My friend Christina's husband Ken just announced ON FACEBOOK that's he's gay. Why on FB, I'll never know. He did go back and delete it after Christina had a fit. So they are getting divorced, have 2 kids under the age of 4. My question is how did Ken just now figure out he's gay?
Some background?
Ken is around 37 and has been married for 7 years. His wife took his virginity. He's kindof geeky so this isn't a huge shocker that he was 30 when he first had sex. He is a REALLY nice guy though and a great father.
He said he didn't know he was gay because he'd never had sex before. Now, sexual identity has never been an issue for me that's why I can't figure this out. Even before having sex, you know what attracts/repels you right? He says he didn't think about men in a sexual way before.
I can understand being scared and hiding it, even from yourself.
I can understand being in denial and wishing it away and trying to make it not true.
I can understand denying it for the sake of survival.
I can't understand how a 37 year old smart man couldn't figure out he was gay until now.
I feel really bad for him. Everyone is being really nasty about this. Christina is really big in the whole church scene so you can imagine the fallout. I feel bad for Christina too, that really sucks but I'm not that concerned about her. I think nobody would really care that he was gay if he hadn't have married Christina and had kids. My phone has been ringing off the hook all day with gossip. I talked to Christina about it and she's not thrilled, she actually really embarrassed but she's already looking at the bright side. I am a little concerned about Ken, I have no clue how he survives in this world with as few social skills as he has and now everyone is pissed at him.
So, I've gone off and rambled again but the question is how can you just realize that your gay? Is it even possible to not know?