Are Old People Sages?
So I conducted a week-long seminar this week. The group was diverse in age, from young people just out of college to older people beyond 65. We were having a discussion and one of the older guys got into it with a younger woman. The topic was unimportant, but the undertones of their debate were.
The young lady stated her opinions logically, based on facts, and was quite impressive. The older man based his on perceptions. His attitude was one of condescension, his overall message being that because he had spent so many more years on this planet he had more life-experience, and thus more wisdom, and that his points were virtually beyond reproach. The reaction from the class showed how little they thought of this attitude.
Most of the older people I know do bring a certain "sage-like" contribution to topics, but it's not universal. I don't think that being around for an extended period of time makes you smarter. It just makes you older. Yet some would cling to this as their talisman. To me, it just cheapens them, as if they're saying "I have nothing else to back up my position, so I'll rely on my age."
Then I think about attitudes here in the US, especially involving sex (gender and the activity) and race. Younger people are so much more open and accepting. Don't believe me, just look at the poll numbers from the last election. That tells met that there's another downside to the "sage" persona. It's the "I'm set in my ways" attitude. The inability to grasp and adapt to new concepts, new ideas.
These things were rolling through my mind in this seminar when one of the other older men chimed in to support the young lady, pointing to her logical presenatation, and pointing out that just because things were "that way" didn't mean they should always be "that way".
And that reminded me that all old people are not the same, and that my own generalizations were just as toxic as those stereotypes used to pillory others who are different.
So are old people sages? Some are. But why do they all have to drive Buicks?
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