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i'm proud of him


mollyhousemouse

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Today, my younger brother is the bravest person i know.

2 years ago, my nephew was killed on his first day of university.

Today, he and my sister-in-law, took my niece to school to begin her freshman year.

What makes this so much more than just hard, is that not only is this a reminder of that day in 2019, but my niece is out of state. 848.2 miles; 1365.0456 km; 12 hours; 29 minutes; two days by car; away from anyone who knows her.

my Husband and i talked about this on Wednesday when they began their trip. We can’t begin to imagine the painful memories this drags up. How hard it is to leave your only child that far away.

i can’t stop thinking about it. Heck i had a hard time when Daughter went to the coast with her high school culinary team. Number One Son is in Denver this weekend, and i’ve already tracked his flight to make sure he landed safely.

i’ve reached out to him, offered him virtual hugs, let him know how proud i am of him and his wife. And how proud i am of their daughter, for following her dream and working through this grief. i imagine it's pretty damn scary for her too.

It’s important, i think, to tell people things like this.

If you’ve done something hard, whether other people see it as hard or not, be proud of yourself.

i’m proud of you too.

 

 

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The strength and bravery of the human heart never fails to astound me. We find unknown strength when it comes to survival of nearly anything.

Parents do all they can to shield their children, yet they know their super powers only extend so far. They know one day they have to let go and set their children free. Theirs is a bravery with no Silver Star.

Good parents, teach, nurture, love and guide. Then the watch their progeny jump from the nest; hopefully to soar.

Sometimes, some do not ...

Your brother and sister-in-law could have tried to stop their next from taking that leap. They overcame their pain to do right by their daughter. A selfless, loving act.

i have watched you and Phil Sir do all of this with your own kids and i admire you both. 

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@Mikiesboy thanks for the kind words. We've tried to do right by our kids
letting our kids spread their wings is always hard, harder when you've experienced the trauma they did.
thanks for taking the time to read and comment xo

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You should be proud of your brother and sister-in-law. 

Moving forward after the loss of a child is unimaginable. Every 'first' without them, birthday, Christmas, Mothers/Father's day, seeing another child becoming an adult, must hurt tremendously. I'm not sure I could do it. 

I understand your pride. I feel that way whenever I talk to either of my brothers who lost their only boys. 

I can relate to the worry of a child far away. As parents, the worrying will never go away. It's part of the unconditional love we have for our kids. 

You are an amazing mom, wife, sister, aunt and friend. 

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thanks @kbois

it's been inspiring, i think that's the feeling, to watch them navigate this new family dynamic.

thanks for taking the time to read & leaving a comment.

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