WE GOTTA DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS, NOW.
You are right, something should be done about it now, but not for the reasons you posted. Hernia's can be bad news. I agree with Bob, you need to look into finding a PCP that you can work with. If your insurance does not require a referral, so straight to a surgeon to have the hernia evaluated. Strangulation is a real possibility, a situation in which your innerds get past the muscle wall then get pinched off. SOOO not good!
I don't know much about treating your emotional issues, that's Bob's department! Seriously, PM him and talk.