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Carlos Hazday

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Twenty years ago today, on December 1, 1998, the Miami-Dade County Commission approved the addition of sexual orientation to the county’s human rights ordinance. The battle many had fought over the past year culminated in victory. A temporary achievement since the hateful Christian Coalition worked to place the decision on the ballot the following year. They lost.

 

For over a year, I helped increase awareness, raise money, conduct outreach, lobby politicians, debate homophobes, and granted countless interviews to the media. I was called vile names by those professing their Christianity often enough my dislike for the religion became permanent. To this day, any mention of Christian values makes me frown.

 

On that fateful morning, my boyfriend and I awoke in darkness and were in front of the Commission chambers by sunrise. With hateful chants as background, I spoke to National Public Radio, The New York Times, the Voice of America, Armed Forces Radio, and who knows how many more outlets in both English and Spanish. My fifteen minutes of fame thanks to the marketing people thinking I spoke well and came across as a level-headed individual. Ha! Seeing my name on the front page of the Times and listening to the NPR report the following morning was a thrill. I still have the newspaper and a cassette of the radio show.

 

However, the most wonderful part of the experience was working with the men and women who made the day’s events possible. Maybe it was not on par with the promise made by the signers of the Declaration of Independence to “mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes, and our Sacred Honor,” but to me it was close. The time and financial commitment made by many propelled us to victory.

 

Liebe Gadinsky stands out amongst all. The mother of two and her husband became friends, and although we rarely communicate these days, I will treasure the time I spent with them for as long as I live. Liebe and Seth were proof that the fight for our humanity was not limited to GLBT community members, but encompassed caring individuals who felt discrimination was unjust.

 

Many of you dislike and dismiss political involvement, I read the comments often enough when I posted a story revolving around a presidential campaign. As an aside, my involvement back then influenced much of what I wrote in that book. I would like you all to remember that without drag queens fighting in front of the Stonewall Inn in 1969 or volunteers canvassing throughout Miami in 1998, most of us would be hiding in the back of a closet too scared to live. Go out, give money, volunteer, make phone calls, write letters; do whatever it takes to elect individuals who will not treat us as second-class citizens.

 

It was the experience of a lifetime and I am grateful I was part of such a momentous event. My participation also allowed me to keep a promise I made when the Anita Bryant-backed forces led to the overturn of a similar ordinance in 1977. I swore that if the issue arose again, I would not remain quiet. I am glad I did not.

 

I’ll close with Margaret Mead’s words: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has”

 

 

 

https://www.nytimes.com/1998/12/02/us/2-decades-on-miami-endorses-gay-rights.html

 

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Thanks for sharing that experience.  The reduction of discrimination will be an ongoing battle as long as discrimination is part of anyone's value system, which unfortunately may be forever.

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That's very cool, C.  i am involved to a certain extent here, i'm a pretty good letter writer when i have something to say.  Do i want to read about American politics.. no. Do i want to read about American politics as entertainment, no, again. No offense to anyone who writes it, or enjoys it. Do your thing.

 

Am i interested in our history, yes. I realize that involves politics, so i enjoyed the article and your blog.

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22 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

That's very cool, C.  i am involved to a certain extent here, i'm a pretty good letter writer when i have something to say.  Do i want to read about American politics.. no. Do i want to read about American politics as entertainment, no, again. No offense to anyone who writes it, or enjoys it. Do your thing.

 

Am i interested in our history, yes. I realize that involves politics, so i enjoyed the article and your blog.

 

Not everyone is cut out for that type of involvement but I believe we can all do out part. Write a letter, make a phone call, contribute a couple of loonies... :)

Whatever it takes just so we don't sit on the couch and ignore the world around us

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30 minutes ago, Carlos Hazday said:

 

Not everyone is cut out for that type of involvement but I believe we can all do out part. Write a letter, make a phone call, contribute a couple of loonies... :)

Whatever it takes just so we don't sit on the couch and ignore the world around us

You cannot b*tch and complain if you do nothing. And you're right. We can all do something, and we should, about all manner of things. Homelessness, LGBQT rights, the rights of anyone!, food waste, Ontario's Premier ... i could drone on, but i won't. See i got a bit political there... why after having his brother for mayor, people voted in his brother as Premier of Ontario, i do not know. Now they complain about his involvement in our city (see i pay attention).  I did not vote for that old fashioned homophobic (you fill in the blanks) mini-Trump.  But yes, i agree... vote, write a letter, let your voice be heard.  

 

Musta been cool to see your name in lights. I think they chose the right man for the job.

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As someone who has benefited greatly from all the changes the last 30 years, thank you. :) We owe a lot to you guys. 

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We are not usually in agreement politically, but I agree that we have to stand up for our rights or they’ll be taken away by a majority that generally doesn’t pay much attention to any minorities.
;–)

I’ve mentioned this elsewhere, but I think it’s important to repeat. In the Bay Area in the ‘90s, the city of Concord passed Domestic Partnership Registration and angered residents who organized a successful recall of several Councilmembers. A bunch of entitled Gay men were outraged and wanted to boycott Concord because the replacement Councilmembers rescinded the legislation. I pointed out that the legislation had to be passed in order for it to be rescinded. Unlike SF, Oakland, and Berkeley, Concord was not known as being an unusually Progressive city and was more like its neighbors in the suburbs. None of the other suburban towns ever considered similar legislation and it was unfair to single out Concord for having made the attempt even if it was eventually unsuccessful.

There are times when it’s counter-productive to make a fuss.

It takes wisdom and experience to know when to fight and when to retreat strategically.

 

Todays fights are to defeat the Sincerely Held Belief argument that allows religious bigots to violate the laws. They only want those laws to protect their form of bigotry. Just look what happens when one of their politicians is jeered in a restaurant!
;–)

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