I bin anorexic for going on 4 year all I know is it hell. For me it not bout me weight I wish it were maybe be easier to understand. I not know what gonna happen to me but I tell you man it not worth it you got get whatever help you can.

An if you not eating right it make you crazy like you cant think right or keep no thought in you head.

Please be careful

Maybe I actually am anorexic. I don't really think I am. Yeah, sure, I'm kind of obsessive about my weight. However, given the fact that I am overweight, and have always been overweight since late childhood, I think I have a solid right to be obsessive about my weight. If I were underweight and believed I still needed to lose weight, then I believe I should be concerned. I am currently at 150 pounds. I started getting serious about this when I hit 175ish. Since leaving home, I've gone from 170 to 150. My family is all convinced that I'm anorexic. I also do not intend to stop losing weight until I am sitting dead level on 140. At about 5 feet, 8 inches tall with my body build, 140 is at the upper end of a healthy, normal weight. Yeah, I'm pretty f**king obsessed with it. But, until I have a flat stomach (though I'd prefer that wonderful slight concavity), I will not be a happy camper.

Your family might be reacting the way they are because you look different then when they last saw you. If they aren't seeing you on a daily or regular basis, then any change will look dramatic.

I will say though that you can't trust your own judgement. I had lost a lot of weight (being 5'8.5", I lost 60 lbs in about 8 months), and even at 152lbs when I looked in the mirror, I saw fat, yet my friends saw emaciated :wacko: (full disclosure, this was over 10 years ago and a gained a few of those back ).

If you have a trusted friend at school, ask them to objectively let you know when you look 'no longer fat'. They'll probably have a more objective opinion than yourself or your family.

But as you say, it all depends on your body type. 140 could still be fat for your body type, yet it could also be too thin for someone elses.

Another thing to keep in mind is that some parts of your body might not lose weight like you'd like. For example, say you can pinch an inch on your side/gut. You may feel that you can lose more weight, but if you try, you might just lose more muscle elsewhere (upper body, brain, etc).

So instead of exclusively using weight as your goal, make sure to keep in mind the rest of your body.

Also, you didn't mention how you were losing weight. If you are just watching what you eat, you may want to throw in some more physical activity. If you haven't already done so, you can start doing some strength training for your upper body (hopefully you have one of those free gym thingies at school). Focusing on your chest, back and arms will help diminish your midsection. As well you probably know that muscles weight more than fat.

Being at the gym also gives you the chance to look at some hotties .

Anyhow, good luck with your goals, it sounds like you've made awesome progress as it is. You'll be able to wash clothes on your abs any day now .

Take Care,

Vic

You're not anorexic, Jamie.

Anorexics have a severely distorted body image. You're quoting acceptable weight ranges. Sorry, you don't qualify. Nice try though.

You've lost 20 lbs since September. w00t! w00t! That is no easy task, let me tell you. I get that you're motivated. You have every reason to be motivated......just turned 18, first year uni, good looking dude, on your own away from mom, exploring who you are, looking for some kind of relationship. Damn right you're losing weight. Sounds to me like your head is screwed on just right.

As you've been dealing with weight issues since late childhood, you no doubt have beliefs or paradigms around your physical appearance. Something like "I'm a fat person" or "I'll always be fat" or "Fat runs in my family" or whatever it is for you. Vic's advice to ask a trusted friend who'll be totally honest with you is excellent. (I hate agreeing with Vic. ). There are likely "professionals" (probably kinesiology majors) employed ay the uni's gym. They'll also give you good advice. It's all about diet (nutrition) and exercice. A little muscle toning is never a bad idea. <removes drool from chin>

If only I were you!

Conner

Meh, I get 140 stuck in my head because that's what it was back when I was a tad bit shorter. I do think that's about what I should be at because, regardless of what other people see on the outside of the shirt, I can still grab a nice handful. And I also realize that will not completely go away because it's not technically just fat, it's also a lack of muscle, so I'ma have to do some situps eventually.

I've been doing DDR like mad, and I have to walk everywhere I want to go. The excercise has definitely helped, and I don't eat very much, either. When I do eat, I enjoy my chips and whatnot (because I know if I don't eat some kind of junk food it'll just get to where I go and eat a whole bag of chips cause I have no willpower), but I also try and eat random veggies/fruits/healthy junk.

Hehe, since I've been home I've gained about two pounds. It started with my Grandma's wedding and the day or two before that. Every time I turn around someone is shoving something in my face that normally I would slap them for even suggesting I eat it. Such as... oreo balls, tiger butter, chocolate covered caramels, caramel cake, wedding cake, coffee-ice cream drink stuff, all kinds of terribly godawful diabetic coma inducing things. I'm gonna have to get back on track, but I must admit, it has been an insanely wonderful little splurge.

So yeah, I'm obsessive. I won't count myself as anorexic until I can see ribs or I drop below 140, lol. I have more reasons than just trying to get thin, I also have all those wonderfully death causing ailments that run in my family, and I do have high blood pressure. At its peak, it was 145/85. The lowest I've gotten it was 118/60, which is much, much, MUCH better for me. I must get all healthy so's I can be around to annoy people as a crazy old man. I intend to snipe at the primary school children with a BB gun and then claim to be a war veteran, among other things.

So yeah, I'm obsessive. I won't count myself as anorexic until I can see ribs or I drop below 140, lol.

Hey being able to see your ribs isn't wrong exactly, is it? *looks down and pokes a few ribs* lol, just make sure you are eating and that it is somewhat healthy, I know it is easy to forget when things are crazy, like on campus. There is nothing wrong with 140 for your size, but there is nothin wrong with 150 or even 160 either, especially if more of that is muscle....muscle always throws off the BMI index scales. Don't get too stuck on weight versus height indexes like BMI as they are way too simplified to be accurate, everyone is different.

I have more reasons than just trying to get thin, I also have all those wonderfully death causing ailments that run in my family, and I do have high blood pressure. At its peak, it was 145/85. The lowest I've gotten it was 118/60, which is much, much, MUCH better for me.

This is a LOT more concerning than any weight issue you think you have. Anything above 120/90 is starting to be a problem. I remember when I had my appendix taken out last year, I was so excited (yeah, I'm a freak) that my bp was 165/95, lol. Although I'm usually about 120/80 which is borderline prehypertensive. Anyway, just get it checked every once in awhile and see a doctor if it stays too high. Well maybe go easy on the salty things too....ie chips

Take care of yourself jamie!

Greg

Greg, you are truly the voice of reason.

Ok, I have an idea. Let's all imagine (that means you make pictures in your head) Jamie in perfect health and fitness. Here we go.

The sit-ups have caused Jamie's abs to adopt an ebb and flow look. Yes, just like that washboard my mother use to use.

His shoulders are broader.

When he gives a high-five to a buddy, I notice the tone in his forearm and bicep. His tee moves up sligtly showing a flat stomach with a hint of pec development in his chest.

I catch a short glimpse of his treasure trail.......

Excuse me, I have to go now...