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Unfinished Work


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When someone dies, there is always some unfinished work left. Usually it's something the deceased started. Today I found something I started for my brother when he first got sick 9 years ago. I was knitting a prayer shawl that should end up like this, only in denim blue heather:

 

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The pattern, http://debbiemacomber.com/knitters/alixs-prayer-shawl, was slightly beyond my skill level. I can make it, but can't recover from a dropped stitch without tearing out rows. About 5 years ago I was babysitting a boy who was fascinated by my knitting and would end up dropping stitches for me. Which mean restarting from scratch many times before I learned about "life lines", a piece of yarn that is run through the stitches on the needle every so many rows to prevent having to start over. I put my knitting away when the boy began pulling out the life lines.

 

So I don't know what to do. I don't have a lot invested in yarn, only 6 skeins if I remember right, but the specialty needles I bought were expensive (48 inch size 13 circular needles). I hate having an unfinished project around, but also know that if I were to try to finish it I would be constantly reminded that my brother is dead.

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:hug:  It's a lovely shawl.  When you're ready to work on it again, it might be a nice time to reminisce about the good times you had with your brother.  :hug:

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We were very fortunate when my mother died. Two ladies in her quilting group approached me at her funeral, and offered to help finish any of her projects. I was crying when I took them to my sister, who had committed to do it, but was daunted by the work. Mom was GOOD.

 

I believe when you're ready to work on the shawl again, you'll be ready to remember. Not all tears are bad.

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You say that finishing would be a constant reminder of your brother.

Make finishing a project where you purposely remember your brother instead, maybe set a specific amount of time each day for finishing.

 

My mom died a few months before your brother and I think about her daily. I expect that is the same with you and your brother.

 

I hope by the time you finish the shawl the pain of loss will have diminished a bit as well.

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Like Rustle, our mom had several unfinished knitting projects.  Her best friend was kind enough to offer to finish those projects.  Every time I open her craft cabinet, I'm overwhelmed with the smell of my mother.

 

I hope you work on the project and have very fond and wonderful memories of your brother. :hug:

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