You're absolutely right Kitt. this is demeaning and rude, but it's not a problem of the language used to insult you, but of the people doing the insult. My father is Italian, and although I understand Italian I don't speak it very well. My cousins always speak Italian with a local accent only they can understand when they talk about me, I can only guess it's nothing nice they have to say. Lucky for me, my father always throws one of his famous Italian temper tantrums, when they are like this. I like Italian, even though my family sometimes sounds as if they would have a huge fight when they are only talking.