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READ THIS IT COMES FROM MY PSYCHO MIND!


GREEN

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Chaz and I had our first real fight this morning. It made me feel good. I know what your thinking, "Green is crazy." But I kid you not I am happy because it makes our relationship real. I was worried that if we kept on like this for ever we would get bored of the happy relationship routine. I really love Chaz and his family except for his brother, were not there yet. My mom and my friends love him too, granted as long as he brings no unwanted birthday cakes. Even my ex's like him.

 

So this morning I am woken up by a call from Julio my ex. He's coming back tot he states and he was wondering if I would like to meet him for dinner. Now Chaz is a little jealous when it comes to Julio and he over heard us talking. He gave me a really nasty look before walking away from me. I told Julio that I would meet him on the condition that I could bring Chaz along. Julio agreed saying that he wouldn't have it any other way.

 

When I hung up I walked over to Chaz. I was a bit annoyed with him. He knows Julio and I are just friends, and he should never be afraid of me leaving him for Julio. That part of my life is over and doen with. He knows better. I told him all of this again. He still wasn't having it.

 

"If its over why can't he just stop calling here?" Chaz asked, but he didnt wait for me to give him an answer. He put on his coat and headed outside. I followed him without a coat. Oh it was cold.

 

"Because were friends," I told him as I approched him. "He got into his car and took off."

 

Now I know this seems bad, but I know Chaz. I knew he would call ten minutes later, appologizing. Sure enough he did call but this one was almost immediate. This is why i can't be mad at him for too long, he's such a boy. This however leads me to question who is the boy in our relationship?

 

Maybe you guys can answer this for us. We cant figure this out. We both do very manly things and very feminate things. I am obsessed with football and Chaz is obsessed with baseball. I love to see the ballet and Chaz loves theater. I am a good cook but he's the neat freak. I hate sappy movies, Chaz loves them. I love talk shows, Chaz despises them. I love to go to mosh pits. Chaz loves to surf, in cold as hell water.

 

We both like ice cream and long walks on the beach. We both love to smell good (not that anybody likes to smell bad but were religious when it comes to colognes, uh good ones). We both like to bake. We both like to play golf. We both like to drive, (this is one of our big problems). We both hate the color pink and anyone who wears, pink polo shirts, cough cough David, Cough. We both like to make people happy.

 

So can you guys please answer this for us? Maybe you will even say that I'm the man, LOL.

 

GREEN hoping he's a boy.

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Guest Rob Hawes

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First of all I know what you mean about the fight making the relationship seem real - it means you're over the honeymoon period and now that you've stopped ignoring each other's faults you can see if the relationship is really going to last. By the sound of this first fight I'd say there's a good chance you're stuck with each other.

 

Now to this boy-man business. Why does one of you have to be a boy and the other a man? Can't you take it in turns? I'm a little confused with this. In my relationship with my boyfriend there are times when I'm strong and he's weak and there are times when it's the other way round. In many respects he's more feminine, but that doesn't make him any less of a man in my eyes and when I've needed his support I've always had it. We feed off each other and sometimes one of us needs to be weak, so the other is strong.

 

In my view that's all part of a healthy relationship, supporting each other, respecting each other's strengths and weaknesses and never assigning specific roles. When you start assigning roles to a relationship that's when things start to go wrong. You get one who is the decision-maker, eventually the other will begin to feel as if they have no control over their own life. You get one who is the strong one, eventually that person will need support and will look outside of the relationship for it.

 

My advice, for what it's worth, don't assign roles or place labels on each other, just respect each other as individuals and feed off each other whenever you need to.

 

By the way, I think it's natural for Chaz to feel insecure about you seeing one of your ex-boyfriends. He has no reason to be, he has no right to be, but it's still completely natural, especially if it was a guy you were with for a while or someone you really cared about. That's his problem, not yours, but it's definitely something you need to work on together. I've seen too many good relationships destroyed by jealousy.

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You know what, you're right? I like him way too much to care. I know he loves me. Well either way, this is what happens when I thinK way too much about our relationship.

 

GREEN

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Guest Rob Hawes

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You know what, you're right? I like him way too much to care. I know he loves me. Well either way, this is what happens when I thinK way too much about our relationship.

 

GREEN

 

Obsessing about something as important to you as the relationship with the man you love is completely natural. As long as you always remember how important he is to you then nothing else really matters. I wish you both the best of luck - it sounds like you've found something truly special. :D

 

Rob

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What's wrong with the color pink!!!! I mean flowers are pink, roses are pink, baby blankets are pink, Barbi'es car is pink, easter eggs are pink, sweaters are pink...I agree some individuals shouldn't wear pink....lol ok I'll stop...actually I'm not all that fond of pink either! :sheep: I think all the barbie crap killed the color for me, that and my mom always made me wear pink crap when I was little! :thumbdown: So I suppose there really was no point to this entry, but I just felt like typing something. Sorry!!! :lol: But I do think it's pretty cool you and Chaz had your first real "roller coaster" adventure and came out ahead of it. That's pretty awsome. Congrats! :great:

 

- Kaiten

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Hey Green!

 

I definitely agree with RH; there's no reason to assign labels. In fact one of the really great things about being in a homosexual relationship is that you don't have to deal with stereotypes and assigned roles! For me it's important to remain balanced. I'd never give up my indepedence and strength, and I'm naturally protective and "gentlemanly". However, I also love to feel taken care of and, for lack of a better word "pretty". So I don't think I'd ever be comfortable in a relationship in which I'm supposed to routinely be the tough, dominant one. And I KNOW I wouldn't stand being submissive for more than five minutes. I say enjoy the gift you've been given -a balanced personality and a balanced boyfriend!

 

Have an awesome day and take care,

Kevin

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Green

 

In all of we Gays, in my humble opinion, there is part boy, part man, part strong/part weak. The ying and yang balances out. As said, why bother assigning roles or guessing which is which..there is all of that in each of you.

 

Keep communicating. That is what is most important. The glue of a relationship is honest open communication and trusting and loving each other to hear the good and the bad and the ugly and then talking about it and then kissing and smooching and so go be boys and men all at the same time.

 

Give Chaz some slack..your relationship is very new. You were together and lived with Julio a long time.

 

Just keep talking and expressing and kissing:) Kissing is important:)

 

BTW, I agree with you on the color pink....grrr....I don't get it..but oh well, give me blue over pink any time:)

 

I love Blue....yucko as to pink...

 

You are still the coolest and so is Chaz:)

 

Michael

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(I'd like to preface this comment by appologising for completely missing the important aspects of your entry and zoning in on this one)

 

Be Delicious by DKNY. 'nuff said.

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(I'd like to preface this comment by appologising for completely missing the important aspects of your entry and zoning in on this one)

 

Be Delicious by DKNY. 'nuff said.

 

(I'd also like to appologize for spelling appologize incorrectly 14 seconds ago. I'm an ass)

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(I'd like to preface this comment by appologising for completely missing the important aspects of your entry and zoning in on this one)

 

Be Delicious by DKNY. 'nuff said.

 

(I'd also like to appologize for spelling appologize incorrectly 14 seconds ago. I'm an ass)

 

(I'm still failing at spelling it correctly, so I quit. Have a good night :-)

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(I'd like to preface this comment by appologising for completely missing the important aspects of your entry and zoning in on this one)

 

Be Delicious by DKNY. 'nuff said.

 

(I'd also like to appologize for spelling appologize incorrectly 14 seconds ago. I'm an ass)

 

Own it, lol its my favorite! I just got it.

 

GREEN

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Own it, lol its my favorite! I just got it.

 

GREEN

 

Isn't it disgusting how good it smells? I'm pretty sure I came out of my nostrils the first time I smelled it.

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