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ummm, not to sound obvious, but you aren't depressed. You're just tired. Go to bed!!! You can't work those hours and go to school. You can't keep up this pace, and the longer you try, the more you are beating up your body. If you are working because you need money for school, now's the time to consider student loans and financial aid. Take Care®, Vic

Happy 39th Birthday George!!!! Hope you have an awesome one!

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But it gives them hope. It let's them know that life can be better. During many times in our lives, sometimes all we have is hope. Let's not take that away from them too.

Happy 20th Birthday!!! WHOOOOO!

Happy 18th Birthday Ieshwar!!!! Hope you have a great one!

It's funny, I never thought I'd be blogging here ever again, but once again GA has become a fun place to be. Don't get me wrong, it's always been fun hanging & commiserating with my fellow Dom fans, but last year there was so much drama that I used to dread logging onto GA. That 'okay, what's going to give me a headache or pain in the behind this time?' feeling. But things seemed to have changed for the better . Now I know how the elves or munchins in the Wizard of Oz felt when Dorothy's house landed. Sooo anyway, Here's my 'new' blog.... ===================== Some of you know that last year, I broke up with my partner Bill. We had been together for 10+ years and he's still the only guy I've really loved. I won't go into details about our breakup (because there was some ugliness), but we've both made a HUGE effort to treat each other respectfully and nice during the process. Having been registered Domestic Partner's in California, we had to get a real divorce . Can you believe that it's still not fully done? We were both happy about how we agreed to split things (basically, I kept what was mine and he kept what was his). I'm happy to say we've managed to stay friends. I still love Bill and I know that he still loves me, but both of us aren't sure that we can ever be together again. I think the big reason is that I'm not sure I could ever fully trust him again. Don't get me wrong, I want to trust him, I just don't know if I can do it 100%. I think he feels the same way. Bill is still the person I trust the most (we still have financial dealings together and we are sharing custody of our dog Mina), but it's the matter of the heart that has me cautious. Neither of us are dating anyone else, and personally, I'm not ready for it. I don't think I could do anything casual and since I'm still not fully over Bill, I don't think it would be fair to start something serious with anyone else until I can resolve those issues. It's sad, but I'm finding that the guys I find attractive all look like or have characteristics of Bill :wacko: . Did I mention that he moved about 3 hours away? The distance makes it tough to pass Mina back and forth, but since we both really love her, it's going to have to do for now. Bill & I talk two or three times a week. What's really odd is that we're talking for a long time (like the last call was about 1.5 hours). We never talked like that when we were together. I don't know what I'm going to do. I hope either 1) I get over Bill and fully start moving on or 2)We get back together...scary. I'm 39 years old, so it's not easy to go 'start' over. I don't think I can do the bar scene and most single guys my age are still single for a reason . Ughhh, at least I have Mina (well, 1/2 time). So anywho, that's me whining. Take Care

Happy 28th Birthday Miso!!!!!

Happy 40th Birthday Dan!!! ohhh wait, you're getting old, so I need to use a bigger font... Happy 40th Birthday Dan!!!!!!!! Hope you have a good year!

Most immigrants I know do try to learn the local language because knowing the language gives them freedom to do more. The younger have an easier time with it, and the older (such as my grandmother) had a harder time. It's been my experience that many are embarassed that they might mispronounce a word or not know a particular word and they try to get by with as few words as possible. I've also found that if you are willing to work with someone (such as gestures or giving word suggestions), English as a Second Language (ESL) people do relish the opportunity to try to communicate better in English. So maybe instead of cursing at them, maybe try helping them with the language. Little, positive steps like this will assist them in assimilating better into our society. Otherwise, perhaps you should consider moving to France where that attitude toward not being fluent in the language might serve you well as a waiter. Take Care®, Vic

Happy Birthday Jeffrey Hope you have a good one, and how L gives you something extra

Happy 42nd Birthday Robert!!!!!!! Hope you and Dan (and house guests) have a fun time celebrating! Vic 'who'll be joining your decade next year '

That was a fun read!

Happy 60th Birthday Marty

Happy Birthday Jay!!!! Hope you have a great day & year! Take Care®, Vic

I respectfully disagree. The message that I hope people will get out of this is that you can't just 'pose' your way out of your attraction to men. Getting married, having a family & career will not make those feelings go away. Former Senator Craig was 62yo and he could not avoid the 'demons' after all those years. I think many parents of questioning gays think that all it will take would be for their son to meet a nice girl, and the love of show tunes, the uncanny ability to put together an outfit, and the '1 second too long' look at cute guys would all go away. Hopefully people will realize that 'it' doesn't go away.... ever, and that it's best to just accept it now. At least that's what I hope. This scandal has not harmed accepting and adjusted gays. And Craig isn't gay, he's just an MSM. This event harms all the closet case, MSM's who would be better off getting out of their closets (which the author of the article suggested). Instead of finding anonymous and risky sex with other men in public restrooms, they can find companionship at gay bars or other more respectable places . Take Care

Personally, I am glad that Craig was outed, but I do have a little sympathy for him and especially for his wife. It may be too late for Craig to accept who he is and be comfortable enough in his own skin to live a gay or bi lifestyle (whatever he is). But hopefully young, struggling, questioning gay guys who heard the messages of hate in their churches or from their parents will see what happened to Craig and Haggard and realize 'Ok, if those guys can't fake it and suppress their urges maybe I should stop fighting it and just accept it? Even if I get married and have a solid career, a wife, and family, the itch won't go away. And I don't wanna scratch that itch in a public toilet '. Too bad Craig didn't have someone in his young life whispering 'There's nothing wrong with you Larry'. Craig & his wife would have been better off for it. Take Care, Vic

Happy 18th Birthday JaRED!!!!! Way to be an adult now !!! Vic

Hope everything went okay Vance! And no more lifting ANYTHING*** over 2 lbs, ESPECIALLY FURNITURE down the stairs dumbass!!!!! Take Care®, Vic

You didn't miss his b-day in the US Rich. Graeme just starts his birthday in Australia.

Happy Birthday to one of the nicest, awesome-est, & most fabulous people on GA!!!!!! Party like a rock star, shop till you drop, & tweeze till you please Take Care, Vic

Happy 36th Birthday SonoLuminus!!!!! Welcome to the 2nd half of the 4th decade! (we could use some company!) Hope you have a great birthday and a great year! Vic

Glad you made it back from the hospital okay! Enjoy your rest and hopefully someone is babying you right now Take Care®, Vic

Happy 21st Birthday Alex!!!!!! I'm not sure if it's the same milestone age down there as it is here in the US, but hope you have an awesome birthday!!!!