to piss me off? I'm normally really laid back, so it's not an easy feat. THAT"S how angry they've made me. Grrr. Maybe i should learn to talk to them about it so we don't go to pretending like nothing's wrong and then have the same trouble a few weeks down the track again. I just need some sunlight

My other favourite song of the moment - so very fabulously eighties :D

Ok. Finished over swooning over Tiziano Ferro again for a while now.... but THIS is currently the catchiest song EVER for me.... can't stop singing it! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgtxQ8fJuok

What did i miss? What happened to your toe??? I'm a very tactile person- i hug loads. Nothing better I'm glad you have friends who can just drop by (even though i wish she'd been able to do more for you) - When i'm next in the neighbourhood ....