Hey Round One. Several posters have defended chat. I won't. It's not for everyone. Most of the time, I really can't get into it, but I'm a semi-reformed hermit. To me, it's like watching puppies playing, nipping at each other, most of the time. Sometimes, I like playing in the pile, and sometimes, I want to bite their muzzles. I used to wrestle with my nephews, too, but I'd let them win. My sister wouldn't have forgiven me for bloodying up the carpet with the little buggers.
If chat doesn't appeal, take a look at the forums. Read some of the stories. PM somebody who made you think. Fact is, there's a lot of diversity here, with plenty of things to spend some time doing, and some excellent folks.
I don't know what you witnessed in chat. It might have been anything. But it might have been taken out of context, and intended as humor.
For those immersed in social media, they sometimes don't consider that inflection and a smile don't always come across through the written word. I'd urge you to question, via PM, anyone who makes a degrading comment, to find out their intent. The person might not even realize...
Take care,
rustle