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Well said, dude! No complaints out of me

Oh it definitely works wonderfully for some couples; I just have a feeling it's not what I'd want for myself. Also, the couples here mostly seem to have met here or both been members prior to being coupled. That makes for a different dynamic than introducing your boyfriend to the place. I could be wrong but I get the impression most members who have boyfriends don't have them here at the site and probably prefer that. Although I'm just speculating, maybe they do wish the bf would join.

Perhaps this makes me sound selfish, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to share that hobby with him. He could read my stories, in fact I'd want and expect him to, but as a way to share that part of me with him. I wouldn't want him lurking around GA every time I turn around I believe in couples having some hobbies they share and some they partake in separately, and yeah I'm pretty sure this would be one I'd like to do separately. On the other hand it'd be really cool if he shared my hobby for partnership card games. I know this probably sounds odd to someone who doesn't play them, but I always felt really connected to my regular partners and the way we could read each other felt really intimate...I'd like to share that with him. -Kevin

Well, my girls (lesbians) got married, but they did use rings. They did have a special part of the ceremony during which their hands were tied together with a special hemp like material that symbolized...well something but I can't remember I know of several other couples, whom I'm not as close with, who are essentially married, but AFAIK they did do the ring thing, or else I just don't know their stories of doing something different. The more I've been thinking about it lately the more I think I want to exchange some kinda special locket/pendant (or maybe half locket/pendant) thingy with my hubby to be. I don't care for rings either, but I like wearing eccentric things around my neck.

Awww thanks, Ieshwar!

WOW! Congrats on the new avatar, glomph! I love it

That was very funny! Don't you ever worry you won't know him when you meet him? *shrug*

Cute pic

Hey James I very briefly had a boyfriend named Ryan, but it didn't work out. LOL, yeah they're a trip sometimes

Thanks Sharon! Thanks Zilar...but potatoes? YIKES! LOL, Gabe! I agree with you about the ads! I've seen some pretty crazy ones before trying to target the audience that reads a story. In many ways it could be a game just trying to figure out what a chapter will be about based on the ads Google shows Thanks Sharon LOL, well you guys just got me thinking and I realized if I wanted to be sneaky I could change the chapter title of one of the upcoming chapters! Good points! I guess that does 'date the story' a bit. While it would certainly be nice if people were still reading it in a couple of decades when Alex and Jeopardy are more or less forgotten I wasn't really counting on or expecting that. Should that happen (lol, yeah right!) I hope hotchik is right and it just adds a bit of flavour from the period. On another note, I thought it would be fun to debate Mick's feelings for Aaron since Tiff and Gabe (and others) seem to hold opposite views. So, to that end, I went back and edited the first post of the thread to turn this thread into a poll. Vote now and let everyone know what you think! -Kevin

Thanks! LOL, I think Ben just realized he was going to have to help Aaron out. Awww Wow thanks, Tiff! I really appreciate those comments! Thanks Hotchik! BTW, I totally agree with you about perfect, overly poetic and polished conversations of this nature. Well, I certainly don't want to give away any spoilers or anything, but that's how I would interpret things at this point as well. Well thanks, I take that as quite a compliment! As I've said, I think all my characters have a lot of 'me' in them. Aaron and Ben both certainly do; however I consider them both quite different from me in some major ways. One of the ways that Aaron definitely is similar to me is that I often think one thing and say something else. Like Aaron I'll occasionally say something sarcastic in conversation, but more often I'll merely think it and hold my tongue. Thanks Thanks, Niels! And congrats on being the first male! Thank you very m uch Dravenn! I appreciate the comments. I wonder what your suspicions are about Mick. I look forward to you telling us what you were thinking and whether or not you were right! Hehehehe The whole Mick thing was where I expected a lot of the speculation and debate to come into play! Awww, sorry Niels, as said unfortunately I have been pretty busy I'll try to get back on track though

I wanted to wish Robbee (Slaveboy) a very special and wonderful 17th birthday! I know you probably won't read this (and I left a brief message on MSN anyway), so I won't bother getting extremely poetic (read: 'verbose'), but I still wanted to mark the day. Have a good one, dude -Kevin

Err, I don't mean to insult your fingers in any way, and I'm sure they're lovely, but when put like that I don't think many people would really say that it's a good thing on a guy either. Yeah, I kinda feel pressured too, but as I said in the Perfect Wedding thread I don't really want them either.

Hi all, Often the funniest things are the things which happen in real life. That's why I thought it would be a fun idea to create a thread for us to recount the amusing stories that had happened in our own lives. I've got lots, but here's a recent one: I went back to Louisiana several weeks ago to visit my very good friend Amanda. When I lived in the city we were in we used to go out weekly for margaritas and cheese dip and vent about our weeks and chat about our upcoming plans. Anyway, naturally when I went back to visit we relieved the old 'glory days'. Well, after leaving the restaurant it was mutually decided that we'd enjoy a bottle of wine once we got back to her house. Only problem was we needed a corkscrew. So we stopped at a drug store to pick one up. As we were checking out the following exchange occurred: Cashier to Amanda: "Oh those shoes are so cute! Where did you get them?" Amanda: "Thanks, I love shoes and these are so comfortable too!" So the cashier smiles and looks expectantly at her waiting to find out where she purchased these delightful pumps. She says nothing. The stockboy glances at her, evidently curious about her lack of response. She still says nothing. Finally I grow impatient and uncomfortable Me: "Well aren't you going to tell her?" Amanda: "Tell her what?" Me: "Where you got the shoes" Amanda: "I love shoes," she reiterates simply. Finally realization dawns on her and she starts laughing. As she looks at the three of us, all quite confused, she explains that the name of the little boutique where she purchased them was in fact "I Love Shoes".

I'd say that all depends on the guys in question, what they each want out of the relationship, and their unique dynamic. ...I don't guess that's very helpful though is it?

...would he happen to have a have a brother?

I stayed up till 5am chatting with my best friend (Scott) last night/today. I was really nice, we hadn't had a chance to hang out just the two of us and really talk for several weeks. FF ('former friend' from previous entires) seems to be interested in reconciling. Things have been warm and pleasant between us of late. Nevertheless, while I'll continue to be nice to him, and even welcome his presence among our mutual friends and shared activities, I don't think I have any interest in returning to a close friendship with him anytime soon. Andrew (ex-boyfriend) is behaving as oddly as ever. Since we first broke up he's been breathing hot and cold, trying to get back together then ignoring me, then randomly calling/texting me...then ignoring me again. I really don't care. I mean I do care, about him that is, but I really don't care about the situation. I wish him well, but I'm not interested in getting back with him, or even with having a close friendship with him, so my approach has just been to be nice and friendly when he contacts me, then forget about it until he randomly decides to contact me again. I don't even particularly care much because I know how complicated his life is right now. So whatever, I'm willing to be there for him sporadically when he decides he needs it. My gurl Amanda is going through a rough patch with her girlfriend. They'll probably break up this time, which is weird given how much they've been through and NOT broken up. It sucks because it's her birthday soon. She mentioned that all she really wanted was for 'girlfriend' to send her flowers at work and spend the day with her. Unfortunately I won't be able to spend the day with her, but I've decided I'll send her flowers at work. I know it's not the same thing, but I really think it'll make her happy anyway. I got to hang with John yesterday (he and Scott and I were hanging out then he went home and Scott and I kept chatting for several hours). It was awesome; I've really missed that guy. I've always thought we were sort of kindred spirits. Which is why I didn't mind that he'd essentially disappeared and spontaneously decided to go to Canada, Mexico, and the East Coast. I didn't mind because I think one of the things we share in common is a free-spirited, spontaneous attitude, as well as a love for traveling. So he can disappear and leave the country if he wants to...I'd do it occasionally myself if I could get away with it, but I'd piss everyone off, lose my job, and fail my class...so it's not really a good option. My boy William has a new boyfriend (big surprise ), and he's doing pretty well. He's working on getting his real estate license. I've really missed him as well. He now lives in a suburb of Houston that's a fair drive away from where we all usually hang out. So I was delighted when we ran into him and the new bf at the pride parade last weekend. Pride parade/last weekend Speaking of the pride parade it was an interesting evening to say the least. I ended up marching with a big sign that said, "Being Gay Is The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me" and then the gay symbol with the two interlocking 'boy circles' (you know the one). Had a delightful time! Things got odd from there though. Scott and I were going to go out with our friends R and S. So we met up with them then I got a call from my friend Paul. Paul wanted to meet up with us all so we met him. Anyway, at one point R, S, their friend Frank, and Scott were all out on the balcony chatting and I was in the kitchen with Paul. Now Paul was very drunk...and horny. He tried to hook up with me. I wasn't interested (sorta all goes back to that no sex or dating friends thing)...then he DID suggest a relationship. I'm not sure if he just thought he'd have better luck that way or what, but again I reiterated that I didn't think it would be a good idea. He seemed okay with it (he was really drunk after all). Next we were all going to go out, but Scott couldn't get into the club because his I.D. had expired, so we parted with R, S, Frank, and Paul and I took him home. When we got home Luke informed us that one of Scott's tires was flat. Turned out it was VERY flat. Now if anyone thinks Scott is going to change his own tire then you've clearly not met Scott (well I don't actually expect that any of you have met Scott anyway). The average 8th grader is literally larger than he is. He's also wholly inexperienced with such matters. Thus the tire changing fell on my shoulders. After finishing that up and briefly going in to clean up I discovered that my boys had been neglecting their dishes and countertops in my protracted absence (I've been busy). A dirty kitchen just irritates me and I knew that they weren't going to be doing much about it anytime soon so I cleaned up for them. By the time I was done Scott had received a phone call from his mom, which was weird given that it was after midnight by this point. Naturally I was concerned so I didn't want to go home until I found out what was wrong. In the meantime Luke persuaded me to help him back for his week-long trip to Canada. The guy has major dependency issues. I don't know if he was feigning incompetence to get me to help him (I honestly really hope he was), but he'd originally planned to take all of two shirts, and NO SOCKS with him on this week-long excursion. Our conversation went something like this: "Do you think I'll need socks?" he inquired. "Yes," I responded. "Really?" he pressed, evidently in disbelief. "Well how long did you say you'd gone?" I asked for confirmation. "A week," he answered. "Then yeah, you're gonna need socks," I stated. "But I have underwear," he pointed out, thinking that apparently this compensated for the lack of socks. "Yes, but that doesn't really change the fact that you'll need the socks," I re-emphasized as I folded the extra shirts I'd insisted that he bring then refolded the two bunched up one he'd originally packed on his own. "But they're all dirty," he said sadly. "Well you should have done laundry," I pointed out exasperated. "I did...that's why I have the underwear"

LOL! Good for you, Mike!

Ohh, I've been wanting to experiment with girls too! We should get a nice, hot girl and all have a wicked evening together! ...now that I'm done be lecherous, I hope everything works out, Jamie! Sounds like you're doing pretty well and making progress for the most part Take care and good luck Kevin

Cool!

I didn't know you were interested in ASL, Eric. My best friend is an interpreter for the deaf. I've learned some of the basics myself. Deaf culture is very fascinating. Best of luck to you -Kevin

-The parents of Chase, Eric, and Jon! I'm interested in knowing more about them -Steve and Wilde's relationship

I don't think people necessarily find their best friend 'attractive' in the way that we think of with regards to sexual attraction or romantic attraction. Obviously their best friend is attractive in their personality or interests or something, but not necessarily in the other, and I think that other is necessary if there is to be the 'falling in love' thing. But yeah, I agree that there's that general tendency precisely because you do like and care about the qualities that you best friend posses. Personally I think my romantic problems would be solved if I'd only fall in love with my best friend. He is gay and has indicated on previous occasions that he'd be receptive to a relationship. I love him very much, we have a lot in common, and I honestly think we'd do the happily ever after thing if I were in love with him...but I'm not. That's a good point, but for me at least I'm naturally more inclined to developing friendships with other gay guys. I find them more interesting and easier to relate to as a general rule. So while randomly my someone might only bear a 10% chance of being gay, I think the very fact that he's my best friend makes him more likely to be gay in the first place. A sad, but very astute and accurate point Take care all, Kevin

I'm sure you'll find someone nifty, Gabe Awww LOL, then for you the perfect guy wouldn't be perfect would he?

Oh my, how sweet and sad!