NaperVic

Whoa! You didn't mention before that this was a teaching assistant/student situation. You can't date him until after you are no longer in a position of power over him. If you are responsible for his grade, then there's always the possibility that he's being extra friendly to you in order to get a better grade. Until the end of the term, he's off limits. Take Care

I just saw this MAD TV clip on utube about two guys watching football and got a little confused about their feelings. You might enjoy it. http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yDsHvq6juEY&...feature=related

... ... ... Tob, are you trying to send me to an early grave? How can anyone be an ex-Domaholic?

Good for you (and us) . If you are looking for suggestions on how to control yourself, perhaps you could try restricting yourself to only two or three posts per day? Having that restriction might force you to be more substantative in your content. As well, it will allow the more infrequent posters' posts to stand out and have a chance to be read. Take Care®, Vic

must be, thank goodness I'm not wearing white pants

Wow, during all my time here at GA, I don't think I've ever felt this annoyed about the number of posts that have been appearing that don't add any value to the threads they're part of. I'm no saint, and I'm sure I've been guilty of a post going off topic or one that really doesn't add value, but the amount of chaff nowadays is overwhelming what little wheat there is hidden in the threads. When I'd hear complaints in the past about other posts or posters, I'd usually tell other members "well, if you don't like a thread or a poster, just ignore the thread or the poster". But recently, it's hard to ignore and the "View New Post" tool becomes less useful. Vic (Who's probably just cranky because Dom hasn't posted in over 6 months)

But, haven't you talked people into moving to Dallas? Are they going to move to Mizzou with you too? Anywho, good luck. Vic

objectively speaking...you're easy on the eyes. You have dimples and good teeth, so you're fine Make sure you smile and you'll have plenty of boys after you in no time (sheesh, you're only 18!). Oh, and don't fall for Razor's lost puppy bit. This will be like his fourth one this month .

I'll just add to what Kevin has said. The field of Queer Studies is much more broad that one might first assume. My Ex developed and taught a class on queer studies and I was fascinated with the topics he discussed in the class. There is also a tremendous amount of literature (and I'm not talking about Domluka Gay Fiction Literature ) and gay history. I was particulary 'surprised' at the amount of gay history where I never really considered pre-stonewall & AIDS. Author's like John D'Emelio & Peter Nardi are just a few of the scholars who write about Queer Study topics. If your college(s) offer classes in Queer Studies, I'd suggest taking one for your own edification. Take Care®, Vic

Or you can wait for him to ask you out. Maybe he's also a mental and is just waiting for you to do the asking. ...wait wait... you can pay for lunch next time, thus obligating him to ask you out...Yeah! You may need a refresher. I'd suggest the A Guide on Boyfriends, Tips and advices thread

Although there aren't any hard and fast rules, I think you have to take several factors into account. Like: 1) Who broke up with whom? If the guy you are interested in was the one who instigated the breakup, he's fair game sooner rather than later. 2) Are you friends or acquaintances with the ex too? 3) Are you willing to deal with or help the dude deal with any potential baggage he may have? Anyhow, I say go for it. If they broke up, he's fair game. The worst he could say is no :wacko: . You can even go with the angle of trying to be his friend first , don't let him know how really interested you are in him (don't come on too strong), and see if things develop from there. Who knows, he may also be looking for someone right now too. Good luck and be sure to keep us posted. Vic P.S. - And don't sleep with him the first date

Hylas, Since you are only attracted to caucasians: If doesn't matter that you aren't 'cute' in your own culture, because you aren't trying to attract any filipinos . I kid. I not attracted to filipino's either, but I can tell you objectively that you certainly aren't ugly and that many guys would find you attractive (particularly the infamous rice queens ). I think you've gotten some of that feedback already. Fact: you're easy on the eyes for lots of people . Take Care®, Vic P.S. - The Harry Potter scar is cool.

I'll have to disagree, I think it depends on the age of the person. Younger people usually adapt the accents, but people over 15 or much older usually retain a strong filipino accent. My parents, uncles, & aunts have lived in the U.S. for 30+ years and they all sound like they're fresh off the boat (FOBs)

Menzo's not bitter, he's just wise beyond his years. Single yes, but wise.

dead on for me Your Existing Situation Readily participates in things affording excitement or stimulation. Wants to feel exhilarated. Your Stress Sources Feels that life must yield more than it is and that his hopes and desires must somehow be realized--that they must be granted in their entirety. The existing uncertainty causes considerable worry and he is tensely on his guard against missing any opportunity. Anxious to avoid further setbacks, and loss of standing or prestige. Tries to make sure that he will not be overlooked and badly needs security. Your Restrained Characteristics Circumstances force him to compromise and to forgo some pleasures for the time being. Capable of achieving physical satisfaction from sexual activity. Your Desired Objective Needs a peaceful environment. Wants release from stress, and freedom from conflicts or disagreement. Takes pains to control the situation and its problems by proceeding cautiously. Has sensitivity of feeling and a fine eye for detail. Your Actual Problem Needs to achieve a stable and peaceful condition, enabling him to free himself of the worry that he may be prevented from achieving all the things he wants. Your Actual Problem #2 Disappointment at the non-fulfillment of his hopes and the fear that to formulate fresh goals will only lead to further setbacks have resulted in considerable anxiety. He is trying to escape from this into a peaceful and harmonious relationship, protecting him from dissatisfaction and lack of appreciation.

Queensland . . Is that like the gay area of Australia, just like Boystown in Chicago?

I will point out that NaperVic at one point was a GAC, then a Moderator, thus poo poo-ing your argument. But in reality a more valuable statistic is the number of posts per day (ppd): CJ - 8 ppd Graeme - 7 ppd Kevin & Beast - 4 ppd ---------------------- Myr, Joe, NJ, Vic - 2 ppd Drew & DK - 1 ppd Despite these numbers, IMHO it's not the number of posts one makes or does not make, but the quality of the posts. If one were to equate poster quality to car brands, some of us are Toyota's & Subaru's, and others are Yugos Take Care

Good luck Sharon Maybe you should substitute your nicotine cravings with all the freed up chocolate that Kevin isn't eating anymore . Take Care®, Vic

He's 17 years older than you!!!! Aren't there enough guys in your own age range? Leave the gay, 35yo+ ones for me http://www.alistairappleton.com/

A British accent on the right guy makes my toes curl Like Alister from BBC's Cash in the Attic

You weren't in the room at the time

Exactly. I don't necessarily think that we need members to post just for the sake of posting. GA is primarily a story site. I really enjoy the discussions about stories, chapters, and authors that I'm following. All the other stuff is fluff. Fluff that's funny at times? yes. But still fluff. Motivating, encouraging, and supporting authors are the best things that we as members can do to increase overall participation. I have an author that I'm particularly fond of. When <fill in fav author> is posting, I love coming to GA because I know that I'll find comrads that want to discuss his/her latest. I have all this stuff in my head that I can't share with anyone in real life (they won't understand) and know that there are others like me at GA where we can commiserate. Take Care®, Vic

Happy 22nd Birthday Krista!!! May you have an awesome year that brings you lots of joy and happiness

I'm surprised none of the P.W.'s pointed this fact out. Wow, that's a lot. It seemed like only yesterday that Kurt was pointing out the 50k mark. Take Care®, Vic (who can't believe he posted about post counts..ack, the next CJ or Beastkid)