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Got an email this evening from a mutual friend of C and his sister. His sis isn't doing that well dealing with the loss; neither am I to be honest.  C was a very private person, with everyone it seems, so I spent the last hour trying to decide how much to say and what I shouldn't.  I did say that he was a man I loved dearly, that we had been dating off and on the the last several years, and that he was someone I saw a future with.  I included the last selfie he sent me (G-rated) and the pic of the flowers I took after I put them on his grave, along with the pic he sent me when we first started dating - a time that seems like it was yesterday, even though it was so many years ago.

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Mikiesboy

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that was a lovely thing to do for her ... sending those.  i hope you all can share your love of C with each other.. it may help all of you.. you have all my best hopes and wishes xo

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Fae Briona

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21 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

that was a lovely thing to do for her ... sending those.  i hope you all can share your love of C with each other.. it may help all of you.. you have all my best hopes and wishes xo

 

Got a second email from her. Both of them have made it easier to think of the good memories that I will always cherish.  He had told her he was dating someone in a "somewhat long-distance" relationship, so that silenced the voice of depression that had started whispering in the back of my mind that they didn't call because regardless of what he had said it was all a lie and I had read more into it that was there -- I knew that voice was wrong but...    the self-doubt of depression can be insidious.

 

She was happy to know he was dating someone who loved him enough to be patient and try to help him through the fear of commitment that she knew he had; the fear of being hurt again.

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2 minutes ago, Fae Briona said:

 

Got a second email from her. Both of them have made it easier to think of the good memories that I will always cherish.  He had told her he was dating someone in a "somewhat long-distance" relationship, so that silenced the voice of depression that had started whispering in the back of my mind that they didn't call because regardless of what he had said it was all a lie and I had read more into it that was there -- I knew that voice was wrong but...    the self-doubt of depression can be insidious.

 

She was happy to know he was dating someone who loved him enough to be patient and try to help him through the fear of commitment that she knew he had; the fear of being hurt again.

i am so glad to hear this ... you're likely helping her too ... xoxo

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