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The chapter is perfectly named. Being present in each and every moment of our life is hard, especially with the amount of high volume media input and how fast paced the world has become. Having awareness of the importance of living in the here and now, rather than for the future or stuck in our past can be difficult. When our lives become dictated by thoughts or emotions attached to what was or what might be, we miss what is. This chapter is all about celebrating the little joys, along with major achievements, in a mindful and focused way. Loren gratefully accepting Jay staying for Thanksgiving, Aiden being his best potato self, Matt and Seamus connecting with Loren, Jay and gang helping with the launch, Loren offering to help Seamus, Jay and Loren taking the next relationship step by discussing finances… and every other moment feels real and aware.

Yes! I had to rush my comment a bit earlier today and could have worded it better. This chapter felt very much like a committed couple in it forever trying to privately work things out in front of the public eye. The suit, an olive branch, and Jay’s attendance the non verbal response. I’m someone who stews and can get prickly so I get how Loren might have let two weeks go by.

The last chapter elicited a lot of back and forth, taking sides with either Jay or Loren, and ultimately wondering how the resolution would pan out. While I’m sure there will be lots of comments about all that for this chapter, and about Jay’s turn about in staying for Thanksgiving and inviting Seamus, Matt and Aiden, that’s not the big take away for me. These two love each other. When you are in love you do things in spite of being mad. Loren sending the suit and ultimately the invite is a big deal. Jay showing up and smiling for the crowds is a big deal. Neither brought their divide public. They were a united front. Being in love and, more importantly, being committed means all of that. When my husband isn’t traveling for work he wakes me up every morning in the same exact gentle way he has done for decades. It doesn’t matter if we are fighting. Same. Gentle. Wake up. Jay and Loren are deeply, completely in love. They are committed. Now bring on Aido Potato!

I love every bit of this! Information through the eyes of a child is a great reminder of the legacy we are leaving. I have several family members who are passionate about saving the coral reefs and the measures being taken to do so. This story is well researched and timely.

Really enjoyable chapter! What I love about your writing is the realism. The cadets’ banter and the trip were really well done. Many years ago my husband was an Army Company Commander in Germany. He sponsored a unit bus trip to Spain for the soldiers and any spouses who wished to attend. I found myself cackling as I remembered him and the First Sergeant checking the packing. One guy thought bringing a bar of soap and a pair of socks for the four day trip would be enough! Once the tour bus was loaded, the First Sergeant called the soldiers to order (Ah TEN Huhhhhh is how it sounds being shouted) and there were spouses being spilled to the floor and soldiers hitting their heads on the overhead bins! 😂 Thank you for bringing back some great memories. I’ll be smiling the rest of the day.

I hadn’t really thought about it that way, until this comment. I actually went back and reread my initial comment! I realized I wrote it like Jay screwed up, but in my mind it was a misunderstanding of who Loren has become. I completely agree that being right is absolutely not the issue. If someone has suffered a serious trauma it takes a lot of communication from both partners in a relationship. There will be issues that pop up and times they have to dig deep to resolve things. You are also right that the title says it all!

There is a lot to think about in this chapter. The lofty highs of Loren learning a bit about football, attending practice and games, firing up the crowd and galvanizing his online supporters, as well as the sexy as hell fun flirting between Jay and Loren, coupled with Loren nesting at Jay’s place, left an intense feel good sense of everything going in the right direction for Loren and Jay. Unfortunately, Jay just demonstrated that he doesn’t truly understand Loren’s past and who he has become. Loren is right, Jay didn’t offer meeting his family out of any other place than love, but Jay really did just admit that he perceives Loren as somehow broken. Loren’s response was both measured and appropriate, to include needing some time and a visit to his therapist. This probably felt like an emotional slap, however it’s more of a wake up call that Jay needs better insight into the healing Loren has accomplished. What’s particularly well done in this chapter is Issac probably spotting Lars and Loren’s reaction to that news. Through his actions and words, Loren let his friends know he’s ok and grounded in the present. He has strategies in place he uses when confronted with his past. He knows what he will do if he sees his brother and what would be necessary for them to form a relationship. Loren recognizes he will have times in his life that he has set backs. He has great support systems in place. His friends are the absolute best. Hopefully Jay will understand the significance of his misunderstanding. @kboisis right. Family means different things to different people. Blood doesn’t always define family, nor does it always mean the best relations. Families formed by choice are oftentimes the healthiest and best.

Honestly? Too many. But the pacing is great. Everything feels very real and true to life. It takes time to establish a committed relationship and unlock the key parts of the person you are with. The story is moving along perfectly!

Oh, I love this chapter! When the story first started and the number of chapters was mentioned, I admit to wondering about how that would be accomplished. But here we are with our guys figuring each other out a step at a time. Yes, there are missteps, but they work through them at the pace that seems right for their relationship. Their friends are entering their joined lives at the timing that’s best for Loren and Jay as a couple. Loren showing the totality of his work tempo to Jay is right in stride with where their relationship has progressed. Loren bringing up the double standard AND his feelings about Jay’s injuries is an important jog forward. Loren admitting to his hurt over Aiden being a typical toddler and ‘ignoring’ him is an amazing leap. The jokes about ‘are you proposing’ is an honest to goodness vault. Did I mention that I love this chapter?!

Well now, based on your reply to @chris191070, I’m gonna fixate on the new ways CJ is going to annoy Northman! 😉

That was fun! Calling Ritch ‘Chair Force’ will never get old! 😂I do have to wonder if we are getting closer to the Mexico Incident. I find myself sort of waiting for something to happen or clues to be inserted somewhere in the chapter.

I hope this doesn’t add to your confusion, but one thing I thought about when you initially asked for clarification a couple chapters ago, is that Jay has two sets of friend groups. He goes to the bars (in WA where both he and Loren live) with his football friends. The board members who are his college and lifelong best friends come to visit (from CO where they all live) or he goes to them or they vacation together (like Mexico). Loren’s friends are in WA with him.

I’ve commented a few times that Loren and Jay have the absolute best bro friends. This chapter further proves that good, solid friends having your back (and your front, and your insides…) is equally, if not more, important than therapy or mentorship. Isaac, Cole and Corey for the win in helping Loren deal with the panic. Sometimes the best way to process frightening emotions is out loud with those who love you most. Aido Potato has toddler game, in more ways than one!

Sweet of you to say, but honestly my comments are no more or less than others. I recently finished a story that will eventually be a three part series where I got so nerdy-engrossed in the plot that I literally printed out the map the author included. Then I kept going back rereading chapters, looking for clues, and commenting on my thoughts. Ugh! If there was a way to delete some of my paragraphs long, musing comments I would. For this story, everyone’s perspectives are interesting and engaging. Loren had a horrific childhood. He’s intelligent, resourceful, a survivor and someone we all can root for. Jay is dynamic, larger than life, and yet endearingly human in his approach.

We have somehow come to believe what the media has fed us; all abused children become dysfunctional adults, prone to violence and unspeakable crimes. While that may be true for some among us, most abused children emerge into adulthood forged from the ashes, especially if they’ve had the benefit of therapy. They are kindness personified, tentative for sure, but oftentimes exceptional parents and partners. Loren is most definitely a child whisperer. He will be a great uncle! He doesn’t know it, but he already is one. *Sneaky of Jay to bring up how communication is a two way street! 😉 I would add that it is a street filled with turn lanes, traffic signals, round abouts, twists, curves, oncoming traffic…you get the idea. Loved how Aiden can toddler worm his way into anyone’s heart! We need more of Aido Potato 🥔

A lot more of the past is unlocked and revealed! Violet and her soul’s reincarnations play an important role. Now that Dante is firm in his conviction to be with Tani, will they be able to overcome what lies ahead? I hope Dante’s determination pays off.

So much going on in this excellent chapter! Dante reading his grandmother’s journal and learning of his joined lives and family links with Tani is an important step forward. So is Nora regaining the ability to speak all she knows. It is also important that Landi noted Dante’s power had grown, as had his empathy. I agree with @Danilo Syrtisabout Viola, Violetta, Violet. Surely there is a reincarnation link with that soul, but what is the purpose? I look forward to Dante seeing Tani at the Elderwood Conservancy.

This was such a great building block chapter for CJ’s future. I have gone back recently to reread the other stories in this series, and the tie togethers are spot on. That’s hard to do but important. It enriches and makes everything real. Love Sir Kent. Still can’t stand Northman.

This is the type of story I’ve learned can keep me awake at night thinking, unless I wait to start reading towards the ending or after it is completely finished. Today was my time to marathon read this engrossing tale. I quickly tuned out distractions and felt whisked away to this new world. From beginning to satisfying ending I throughly enjoyed it! I’m so happy that Ned and Peter are together again and look forward to the promised coming sequel.

Yes! Such a great point. Part of why this chapter was so great is all the non verbals occurring. I smiled several times over Loren’s snappishness and Jay obviously ‘ignoring’ Loren’s mood with complete understanding.

What a relief, as well as a pleasant and wonderful surprise. I was worried this chapter would be drama filled. My guess is there will be those saying that the much needed chat has been avoided, but I don’t see it that way at all. A mark of a solid relationship is picking your battles and knowing when to bring the heavy stuff up. Loren was badly injured and in pain. He needs time to heal both mentally and physically. Jay got that and handled the situation perfectly, to include not only caring for Loren but also keeping all of Loren’s followers/fans in the loop. Heck, he even gained more viewers! The fact that Jay recognized he’s been similarly physically hurt also helps. Obviously these two will need to talk it all out, but I am thrilled they used this time to further cement their relationship and allowed for Loren to heal.

Excellent chapter that had a bit of everything and ended with the rock climbing drama that we are now apparently on page 3 of the comments section discussing. Since work delayed my attendance to the commenter party, I think the easiest thing to say is that I agree with where everyone is basically going with their thoughts…Jay and Loren are due for a sit down chat. It’s time they begin setting some relationship guidelines about communication. The enema was hilarious, but frankly also showed a lack of communication. Both think about things but don’t say them to the other. Obviously Loren changed his mind about the climb. I’m interested to hear why. And did he ever tell Jay he hadn’t planned on climbing? As for Boss Nanny and chapter 19, I went back and reread it. Yes, the accident was omitted and Seamus was using Jay’s phone to talk to Matt. There are texts coming in from Loren while they’re talking, but the chapter was focused on Seamus and Matt apologizing and reconnecting. Since it wasn’t specified what those texts said, maybe that could be used in this story or an edit point for the other.

Poor Peter! A tough, but necessary (and hilarious), lesson on how to think before you react. Perhaps now he will grow into his new position.

I am always so happy when I see you are a commenter on a story I am reading! I get a lot out of what you have to say and you are gracious to others when expressing yourself. In this scenario, though, I think you have a faulty premise. As a spouse of a retired military officer, I can tell you that a military career is all about compromising to include perhaps asking the person to leave the service. But that’s really not the issue here. We all got used to Jay’s ability to articulate well, assess any given situation and put Loren at ease. Last chapter we saw a few dings in that armor when he had a bit of anxiety going into the first time they were having sex. This whole situation would have been different if he’d expressed concern and asked to learn more about rock climbing and safety protocols. The parts of the climb that upset Jay were due to not understanding what was going on. I agree that rock climbing might not be a requirement of Loren’s job, but it is certainly a part of it and is a sport he enjoys. He might be very willing to give it up, but the missing link is an actual conversation. Which our guys haven’t actually had. I see compromises on both their parts in past situations. They will get through this.

Compromise in any committed relationship is difficult. Without it, there can be miscommunications, hurt feelings, tension and lots of unspoken thoughts that can turn to resentment, especially when the relationship is new. Compromise is important. It fosters peace and balance in the relationship, helps maintain trust and shows mutual respect. Unfortunately this was not a compromise. Jay was selfish. Even though he did the ‘yeah, I know I’m being a dick but…’ type caveat, and most likely doesn’t recognize his request as selfish, he was wrong. It’s ok to express concern for the safety of someone you love. The Loren who Jay fell in love with is a rock climber. Safety while climbing should have been the discussion, not ceasing the sport. It is concerning that Loren cancelled an upcoming climb without talking it out with Jay. Loren seems to be reacting to Jay being contrite and not wanting to add tension to the trip rather than addressing how important the sport is to him. I realized in this chapter that neither Jay or Loren really understand what the other does. While Jay is learning about Loren being an influencer, the relationship is young and there are key parts he doesn’t know enough about. Loren knows very little about football or the NFL. Now that they are in a stronger, more committed relationship it is time to learn more about what each other loves outside of their relationship. The great news is that they obviously love each other. They know how to compromise and have done so in other aspects of their relationship. They just need to chat it out.