Green

Hey dude! Sorry about the thing. I'm sure thing's will work out for the best.

Hang in there.

Coming

Hey Green, I'm sorry that happend.

Tob

Green, you are already on your way to recovery..good for you!

It will work its way out and things happen for a reason (so I keep being told) and things will work out for a reason..of course, when you are in emotional pain and hurt, that is the last thing one wants to hear..but I believe you will be ok..you are a strong good person and your values and ethics will carry you through the pain out of the darkness into the light....your friends have given you good advice.....and an outsider's view will be helpful.

Hang in there and Hugs and good thoughts and Good Karma sent your way.

Michael

Green,

Not much to say here really except that I'm sorry you are going through this and that I'm glad that you are talking to someone because that is an important step. Feel better soon okay...

Hugs, Viv

Hey Green ... glad you are doing better. Just be ready to deal with some really pissed off friends when you get back, but hey, that's their problem, you have to do what is best for you. As long as you stay safe, take whatever time you need away from 'life' so that you can come back to 'life' and face the realities that are still there.

:king: Snow Dog

Hmm, meant that to be a bit more encouraging

I'm glad you're doing better!

But as far as counting the mentions of "bf"--that's probably something you should do yourself. You may be surprised. There are only 31 more mentions of Julio as "bf" or "boyfriend" (not counting occurrences in the phrase "my bf Julio", which were mentions already counted under "Julio"). Which still only makes it Julio 48, Chaz 78.

But it's not only a matter of numbers; there's an issue of quality as well. What you say about Chaz is uniformly flattering or sympathetic. He's physically hot; he's got a nice family; he's just coming out of the closet, and you cry with him; he cries with you over music; he deals with loud music on the train deftly and gracefully even while sleepy; he's your ever-present sidekick through one misadventure after another, e.g., he's the one you took to your family reunion, and bonded with during that little fiasco....

Julio? Not described nearly so glowingly. There's no physical description of Julio; don't know how old he is, what he does for a living, and nothing about his family; he gets drunk, vomits all over you, makes a horrible smell, and is an embarrassment to you; he's jealous and possessive, and seems to have a propensity to physical violence; even when he tries to be nice and cook a meal for you, you don't want it because he screws up and makes things burn...

I have no knowledge of your real life, but I do have knowledge of your blog. And at least in your blog, Julio clearly comes in as a distant second, both in terms of amount of attention, and the quality of that attention. Clearly, things might be different in real life, which has many more dimensions than the written word. At the same time, it is said that the mouth speaks from the overflow of the heart; what you choose to write about and how you choose to say it reflects what you think is important.

I don't say these things to hurt you or blame you. I'm trying to be helpful, to make you think. Pain can actually be useful if you learn something from it. If I am totally off base about the lesson to be learned, then forgive me. Still, something went wrong, and it would be worth it to try to learn what. NOT for the purpose of laying blame, but to learn to avoid it in the future, or maybe even to fix it.

I agree, lib. Chaz is an angel, and Julio is a human. I've always liked Chaz better, but that's because I never trust anyone named "Julio". I remember being a six-year-old, and my mom had a friend named Julio whom she tried to introduce me to. Usually I was good with adults, but with him, I refused to look at him and cried when my mom tried to make me talk to him. I was a weird six-year-old. Now, this is all just to tell you to hang in there, Green, for better days are coming. I know it for a fact.

I agree, lib. Chaz is an angel, and Julio is a human. I've always liked Chaz better, but that's because I never trust anyone named "Julio". I remember being a six-year-old, and my mom had a friend named Julio whom she tried to introduce me to. Usually I was good with adults, but with him, I refused to look at him and cried when my mom tried to make me talk to him. I was a weird six-year-old. Now, this is all just to tell you to hang in there, Green, for better days are coming. I know it for a fact.

Hmm ...

I think "Julio" is a fine and proper name. A great name in fact . Perhaps there were just some bad people described here, regardless of the cool name.

:king: Snow Dog

I agree, lib. Chaz is an angel, and Julio is a human. I've always liked Chaz better, but that's because I never trust anyone named "Julio". I remember being a six-year-old, and my mom had a friend named Julio whom she tried to introduce me to. Usually I was good with adults, but with him, I refused to look at him and cried when my mom tried to make me talk to him. I was a weird six-year-old. Now, this is all just to tell you to hang in there, Green, for better days are coming. I know it for a fact.

 

Hmm ...

 

I think "Julio" is a fine and proper name. A great name in fact . Perhaps there were just some bad people described here, regardless of the cool name.

 

:king: Snow Dog

You dont trust me,

Hehe, Yeah thats my real name. Thanx for your defending my name Snowy.

Jules (Real Name Julio)