Julien has understood that Oliver is both the kindness and the arranging. He is both and this has been known from the start. Yes, Oliver ought not to have written this brief without speaking with Julien first. He intruded into a grief that had been shared with him. However, when you love someone you take the good and the bad, and Julien now needs to think carefully and make a decision. I hope he does not fall on his sword over this.