Well, all I can say is, "it's about time." Welcome to Blogland, Joe.

Sooooo ... would you like one of us to go ask Michael for you? :sword:

Hey Joey!

I'm so glad you finally started up a blog! Anyway, I'm not very good with advice, so the best thing I can come up with is just to ask him if he likes you or not ... or, like Kitty said, we can ask him for you!

And just so you know, if he hurts your or breaks your heart, he's gonna have one angry Buddha after him! :2hands:

*Hugz*

Buddha

Hey Joe,

I'm not very good at giving advice either, but it sure doesn't stop me from trying .

Joe, it sounds like you are rushing things. Are you waiting for him to ask you to marry him? Or are you just waiting for him to ask you to go hang out or go on a date? He could be shy and just waiting for you to make the first move.

If you want to hang out with him, ASK HIM OUT. You're not making a huge committment here. It's 'just a date'. And you aren't really putting yourself out on the line here. He could say no, and you could both move on. Or you may go on a date and decide he's a jerk.

'He loves me, He loves me not' ?? He doesn't know you well enough (yet) to love you. Nor you him. You may be hot for him and have a crush on him, but you won't know it's love until after you spend more time with him.

So suck up some courage and ask him out on a date. Just you and him. Mix a little bit of public and private. Maybe in the private time he'll tell you how he feels about you.

Good Luck

Vic

P.S. - He could just be a player who wants an FB, maybe not ready to settle down with a bf. Or he might not be a committment kinda guy (as well, you might not be either).

P.P.S. - He might think you are cute when you get all flustered, and knows that you are attracted to him. He might be enjoying seeing you squirm. :wacko:

If you want to hang out with him, ASK HIM OUT. You're not making a huge committment here. It's 'just a date'. And you aren't really putting yourself out on the line here. He could say no, and you could both move on. Or you may go on a date and decide he's a jerk.

What he said.

Or you could be really evil and mess with his mind. Sort of casually mention 'this really hot guy who asked you out, but you're not sure if you should, but maybe what the heck, its not like anyone else has asked'. Then change the subject.

Sharon

Joey, Joey, Joey,

Maybe he is just like you. Maybe he is scared to make the first move for fear of looking like a fool. Maybe he is everything everyone has said. Maybe he is really str8 and likes messing with the mind and hearts of gay/bi guys. Maybe he is an alien and you have to be really in love with him before your sperm sample is valuable.

Maybe he just like to tease online (like someone I know) but when put on the spot he is just as nervous as you are. Here is a secret Joey, you don't flirt and tease with people you nave NO interest in (unless you are way old and they are way young and you just want to see the good in themselves ).

Meh, I'm going for the "alien" theory, so fall in love, give him a sample and let him disappear from your life.

Or, you could talk to him, get him to divulge his secret plan, have him become beholden to you, and start to have to deal with all that crap that comes along when "freindships" and "interest" go to a higher level.

Maybe I'm just jaded ...

:king: Snow Dog

Joe -

Relationships don't have to be like soap operas - complicated and dramatic. You know what you want - you want to hang out with him and see if this is going to go somewhere. So tell him, and see if he wants that too.

If you're lucky enough to get into a good relationship someday where your mate looks out for your feelings, then great. Until that day, you are solely responsible for your own happiness. So go do what you need to do to make yourself happy.

Love ya bud,

Dez

Heh, thanks for the comments everyone. The title isn't really how I feel... I know I'm not in love with the guy, I just needed a good name

If you want to hang out with him, ASK HIM OUT. You're not making a huge committment here. It's 'just a date'. And you aren't really putting yourself out on the line here. He could say no, and you could both move on. Or you may go on a date and decide he's a jerk.

Yeah, but that's where my whole insecurity and shyness kick in. I'm really uncomfortable doing things like that when there's a good chance I'm going to get shot down. I knew all of my previous exs would say yes before I asked them out so this is new territory for me.

P.P.S. - He might think you are cute when you get all flustered, and knows that you are attracted to him. He might be enjoying seeing you squirm.

Heh, well I know he enjoys that fact that I'm ticklish. He tends to take advantage of that a lot and finds it fun to torment me.

Sooooo ... would you like one of us to go ask Michael for you?

Not a chance! I dont trust you guys enough not to embarass the living crap out of me

Meh, I'm going for the "alien" theory, so fall in love, give him a sample and let him disappear from your life.

The Alien theory sounds good to me... at least if I got rejected I wouldnt feel so bad about another species saying no

Thanks for the advice everyone

Much as I'd like to give you advice I won't 'cause I don't know enough yet.

Dez says 'Relationships don't have to be like soap operas.'

I think they do, otherwise where's the fun? Just script your own.

Camy

You could try singing from the rooftops...

Hey Joe!!

I'm inclinded to agree with Vic in that you should just try to take the initiative and ask him out yourself. It doesn't have to be as harsh and painful as all that. I mean if you guys are talking about movies say, "hey, why don't we go see that tonight?" (make sure you pick a specific day and not just "sometime"). If you're talking about food or restuarants, "I love sushi, why don't we grab some Friday and then hang out?" That way it's not like you're putting it all on the line. If he's not interested he'll come up with some POLITE excuse and you can take the hint and save your pride. If he is interested (and it totally sounds to me like he is ), he'll jump at the chance. OR he honestly won't be able to make whatever you had in mind, but you'll probably be able to tell from his reaction AND it'll put him in the position of "next up" to do the asking out.

Or you could be really evil and mess with his mind. Sort of casually mention 'this really hot guy who asked you out, but you're not sure if you should, but maybe what the heck, its not like anyone else has asked'. Then change the subject.

Could be fun, but personally speaking this would make me completely back off.

Oh and another thought....Maybe this guy isn't a good phone/online talker.

EXACTLY what I was thinking when I read that part in your blog. I HATE talking on the phone to new people for personal reasons. I'm fully comfortable talking to people on the phone if I've done it several other times. OR if it's completely business related (or for any specific, tangible objective), but I'm uncomfortable at first just calling "to chat" with people I've never talked to on the phone before (or infrequently). I mean I want to do it and I'm getting MUCH better, but I'd really hate for people to form their primary impression of me based on the first couple of early phone calls. Now when it comes to online chat I'm completely comfortable and it's one of my favourite ways to communicate.

Bottom line though, I'd say go by how he seems in person, not on the phone or internet. That's the nearest to the "real" him that you're going to get...I mean if it worked out you wouldn't be dating him so you could spend time with him on the phone or online would you? You'd want him to be physically there, so I'd say go by that.

...and if he's TICKLING YOU!

anyway just my thoughts. Take care and have an awesome day! and good luck

Kevin

I read it all.

You said that you hate it when you get all caught up like this. Sounds to me like you are in touch with what you need to be happy, and that is showing someone how much you have to give them, to love and be loved is what everybody needs.

I would guess that he is a nervous as you are, but his defenses are stronger when he is not face to face with you, he can't see your reaction over the phone, or on line. Push a little when you see him in person next, if it's bad you won't get hurt as much as you would later.

If I was way off here....just shoot me.

Ex.

Same thing happened to me so i just went over to the guys house and he was like "I didn't think you'd actually come" and i just told him "i said i would so i did." Perfectly hidden embarasment.

Got him to stop telling little white lies. I also can't stand it when people don't make their intentions clear.