Hey Green, I hope you got over the freaking out part, because it sounds like you guys had a really great date, which I always think is a good sign. Anyway, I hope you find some happiness, because no one should feel sad for too long

Green,

You know how I feel..so go snuggle and spoon and stop freaking and start ENJOYING AND GO, BE HAPPY:)

Now, do the Happy Dance...remember back to the first blog you talked about Chaz as being hotter then Brad Pitt and the nicest guy you ever met...so, what are you waiting for..go, go, and go more and enjoy the first day of the rest of your lives together...

Kiss and hug your Man..and go begin happiness together and may it never end:)

Michael

Chaz and Green

sitting in a tree

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

first comes love

then comes marriage

then along comes CYAN in a baby carriage

err, or perhaps civil union and adoption papers

Jeez guys!

Give Green and Chaz a chance to get to know each other first!

They haven't been together as BF's for a whole week yet and you guys already have then Unionized and mixing colors!

But seriously folks, there's way better reasons for couples to be together than their friends think they are a good match! They've got to figure that one out for themselves.

Green, there is:

No Pressure. :wacko:

No Reason to Hurry.

No Deadlines.

Take it easy, take your time and have lots of fun getting to know each other at the next level.

All my best wishes,

JS

Thanks Guys.

We are going to take it slow. Alright slow as possible. Cyan is just the beggining we have four more colors to create LOL. But really were just not taking anything too serious just yet. I finally know that I want him and he says that he wants me so I am happy about that. Selene is ecstatic about it, everyone is but we dont want to rush into anything, baby steps, you know?

Thanks Green

Green:) Baby steps are the only way to build a solid foundation...and go slow and enjoy each other's friendship, build on the love and build slowly...carefully and let it glow, grow, keep you warm and happy as the days become weeks that become months and then years....one day at a time:) it is what its all about:)

and tell Selene, she is one smart woman:) and thank her for getting you to see the light:)

Of course, we cheerleader section, um, well, I hope we were supportive:)

Michael

Ok, I'm gonna put in my 2

...be aware of the choices you are making...

...One day, you won't get excited every time you think about him...

Many gems in Snow Dog's post above. I'd like to point out one more, based on connecting the items selected in the quote: when the hormonal rush fades, the relationship will also depend on your conscious choice to maintain it, and you have to be aware of those choices. With Julio, the choices you were making, at least the ones you documented in your blog, were putting him second, and you were oblivious to it. In the future, you have to wake up. Know what you are doing. Every day, make deliberate choices that put your boyfriend first.

Spend time with him. Do nice things for him on a proactive basis. He shouldn't have to express disgruntlement and fear of losing you before you order your friends away and try to cook a meal for him. That's too little, too late.

A relationship isn't just about feelings. It is also about the mind and will. You have to be mindful and deliberate in what you do.

This is the crux of what I've been hinting at before.

The ability to sustain a long-term relationship is a state of mind. It's being able to say 'Jeez - this person at times can truly piss me off....but so what? I can still live with that.'

Sharon