sorry but I have to laugh at this... DC went through a period of about a year where, I swear, he got daily spankings. But it was not the first option, nor the second. I just have an extreamly hard headed son.
We had a chart. We made the chart together under the guidance of the therapist. DC picked most of the punishments 'so they would be relavent to him and so that he would not feel *I* was punishing him but that 'he was earning consequences for actions he preformed'. Granted at the top of the list was time out, sent to room, no telle, no bike, things of that nature. In the middle there were more severe punishments. But at the bottom was this line: "These are things my father will not tolerate: lying, stealing, and leaving without permission. If I do these things I will earn a spanking of not less than five spanks with the belt on my bottom."
He knew it was there. He helped to put it there. He broke that one rule more often than any of the others. He would take his spanking and do it again the next day. I was frustrated. I told the therapist. The therapist talked to him. You know what he said? "Those things I know makes my dad mad, but I can't help it sometimes. So I put the one thing there that he could just 'get out of the way quickly' so that the punishment would be over and I could go out the next day."
After that conversation that bottom rule changed. He would get 7 SUNNY days of house restriction for the first infraction and begin loosing other things with each consecutive infraction. In less than a week he was on a month's restriction and had lost everything in his room... did I mention the boy is hard-headed?
Needless to say his behavior has now changed. I don't know what changed it. It surely wasn't my punishing him. Maybe part of it was maturity. A lesson learned.
now on to the original topic: censorship
I do not believe in censorship on any level. I do believe it is the parent's responsibilty to govern what their children watch, read, do on the internet. HOWEVER, I can understand why some people believe in censorship.. it's because parents are not doing their job. However some of it is rediculous. For example, we went to a public showing of "Grease"... yes the one with Sandra Dee and John Travolta. The guys showing the film stated that they had 'skipped one scene due to parental objection'. I was trying to figure out which scene had gotten skipped... I mean there was the coach's speech with 5 or 6 4 letter words, and the word "pussy wagon" in the song Grease Lightning... and then there was the word "virgin" in the Sandra Dee song... guess which one they clipped?
heh... the Sandra Dee song... amazing that.
Lugh