Thank you, tim.  You're a good boy. 

As is so very often true, your thoughts illuminate and make me think. Thank you for posting them. 

2 hours ago, Reader1810 said:

tim...

 

 

 

 

 

 

@MichaelS36 Your always being there for tim means a lot.  

 

 

thank you, Reader ... you mean a lot to me too. You have always stood steadfastly by me. i am grateful for that and you. xo

You said it, tim.. You are human and you make mistakes. Plus you are humble in the realisation. 

There is a thing that says  if you really think about it, you learn as much from where you went wrong as you do from when you succeed. Or something like that. 

You have Michael to guide you, and when you share these posts, it helps I think, to give us insight.

Thank you 

17 minutes ago, Defiance19 said:

You said it, tim.. You are human and you make mistakes. Plus you are humble in the realisation. 

There is a thing that says  if you really think about it, you learn as much from where you went wrong as you do from when you succeed. Or something like that. 

You have Michael to guide you, and when you share these posts, it helps I think, to give us insight.

Thank you 

 

 

i hope it gives some insight. That's the idea behind it, to learn from what mistake you've made. It's not easy but it is worthwhile.  Thanks, Boss xoxo

31 minutes ago, BHopper2 said:

Meditation is something more people should do when it comes to self-reflection. I know that is something I lack at times.

 

i am getting better at it .. especially lately, i seem to be able to focus more easily. .. thanks for your comments xoxo

it seems to be a time of reflection. i've spent a great deal of time doing just that this week.

this blog post struck a chord, several actually, with me tonight.  i'll be sharing it with Phil, who if you are reading this and don't know me is my Sir, my Husband.  there are things you mention here that are are the very things i have been working on this week

while i'm sorry that this happened, i'm so very glad that Michael Sir is always there for you, and that He had you share this with us.  thank you Michael Sir for that, thank you tim for your honesty and openness

8 hours ago, mollyhousemouse said:

it seems to be a time of reflection. i've spent a great deal of time doing just that this week.

this blog post struck a chord, several actually, with me tonight.  i'll be sharing it with Phil, who if you are reading this and don't know me is my Sir, my Husband.  there are things you mention here that are are the very things i have been working on this week

 

while i'm sorry that this happened, i'm so very glad that Michael Sir is always there for you, and that He had you share this with us.  thank you Michael Sir for that, thank you tim for your honesty and openness

 

 

 

 

 

 

it is impossible to hide in our relationship's molly. you may get away with it for awhile. if you do, you are being dishonest, with your Dom and worst with yourself. this Life is not for people who wish to have secrets, to live it you need to be honest and to expect the same from your Sir.  that hurts sometimes a lot.

i was angry when it was pointed out to me, i wanted to reply with reasons and excuses. fight for myself.

what would that get me? at least i've come far enough to stop myself there. i made myself think about what Sir said, to see it from His side and my own.  i had to be quiet so i could think ... let the desire to push back settle, so i could let down my defenses enough to seek the answers and truth i needed.

mindfulness, humility, modesty and trust:  those are a sub's truth, and their mindset, it is what we must strive for.

2 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

i was angry when it was pointed out to me, i wanted to reply with reasons and excuses. fight for myself.

 

what would that get me? at least i've come far enough to stop myself there. i made myself think about what Sir said, to see it from His side and my own.  i had to be quiet so i could think ... let the desire to push back settle, so i could let down my defenses enough to seek the answers and truth i needed.

i understand this so well!  

3 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

mindfulness, humility, modesty and trust:  those are a sub's truth, and their mindset, it is what we must strive for.

trust in all things, this is where i stumble most often

this life is so rewarding, but as you said, not for the weak.  you can't do this by half measures, it must be all or nothing.  but being human, we do trip over ourselves.  thankfully our Sirs, Doms, Husbands know we are imperfect creatures, and They are always there to get us back on track. 

Good blog, tim, and good on Mike for leading you to the reflection and discovery of these conclusions. No one is perfect - not Dom, not sub, not anyone. We can only aspire to be more conscieteous in our actions and words. It doesn't matter who may or may not see what you've done or said (or written), subs need to be mindful, regardless of who's witnessing (and believe me, a *sigh* is the last thing a Dom wants to hear...) Doms hold subs more accountable for their actions and words than they do others, which ties in with the complexity of the Life we've chosen and the close relationships we share. As a Dom, I am obvservant and quick to correct when mindfulness takes a turn, but the intentions are good, done out of care. The discourse is always open, for whomever wishes to discuss it.

Yes Sir @MacGreg Sir. Michael said the sigh was no different than if I'd said...yes all right whatever. 

i can see that now. And yes, Sir you are right about who sees or does not.  I am grateful Sir.

On 10/14/2018 at 12:27 PM, MacGreg said:

Good blog, tim, and good on Mike for leading you to the reflection and discovery of these conclusions. No one is perfect - not Dom, not sub, not anyone. We can only aspire to be more conscieteous in our actions and words. It doesn't matter who may or may not see what you've done or said (or written), subs need to be mindful, regardless of who's witnessing (and believe me, a *sigh* is the last thing a Dom wants to hear...) Doms hold subs more accountable for their actions and words than they do others, which ties in with the complexity of the Life we've chosen and the close relationships we share. As a Dom, I am obvservant and quick to correct when mindfulness takes a turn, but the intentions are good, done out of care. The discourse is always open, for whomever wishes to discuss it.

Mac you're correct, as always with all you say. tim did some reflective thinking after the sigh. But tim has changed a lot, much less reactive, moods are very stable, it's much easier for him to hear us now. There's more thinking before speaking. It's a beautiful thing.