I wish that a boy's innocence was as valuable as a girl's seems to be.
Innocence and virginity in boys seem to be a scourge to be gotten rid of as soon as may be, but once those two things are gone so is a certain kind of openness and joy. A wisdom sets in as well as the deep hunger of sexual gratification. Sex becomes like a drug to a young heart not yet ready to deal with this powerful drive. It becomes a near all consuming obsession and so much that is good and happy in those early teen years gets passed over. Things that lead to healthy maturation and a solid foundation for strong emotional development.
To expose someone so young to sex too early is to steal the rest of his childhood and to stunt his ability to become a strong, stable, and confident man. It is a deep emotional injury hidden in the momentary extacy of an orgasm.
More dangerous is that the bond that forms during sex is strong and its breaking can often break a boy to pieces. They become more prone to suicide and/or substance abuse when that inevitable pain hits. They cannot cope with it. They are not mature enough to survive it unscathed. This danger is compounded by the fact that boys are still not allowed to express themselves when they are breaking. They must 'man up'. Let me ask you. How can you 'man up' when you are not yet a man?
In its way, the non-penetrative rape of a boy can be just as devestating to him as a penetrative rape.