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Awww thanks, Vic That means alot come from one of the most fabulous members here

Hey Viv!! OMG! That's so cool!! uh oh I don't guess I get to say "I told you so" since it is like a delayed reaction in a blog, but I was thinking that Jamba Juice wasn't such a good idea! Aww! Yay for the good day! ...So did you ever get home or are you still trapped up there with your legs crossed and no more fresh music to listen to? Hope you're having an awesome day, Kevin

I lost my pants the other day. It was my brand-new, favourite pair of black slacks. All of a sudden they were missing from my closet, no where to be found in the dirty laundry, and completely absent from the washer and dryer. It was quite a mystery. I was certain that the last time I went out in them I'd managed to return still wearing them. Yet in my home they weren't. After a thorough search, and an eventual decision to wear the white pants instead I gave up and continued life as usual. A few days later they just as mysteriously reappeared in my closet, hanging right where they were meant to be all along! Now I know what you must be thinking, my closet must be really messy and difficult to find anything in. This is not the case. In fact my closet is (if it's even possible) over-organized I've divided all my shirts into about 7 seperate styles and colour coordinated everything within styles from darkest to lightest. Similarly my pants are in a completely seperate section and divided into their various styles and within styles arranged by size and fit. Those pants had a very specific place to be and they weren't there...then suddenly they were again a few days later :wacko: I'm sorry to hear about your pot scraper Maybe you should make your husband buy you a new one! Take care and have a great day, Sharon! Kevin

I didn't know you were a Good Charlotte fan, Joe! I love them! You're right; it's silly for them to play in Tenessee and not Dallas (or Houston ) Have fun! Kevin

So today completely rocked! My luck almost seems to have shifted back to the rediculously positive position that it formerly inhabited. Most recently life hasn't been treating me too gently. Don't get me wrong I've still overall been quite happy, and really if anything in many ways my life's been steadily getting even more pleasant. However, for the last six weeks or so it's literally seemed like everything that could go wrong has gone wrong. I know a lot of people don't really believe in "lucK" in the first place, but I've always considered myself to be a very lucky person, almost to the point that I expected things to break my way if there was any degree of "luck" involved. However, as I said lately life's been making me fight. I almost haven't minded...no that's a lie it's sucked! But I have been pleased that I've "passed" the test and proven to myself that I don't break even when everything seems to be collapsing around me. Anyway today...well today luck was on my side. Good things just kept happening to me with very little effort on my part. I had a remarkably good day at work. Made quite a bit and qualified for a nice bonus. I also got paid for last week today (which obviously had nothing to do with "luck" so much as the way things work, but it was still very nice). I also had very pleasant, fun interactions with quite a few of my co-workers and friends. And to top it all off I got a date. And then to celebrate I took myself out to dinner, got all my favourite "unhealthy" food, and now I'm going to have a nice, long, hot bath, and sleep late.

Exactly! Frankly I'm quite surprised that it even came up beyond a casual mention. To me whether you believe in reincarnation or not is completely irrelevant. The question is basically asking whether you'd pick being gay/bi again, regardless of the practicality of how this would actually work. Most (fun) hypothetical questions aren't really very likely of feasible in the first place. This is sort of your chance. Wouldja? I am deeply grateful that I haven't experienced these things and very sorry that you and others have I certainly don't feel scorned and I've never been beaten up in my life. I've never even felt physically threatened because of my sexuality. I realize that I've been remarkably lucky, but I have grown up/lived in fairly "conservative" areas. I really think the times are changing. What a very awesome, brave, and honest post, Graeme! Rant at you? LOL, you summed up exactly how I feel! (Also meant to be said in a lighthearted sorta way). The only reason I might not want to be gay again would also be because "been there, done that" And I do like trying new things Don't worry about lesbians though, they're the bestest!! Almost certainly bisexual would be my "choice". LOL, from a purely detached perspective "both" is always my preferred choice when faced with more than one good option. Anyway, I did mark yes for this poll. Thanks for starting it for us, BeaST; it's very interesting! Have a fantastic day all! Kevin

Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear Luc had to go to the hospital I hope you feel much better really soon, Luc! Take it easy and do what your doctor tell you Kevin

HAHAHHA! How could someone refuse a line like that?

I definitely agree! Hmm, I wouldn't necessarily be turned off and freaked out. It would depend on the situation and the person, but in general I think some of those are a little obsessive and unhealthy and I can't imagine myself doing some of them. Like: SEVENTEEN: U LOOK AT THEIR PROFILE/PICTURE CONSTANTLY I don't think I would. If I happened to be looking at their picture/profile in general anyway then I might do a "lingering look" and I'd probably smile and think about them a bit, but I doubt I'd obsessively keep checking/looking at it. SIXTEEN: WHEN YOUR ON THE PHONE WITH THEM LATE AT NIGHT AND THEY HANG UP, YOU STILL MISS THEM EVEN WHEN IT WAS JUST TWO MINUTES AGO. VERY unlikely! I can see wanting to talk to them alot, but I can't really fathom missing them after such a short span of time. THIRTEEN: YOU FEEL SHY WHENEVER YOU'RE/THEY'RE AROUND. Hopefully I'd feel happier and more out-going/at ease when they're around. SEVEN: THEY'RE ALL YOU THINK ABOUT. Unlikely, my mind wonders way too much for that. SIX: YOU GET HIGH JUST FROM THEIR SCENT. That could never happen because I have an extremely poor sense of smell, and almost never notice smells unless they're overwhelming (and hopefully their scent wouldn't be overwhelming ) TWO: YOU WERE SO BUSY THINKING ABOUT THAT PERSON, YOU DIDN'T NOTICE NUMBER TWELVE. ONE: YOU JUST SCROLLED UP TO CHECK & ARE NOW SILENTLY LAUGHING AT YOURSELF. IF YOU DIDN'T NOTICE NUMBER 12, Maybe, you are in love ....or infatuated... or you were too dumb to notice it... : Yeah I did miss it and I did scroll up before reading number one, but that's just because I wasn't particularly concerned with the numbers themselves, and I'm the kinda person that would have to look after I read that. On the other hand: FIFTEEN: YOU READ THEIR TEXTS or IMS OVER AND OVER AGAIN. I can definitely see me doing this one. I tend to read things I like and find interesting over and over again anyway (like lines from a story for example). Undoubtedly if it were from someone I cared about there would be an extra emotional investment and I probably would re-read things. FOURTEEN: YOU WALK REALLY SLOW WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM Well only if we were like on our way to our cars to go our seperate ways or something (and neither of us were in a hurry). ELEVEN: WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT THEM, YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER AND SLOWER AT THE SAME TIME I can definitely see feeling this way. TEN: YOU SMILE WHEN YOU HEAR THEIR VOICE. Of course! I do that with everyone I like anyway, including just friends and family. NINE: WHEN YOU lOOK AT THEM, YOU CAN'T SEE THE OTHER PEOPLE AROUND YOU, All YOU SEE IS HIM//HER. Well that would be nice! I've certainly never experienced that, but I hope it happens. EIGHT: YOU START LISTENING TO SLOW SONGS, WHILE THINKING OF THEM I'd almost certainly do this! I always try to build a little scenario in my head for practically every song I hear anyway (even the ones about "bad" love/breaking up. Or the ones that aren't about love per se anyway), so this is almost a given. FIVE: YOU REALlIZE THAT YOU'RE AlWAYS SMILING TO YOURSELF WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT THEM. Well yeah! Again, I do that with everyone I like already. FOUR: YOU WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR THEM, OR ANYTHING TO SEE THEM. I think that's the way it should be if you're in love with someone.

I thought this listing of categories was okay enough as far as lists of categories of people go. I mean obviously a list like this won't begin to delve into the complexity that is each individual. To do that you would need a different category for each person. But actually I thought it was okay. Goodness, this is the first time I've seen the Tyra Banks show (although apparently a friend of mine actually appeared on it before we met!). Anyway I have to say I didn't particularly like Tyra (seemed fake), "realty check Asian boy" (can't remember his name, but he seemed too combative and like he was projecting his stuff on Jimmy), or Jimmy (who, IMO, should not have said some of those things about his bf and their relationship, especially on TV). Justin was the most sympathetic one, IMO, but I wish he'd come across as a little more confident. Anyway, it's no wonder they broke up. Personally speaking, and this is all just my opinion about what I saw, I don't think the race thing is that big a deal. At least it doesn't seem like that big a deal to me in my community. I've had quite a few friends of all different races who almost exclusively dated people of a particular other race, or at least had a strong preference for it. I really don't think it's that big a deal. It's fine to have your preferences, and none of these people (or the other cases I've witnessed) seemed to be descriminating against people of any other race; they just knew what they wanted. As for other people descriminating against them...well I haven't really seen that either. Maybe it's because I really couldn't care less and think it's fine, and convey that to the people I associate with (so thus they wouldn't make a politically incorrect comment like that in front of me), but like I said I really haven't seen any gay people too upset by interracial gay dating. As for my own preferences...well I would have a problem with myself if I removed any race from my potential dating pool. Though I definitely do favour Asian boys (I've recently developed quite a little fascination/fetish with them ), and I've always (for as long as I can remember, even when I was a small child and before the attractions were at all sexual) had a HUGE thing for blondes and redheads. Well said, James!!!

Awww thanks, CJ! LOL, oh my gosh! I'd better do my best to keep things hopping around here before everyone starts sporting flannel to formal events! :wacko:

HAHAHA Thanks Tob!

**Warning spoilers for the move "Evening" ahead. So there's so many thing I'd like to write about that have happened to me since my last entry. Unfortunately as is often the case I feel less inclined to write about actual narrative events and more eager to write about feelings, situations, and philosophical ponderings. I went to see the movie Evening tonight. It was AWESOME! Just the kind of movie a like - a nice, long, weapy chick flick Anyway basically the movie is about this woman who's old and dying and her daughters and a nurse are taking care of her and she's somewhat delirious and she keeps dreaming/having fantasies about her life when she was a young, 20-something girl. It was all about the choices people make, the courage to go after the things you want instead of the things you think you should want, and the wisdom to know that in the end often it doesn't really matter anyway. So there were these four central characters: Ann: the old lady currently flashing back, and the "central" character Lila: Ann's best friend and Buddy's sister who at the time of the flashback is about to get married Buddy: Lila's younger brother Harris: The guy all three of the above are in love with. He's slightly older and he's the son of one of Lila and Buddy's family's servent. He's now become a doctor. Then in the "now" there's also Ann's two daughters: Constance: the older daughter who seems to have the ideal suburban life Nina: her younger, more "drifterish" kinda daughter Anyway Lila's been in love with Harris since she was 15. Buddy's pretty much been in love with Harris since the same time, but he's also possibly in love with - and definitely fixated on - Ann, whom he met in college. Ann comes to their little paradise town to be Lila's maid of honour and of course she meets and falls in love with Harris. Harris doesn't return the romantic interest of either Buddy or Lila - though he cares about both - but he does fall in love with Ann. So Buddy is trying to convince Ann to help him convince Lila that she should dump Carl and pursue Harris. Buddy's probably in love with Harris himself but he hasn't really worked that out properly yet. Anyway between the two of them they basically do plant enough doubt in Lila's head to make her confront Harris about her feelings and offer to leave her fiance' for him. Unfortunately, Harris doesn't feel that way about her. Anyway, it's a rough time for Buddy because his sister is marrying Carl - whom he just knows won't make her happy - and the other two objects of his affection are pairing off themselves. So he's drinking alot and generally making bad choices (while simultaneously being completely adorable and lovable). Finally, the night of the wedding after Ann and Harris' relationship comes to light he gets really drunk and kisses Harris. Later when he and Ann are talking about it he says that it doesn't make sense to him because he's not "that way", and Ann says that wouldn't matter even if he was. That's when he takes the opportunity to produce a very seemingly pointless note that she wrote him like 5 years ago when they were in school. He's carried the note with him everyday since she gave it to him. He makes a very poignant offer to her of them spending the rest of their lives together, having kids, and laughing and singing (he writes - or tires to - she sings, and they both have a good sense of humour). She of course turns him down. Later that evening Buddy, Ann, Harris, and the rest of the wedding party are standing of the cliff jumping into the water. Buddy has of course had way too much to drink and Ann tries to stop him from jumping in, but he does anyway. He never surfaces so Harris and several of the other guys jump in to look for him. Then he comes strolling up and makes a dramatic entrance because apparently he was just playing a joke on them. This infuriates Ann and she proceeds to tell him off. She basically tells him he needs to leave her alone, to start writing something besides a first sentence for all of his novels, and "kiss men if you want to", but to just get a life of his own and stop dreaming about things he can't have and doesn't really want. Then she storms off with Harris and they go make love in a forest cottage. So Buddy's understandably upset about all of this and he starts running through the forest in a daze. Finally at the height of his dispair he runs out onto the little country road that runs through the forest and gets hit by a car. He does get found by the rest of the wedding party before he dies, but he dies anyway and the reason seems to be because 1) they can't find Harris, who's a doctor (because of course he's off making love with Ann). And 2) because someone takes the note Ann gave him out of his hand (which to me symbolized that he died because he let go of that which gave him strength: his dreams). So anyway at first I thought, "well Grrr, how irritating that the (possibly/probably) gay character ended up not only dying, but dying lonely and sad." Then as the movie went on it occured to me that the point wasn't that he was gay and that's why he was destined to die unhappy. The point was that he was denying his true nature. He was unwilling to accept the truth (that Ann wasn't in love with him, that Harris didn't love him that way, and that he was probably gay). He just kept dreaming of things that could never be. It wasn't that he was a gay character, it was that he didn't know how to pursue the life he wanted/needed. Basically: He didn't die because he kissed men; he died because he didn't.

Sorry you're not well, Luc I hope it gets better soon On a side note: it's REALLY hard to shift gears from anywhere but the driver's seat in my experience. I've often tried to teach other people how to drive, and quite often they need help shifting. I can almost never do it for them from the passenger's side. True enough it may be in part because they seldom "cooperate" properly with the clutch, but still the whole angle is really hard. And releasing the park break from the passenger's side! :wacko: Take care and get well, Kevin

I would have to disagree; it seems to me that a sex scene can be hotter in a certain context. For example Owen and Aiden's first time in the hotel is my favourite Dom sex scene, and I thought it was really hot. Had I read exactly the same thing but not known "who" Owen and Aiden were, I'd have probably found it considerably less enticing. True enough it was really well-written, hot, and sweet in general so I'm sure I'd have still enjoyed it, but having it be about Owen and Aiden and their first time made it SO much better. I'm wholeheartedly with Conner on this one; I can't imagine skimming over any story I was reading recreationally. When I read a story I read every single word - carefully usually, and I often stop to ponder. The whole concept of skimming is completely alien to me. It's definitely because I like to savour what I'm reading, although true enough it may be a touch of OCD too. I can't really skim anything. When I was in school I seldom studied the textbooks because I felt weird if I skipped around instead of reading each chapter front to back, every word. Even now if I'm going to read anything, no matter how boring, I'll either ignore it completely or force myself to read the whole thing. (when I say the "whole thing" I actually don't necessarily mean that I'll finish everything I start reading - often I don't - but I'll read everything up to whatever point I stop at). It would be hotter if it were Owen and Luke instead. Or perhaps Jude and Luke! Anyway, I'm enjoying ITFB, but personally I'd love to see a few hot sex scenes. Take care all and have a great day! Kevin

LOL, whaddya know I am an example of someone who uses italics! Personally, I definitely don't think we can attribute this to something I picked up from Dom, or even GA in general. They've always been a part of my writing style. Italics definitely add clarity and I really appreciate having them there. I think many times people take completely different meanings from the same sentence, because everyone has a different subjective outlook on things. This is great, but adding italics can ensure that the reader reads something the way the author intended it. Personally, I'm a great fan of: adverbs, heavy punctuation, and italics, to increase the clarity of a sentence. I have absolutely no problem with them "cluttering things up", if they serve to distinguish how something is meant, and where the slight pauses in a sentence are meant to be. Out of some reverence for literary conventions I scale these things down a bit in my formal writing - but not very much. I had an identicle conversation with a group of friends about a month ago. The song "We Didn't Start the Fire" came on, and some how we got on the subject of changing the meaning of the sentence by emphasizing a certain word. For example: We didn't start the fire = Someone else did, but it wasn't us (it may also be insinuating that someone else did). We didn't start the fire = I SWEAR! We're innocent. (Seems to be coming from a more defensive stance) We didn't start the fire = We may have fanned it a bit, but we definitely didn't ignite it. We didn't start the fire = ...but you remember that avalanche a week ago? This has often happened to me! I'm always like "Whoa! I can't believe he said that out loud!" then it's like "...oh wait, he didn't" -Kevin

It was a painting of their park/hang out place with the scarecrow hanging from the tree. What detail? HMMM how life-like it all seemed. One of them had accused the other one of stealing something. a stupid faggot He was really smart! He was indeed blackmailing Aaron, and he also ended up getting killed at the end. Smuggled the dog in, when she found it they went out walking the streets trying to find it a new place to live. Easiest one! OWEN, of course! Thanks for the fun quiz, Menzo Take care all and have a great day! Kevin

Or perhaps she was just expressing her View

Yes, I own (and love) Catwoman. I've always been really irritated that it got such bad reviews! I thought it was fabulous! In fact it's one of the only movies in the last few years that I've gone to see more than once in theaters (I think I went 3 times) Do you own a bell?

No, but have an awesome time! The person below me likes oranges ALOT!

He does sound hot!! This could be your chance! So I haven't been able to be online much the last week. Can anyone tell me how the story ended? Or is it still in progress?

Hmmm, well I'm not sure which (if either) is supposed to be the one that determins. I guess on your dominant hand, but that's just a guess.

Yeah, back in the day they used to force leftys to be rightys. I still doubt seriously that she really knows more left-handed than right-handed people, but it's undoubtedly the case that she knows more. You didn't tell me you were working at Starbucks, Matty! I've been totally digging you guys' herbal teas lately! I agree about the stats for things being inflated and tossed around too, but just to point out it can easily be said that eating disorders claim 100,000 American lives (or more) each year. It all depends on what you determin to be an "eating disorder" and what you determin to be the cause of death. If obesity is included as an eating disorder (which it usually is) and if weight related deaths are taken into account (heart disease, cancer, stroke, etc.) then I'm sure that's a completely reasonable, if not conservative, estimate. That's nifty! That sounds like such a good book! I'd love to read that sometime. I'm going to check it out! Consider it done. Anyway personally I'm right-handed, and the oldest (and only) male Take care and have an awesome day all! Kevin

Hi all, Due to the recent discussion of these gay associated traits on the forums (see The Science of Gaydar and Lefty's) I thought it would be fun to take a poll. Supposedly gay people are more likely than the average population to be left-handed and have counter clockwise hair swirls. Gay men are more likely than straight men to have index fingers closer in lenght or longer than their ring fingers, and supposedly the chances of a boy being gay rises with each older brother (born to his mother) that he has. So what are your results? I'm right handed, but mildly ambidextrous. I don't know my hair swirl (yet), my ring and index fingers are very close in length such that I can't really tell which is longer (maybe I'll measure eventually), and I'm the first and only boy born to either of my parents. **Theoretically it would be best if only gay males responded to this poll, but please do post your answer if you're female, straight, or bisexual. Take care all and have a great day! Kevin