how old were you when you realised you were gay?

[West Coast Dude]

I led a pretty sheltered life in my childhood, so I actually didn't know what 'gay' was. I realized I was sexually attracted to guys about as soon as I hit puberty, but I still assumed that I would marry a girl some day. A little bit after that I realized I wasn't attracted to girls at all, and thought that that could become a problem. The wonders of the internet showed me that it was not a problem at all.

 

Ah yes the internet the resource for all of those who are sheltered I'm part of that club too he he

[astroguy]

Hmm. Around 7th grade when I first decided to find out what an orgasm was. I didn't realize that fantasizing about Aladdin (the Disney series was on TV then) was gay until about a month later.

[RobV]

I don't remember exactly. I know that when I first learned what sex was, at age 11 or something, that I wasn't all that interested in the female side of things. But I never had a sudden epiphany like "oh shit I'm attracted to guys". I had a girlfriend at 12/13 but we were more friends than anything. I had no desire at all to kiss her. So that was a big clue. And when watching sofrcore porn on TV I knew the women didn't turn me on cause the lesbian scenes did nothing for me. But I think I told myself at the time "oh you're just bisexual, you can date girls and be normal, no one ever has to know". It was probably at 14 when I discovered all the gay stuff on the internet that I accepted I was totally gay.

[ande52]

I've always had the basic feelings of attraction towards guys for as long as I could remember. Around 6th grade I knew enough to know it was different but I tried to not think about being "Gay" As if I didn't think about it and didn't place that label on me it wouldn't be true. When I entered high school I finally fully accepted it but stayed in the closet for a long time. My family is a religious one and being one of those people was wrong. Anyways now I've reached some semblance on balance in my life and it's starting to get good

[Former Member]

Hmm.. I think it may have been when I was about 6, at my parents (mum & stepfather's) wedding. After the wedding we had a big party with all the relatives and I ended up hanging around with another boy the same age. Later on I couldn't find him anywhere, I searched high and low for him. Eventually I found out he was in his parents' car sleeping. I remember wanting so much to go and lie down and hug him and fall asleep beside him. I guess I had sort of a non sexual crush on him (being six I had no idea what sex was).

I never saw him again after that. I have no idea who is was, probably some distant relative. I still think about him sometimes which probably means it could have been my first experience of the sort. I never felt the same way about anyone else for years.

Then when I reached about 11, I was up late watching this naturist documentary, where I saw other boys the same age as myself, nude. I think that's when it dawned on me that I like boys alot more than girls.

I've never had a problem with my orientation myself (wishing I wasn't gay). Although I've stayed in the closet. I would 'come out' if i was involved in a serious relationship though.