Jump to content
  • entries
    44
  • comments
    793
  • views
    9,420

How To Build The (Almost) Perfect Christmas?

Mikiesboy

Entry posted by Mikiesboy

921 views

Every year.

I do the same thing every year but I think this one was the worst. Zero Christmas spirit, the tree never really finished, not a card sent and the ones we received never opened, because of this lack of spirit and preparedness, Christmas Eve Day I spent in the kitchen ... baking, cutting, wrapping, until Michael said, 'Enough!' That was at about 10pm or later, I think.

Christmas morning was more of the same. I had boxes to pack, meringues to paint, and we were both stressed before we left to go over Mike's parents for the afternoon and evening. We were snippy with each other and Mike was ready just to stay home.

However we didn't.

We ended up having a lovely time, lots of laughs, great food and drinks. We came home, then after a cup of tea and some talking, we went to bed. Oh Happy New Year!! :)

Boxing Day found us, making cranberry sauce, stuffing, and roasting a nice turkey. Things are so calm today, we headed back to bed this afternoon for an hour or so and then we napped. I got up and basted the turkey, Mike's done the sprouts and me the potatoes. I'm hungry even though we had waffles (again) for brunch.

My heart's desire is to feel how I feel right now, before Christmas Eve next year! I think I need a plan. NO! I know I need one. I need a gift list; I need to plan when to make things I do each year ... fudge, cookies. I will go and buy gift wrap, bags etc. THIS week when it's all on sale. I will put up the tree on a day I note on the nice journal Mike gave me!

I want that peaceful, mostly ready for Christmas, Christmas next year. I do not want the anger and stress I felt this year. I want to look forward to the season.

Okay, that's my idea ... Now i need a calendar and a plan!!!

I feel better already!

  • Like 20

22 Comments

Recommended Comments

Former Member

I am glad to hear that your Christmas has an happy ending. And I wish you that your plan works out next year.

But just in case: Imperfection can be relaxing. Don´t be hard on yourself.

;-)

 

Hugs to you.

Link to comment
mollyhousemouse

tim, I'm so glad that your Christmas turned itself around.

Having a plan is a great idea!  Let someone (Mike) know what the plan is so he can help you execute it.

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

I am glad to hear that your Christmas has an happy ending. And I wish you that your plan works out next year.

But just in case: Imperfection can be relaxing. Don´t be hard on yourself.

;-)

 

Hugs to you.

I just know that if I actually planned things, i could have what I want. The reason i felt so bad is because I wasn't planning. .. thanks Lyssa!!!

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

tim, I'm so glad that your Christmas turned itself around.

Having a plan is a great idea!  Let someone (Mike) know what the plan is so he can help you execute it.

Michael is actually happy to help, if i know what i want doing .. which this year i didn't... he helped me with dinner today and we had a great time together!!

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

Oh, fireworks on Christmas night, eh? A Happy New Year come early :gikkle::wub::gikkle:

Mmmm yeah .. hehe.. Night, morning, afternoon ... LOL.  Nice when the kid aint home... hugs AC xoxo

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Sasha Distan

planning is everything.

 

Hey don't worry, if you get to early Dec 2017 and you find yourself without a plan, just shout, and we'll all pitch in and give you ideas.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Puppilull

Or you simply remember the feeling from after and realize Christmas will happen, perfect preparation or not and it will be fun. Choose the things you really feel give you joy and skip the rest of those musts.

  • Like 2
Link to comment
William King

The only thing I bothered about at Christmas was getting some good food to eat for just the two of us. Oh yeah, I also threw up a garland of flashing lights, but hardly ever switched them on, no Christmas tree. My partner asked me if he could take down the lights, I told him to hang on a bit, just in case friends come round. Don't want them thinking we're totally unfestive! Actually I don't give a damn, Christmas for me is doing just whatever the two of us want to do ;)

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

planning is everything.

 

Hey don't worry, if you get to early Dec 2017 and you find yourself without a plan, just shout, and we'll all pitch in and give you ideas.

Thanks, Sasha!!  I know you're right. I'm not saying I want some Martha Stewart perfect thing, but I just want to have things that I honestly like to do, done before Christmas Eve. I want to be able to just sit down on Christmas Eve, watch a film with Mike, drink some spiked eggnog and know I'm done. Or maybe go downtown on Christmas Eve and look at the decorations and have a meal out, knowing that I'm done.  You know?

 

I've made some notes and added a few things to my Nov/Dec 2017 calendar. I will do this!!

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

My suggestion for a plan would be to do less and relax more. :yes:

Hmm maybe. But there are things that I like to give. So if I want to do that I need to get organized. 

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

Or you simply remember the feeling from after and realize Christmas will happen, perfect preparation or not and it will be fun. Choose the things you really feel give you joy and skip the rest of those musts.

You're right ... and making the stuff i like to make is what gives me joy. So i want to do that, but not on Christmas Eve! So i need a plan. It'll work, if i plan it. Each job i want to do, isn't long but i need to start earlier than i did this year.  I want to be able to enjoy Christmas Eve, rather than having to work through it all. 

Link to comment
Mikiesboy

The only thing I bothered about at Christmas was getting some good food to eat for just the two of us. Oh yeah, I also threw up a garland of flashing lights, but hardly ever switched them on, no Christmas tree. My partner asked me if he could take down the lights, I told him to hang on a bit, just in case friends come round. Don't want them thinking we're totally unfestive! Actually I don't give a damn, Christmas for me is doing just whatever the two of us want to do ;)

I like the decorations and the visiting. But I'm also lazy and easily frustrated. So i think starting early, doing a bit at a time will work. So I'm scheduling dates, to write cards, to bake a couple of batches of cookies, to make fudge and then to wrap it, so it's not a huge panic near the day. Happy New Year!!

Link to comment
Puppilull

But what you described in your original post wasn't simply poor planning, but something else. That lack of joy over preparations should be observed, so you can avoid it next year.

 

OK, Dr Phil... Ehum... Dr Puppi will shut up now. LOL

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

But what you described in your original post wasn't simply poor planning, but something else. That lack of joy over preparations should be observed, so you can avoid it next year. OK, Dr Phil... Ehum... Dr Puppi will shut up now. LOL

I think it's my lack of planning that made it something else. I blame myself for being lazy. I like Dr. Pupp and she never has to shut up!! She gives great advice!

  • Like 1
Link to comment
dughlas

A man with a plan ... just remember not to get upset if things don't go to plan. It's not all the stuff that makes Christmas ... it's a gift of love.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Mikiesboy

A man with a plan ... just remember not to get upset if things don't go to plan. It's not all the stuff that makes Christmas ... it's a gift of love.

I know you're right about that dugh. I'm fairly flexible and i think if i give myself a fair chance it will all work. If something goes astray, well it's because it's out of my hands. I can comfort myself with the fact i tried. 

Link to comment
Timothy M.

Hmm maybe. But there are things that I like to give. So if I want to do that I need to get organized. 

 

I think people who love you and care about you would be just as happy knowing you didn't stress but only did what you were able to. And I don't think you're lazy. If you don't get it done for Christmas, tell yourself they'll be just as happy and surprised in January. 

I mean I get wanting to do stuff you like to make people happy, but I bet none of them wants you to be stressed and angry at yourself for not living up to some arbitrary ideal of what Christmas should be like.

 

Anyway, I'll shut up now. Give Michael a hug from me for taking good care of you.

 

Happy New Year tim  :hug:

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Mikiesboy
I think people who love you and care about you would be just as happy knowing you didn't stress but only did what you were able to. And I don't think you're lazy. If you don't get it done for Christmas, tell yourself they'll be just as happy and surprised in January. 

I mean I get wanting to do stuff you like to make people happy, but I bet none of them wants you to be stressed and angry at yourself for not living up to some arbitrary ideal of what Christmas should be like.

 

Anyway, I'll shut up now. Give Michael a hug from me for taking good care of you.

 

Happy New Year tim  :hug:

I understand. Thanks Tim! You're right, they don't want me to feel stressed. I've got a plan working right now, I'm gonna stick to. It's making me feel very calm. But we'll see what happens by next year! Thanks for the hug, I'll be happy to deliver it!
  • Like 1
Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

Our Privacy Policy can be found here: Privacy Policy. We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue..