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If You Love Someone ...


Do you know that axiom, "If you love something, sometimes the best thing you can do is let it go."? I've appreciated it but never considered what it means on more than a superficial level.

Well ... that has changed.

I'm in an open relationship with my husband. I'm polyamorous, and he accepts that. He and I have each other, and we each have a boyfriend. My boyfriend is a super sweet, lovely guy named Matthew. We've been together now for about three years.

While camping with Matthew a couple of weeks back, he shared that he had decided to move back to St. Louis, where he had spent most of his adult life.

It felt like I'd been hit in the stomach with a sledgehammer.

Our rural environment has deeply challenged Matthew. He struggles to find work or keep a job, but most importantly, there is a severe lack of robust mental healthcare here. He desperately needs that. I know all of this.

As I sat there, processing what he'd just told me and trying to keep my feelings off my face, I also realized the deeper meaning of that axiom above.

I know what it means now. So I smiled, put my arm around him, and told him that if that's what he needed to do, he should. He asked if I would be all right, and I lied without a split second of hesitation.

"Yeah. I'll be fine."

I've got him till mid-November, then he's gone.

I'll miss him. But ... I love him. So that's how it has to be.

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Mikiesboy

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I'm sorry, my friend. Truly. xo  💔

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kbois

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The end of any relationship is heartbreaking. It doesn't matter the circumstances. I'm so sorry. 💔

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chris191070

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Sorry to here this x

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lucretiaseeks

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Sad news, Wayne. I'm sorry to hear it.

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lawfulneutralmage

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   Painful! However, you can be very proud if yourself.  

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MichaelS36

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That's very hard. I know. 

Matthew is lucky to have had you in his life, and I know you'd say the same of him.  I cannot imagine having to say farewell to Dan. He has become so much a part of our lives and we, his.  I know this is very hard.  

You've said how much you love Matthew and logically you know you're doing the right thing. That's brave and loving. 

I have no good advice to offer, my friend, other than to take one day at a time. 

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Reader1810

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You’re a good man, Wayne. :hug: 

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