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Hope


Wayne Gray

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My husband and I had our first night out in over a year in a physically distanced, but indoor dining situation. We went to a spot we love - a little, intimate place with dark, burnt orangey walls, ferrous-stained concrete floors with these glorious cracks filled with rust, and of course a terrific menu.

The servers all wore masks, and all the patrons did too until served. Between courses we masked up again, and were all more than six feet apart from other tables. To add a bit of security, I've been fully vaccinated, but more important ... it has been two weeks since Kevin had received his first shot. By now he has built antibodies, and studies have shown even with the first of what will be two doses, he's protected from severe illness.

So we took a chance. We went out to support one of our favorite little places, and to just ... be.

We followed all the guidance. And as we sat there, eating our food and chatting, I watched my husband just ... I don't know. I watched him ... god, it's so hard to assign a word to it. I guess "hope" is the closest. Yeah, that'll have to do. It's a simple but sublime thing, hope. But I got to see it tonight in the man I love the most.

We're close. We really are. Even with the variants, even with the mutations prevalent in all RNA viruses, we're close.

Allow for hope. We're almost there.

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MichaelS36

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I hope this change spreads to our surprisingly messed up and seemingly backward country. To say it's frustrating watching GB and the USA getting things done and a smaller country like ours can't seem to get it at all right, is an understatement. 

We go out for walks again now, but we keep away from others ... cases of covid back up in the 2,000s per day again.  Most won't even dare to look at you and smile. Fearful of what? I don't really know. 

They tell us variants are the cause and people seeing others outside their households is a huge part also. 

I want to hope, but it feels awfully futile. 

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rickproehl

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Yes, Wayne that is what we all have is hope glad you had a good evening out.

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Wayne Gray

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On 3/27/2021 at 6:08 AM, Reader1810 said:

This made me smile. Thanks, Wayne. :hug: to you and Kevin. 

Thanks, Reader. It was nice to get out, and do something together in public again.

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Wayne Gray

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On 3/27/2021 at 6:40 AM, chris191070 said:

Fantastic that you were able to go out. Hugs to you and Kevin x:hug:

Thanks, Chris. I know it's not the same everywhere, and it's tenuous here too. Things could change, if we don't obey the guidance and we spike again. But daily, the number of vaccinated folks climbs. I think we're going to outpace the variants (the vaccine is shown to work against those too). Cautious hopefulness. That's what I'm feeling.

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Wayne Gray

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On 3/27/2021 at 8:31 AM, spyke said:

First Date. Yep, that's exactly what this was, a First Date. No, not in the traditional sense of the term, but nothing about our world has been "traditional" for a very long time. You and Kevin got to experience a small bit of normalcy and you so deserve that.  Thanks for sharing. It made me smile and gave me a glimmer of hope that we're on the path that will lead us out of this nightmare.  

Thanks, spyke. In ways, that's how it felt. We're doing something familiar in a very unfamiliar way, so by its nature, it was a "first". It was so nice. Parts were odd, but ... the eating, chatting, and watching others do the same, that was all good.

I really do feel we're on the way.

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Wayne Gray

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On 3/27/2021 at 10:20 AM, Mikiesboy said:

You and me.  We talk often about our lives, our men and the world. When you said you were going out for dinner, inside i just screamed YES!  It was a big thing. All you've been through have been sort of firsts ... you're fully vaccinated and you got to go out for dinner.  i am happy that you guys could do that. 

i wanted it to be good, because while we are so far from being able to, you did it.  And yeah, it gives me hope that one day we'll be able to as well.  xo

Thank you, tim. It was a little bit of a snap decision to go, but I'm so glad we did. I can't wait for you and Michael to go too. I know the time is coming, it is. When it happens we can't really predict, but I know it will.

It was really good. Thanks for wanting that for us. When it's your turn, I'll get to be excited for you too. 🙂 xo

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Wayne Gray

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22 hours ago, MichaelS36 said:

I hope this change spreads to our surprisingly messed up and seemingly backward country. To say it's frustrating watching GB and the USA getting things done and a smaller country like ours can't seem to get it at all right, is an understatement. 

We go out for walks again now, but we keep away from others ... cases of covid back up in the 2,000s per day again.  Most won't even dare to look at you and smile. Fearful of what? I don't really know. 

They tell us variants are the cause and people seeing others outside their households is a huge part also. 

I want to hope, but it feels awfully futile. 

I know it's easy to feel as if it won't end. I know the need to protect our hearts by tempering expectations, particularly when there's so much out there we can't control. Here too, we're depending on people to do the right things to stay in our current "tier". Just a few more average cases a day and we'll slide back down, and we will lose a lot of our loosened guidelines (indoor dining included).

It's genuinely unfair to be some of the ones to follow the guidance, to adhere to the physical distancing rules, and to have others essentially ruin it by haring off and doing their own, seemingly self-destructive things. You can only ask "what are people thinking?" so many times before you arrive at the conclusion: they are not. They are not thinking.

We're all lucky. We have a different administration in office now, and soon the US will have so much supply that we will have capacity to share with our northern neighbor. If it comes down to it, that's what will happen. Persons in our govt have already said as much.

Estimates here put more supply than demand for vaccine in early June. So, if for whatever reason CA can't get shots in most Canadian arms by then, they'll come from the south. It's going to happen.

I know you guys are doing what you need to do, and I'm glad. Stay healthy. We're getting there.

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Wayne Gray

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20 hours ago, Kitt said:

:hug:

🙂

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Wayne Gray

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2 hours ago, rickproehl said:

Yes, Wayne that is what we all have is hope glad you had a good evening out.

Thanks, rick. We all can use a bit of hope, and there's reason to feel it. Yes, we've a way to go, but we're going to make it.

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Kitt

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2 hours ago, Wayne Gray said:

You can only ask "what are people thinking?" so many times before you arrive at the conclusion: they are not. They are not thinking.

 

At some point the question becomes "How much stupid can you fit in one head?"  Unfortunately the answer is A WHOLE LOT!

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Wayne Gray

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3 minutes ago, Kitt said:

At some point the question becomes "How much stupid can you fit in one head?"  Unfortunately the answer is A WHOLE LOT!

You're absolutely right.

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