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Thinking of you

AFriendlyFace

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I was sitting in a restaurant this evening have dinner and people watching and there was this average, middle-aged guy sitting at the next table. The waitress came over to him and asked if he was ready, and he replied that he was still waiting for his wife. So about 10 minutes later his phone rings and he answers it and says:

 

"Hi hun *pause* I'm just sitting here at the restaurant reading a magazine and thinking of you. *pause* okay I'll see you when you get here"

 

:wub:

 

I just thought that was the sweetest thing "sitting here thinking of you." It's really nice.

 

 

So I went to a delightful dinner party Saturday. It was hosted by a good friend of mine and naturally the guests included several of his closest friends and their boyfriends. I, myself, was already good friends with one of the other guests and knew a couple of the other people in attendance. Anyway I was sitting next to his best friend, whom I already knew slightly from experience, and well through reputation.

 

**sigh**

 

I'd already thought the guy was beautiful the few times I had seen him. He also turned out to be extremely sweet, smart as a whip, successful, gifted with a lively, witty personality, and to top it all off possessed with a killer set of morals and compassion....Unfortunately he also has a boyfriend <_<

 

Figures, I mean why would a guy like that stay on the market? His boyfriend wasn't there, and I've only met him once, and never engaged on one on one conversation with him, but from what my mutual friends tell me it's a really good relationship and they see it lasting long-term. Which is great of course, but I was seriously enamored of this guy. That seldom happens to me. I mean I can easily appreciate an attractive, desirable person, but usually I don't actually get to the "crush" stage. And I almost never let it happen if it's a straight guy or a partnered gay guy. So this just took me off guard.

 

I guess the worst/best part of the whole thing is that we're very likely to continue associating with each other. It's also complicated because pretty much all my friends are part of this big, extended group of twenty-something year old gays and lesbians. In fact, several years prior - before I knew any of them - he dated and had a fairly serious relationship with another friend of mine (so I had indeed heard a great deal about him by reputation). Also, his current boyfriend - the one I barely know - happened to be a fairly good friend of Jesse's (my close friend from several other previous blog entries). And completely coincidentally he - the guy I like - knew one of the other guest's brand new boyfriend (who was also in attendance). This was really weird because of course said guest was friends with a couple of other guests (and obviously the host) and I, myself had heard about him through reputation as well, but his new boyfriend was completely unfamiliar to everyone else except the guy I like (who didn't actually know the first guy - the one the rest of us knew/knew of - ...this is confusing I know, but I don't want to use names since I've told several of them about this site and I don't want to invade anyone's privacy). Anyway the point is I feel like I'm just trapped in this big circle of people without any real fresh blood. This is stupid I know. Indeed on many levels I'm pleased to have found my niche with these people, but it gets complicated sometimes.

 

Anyway, I actually want to spend more time with the guy. We have several interests in common so I'm thinking I may ask my friend for his number. Obviously I would never pursue someone who was in a relationship, but he really did seem like a cool guy, so I'd like to form a friendship with him in our own right. Besides, most of the time when I actually get to know someone I'm attracted to I quit thinking about them in that way and just view them as an adorable friend...and who can't use one more adorable friend?

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Meeko

Hey Kev

 

Awwwww that is really sweet, heh sitting here thinking of you!!! :wub:

 

Im sorry to hear about that guy, there are some really good guys out there who arent taken *Points To Kevin*, It just takes time to find them. Heh I should really talk right? Im like the most impaient person you will ever meet haha, but even I know good things take time, it's just a matter of time till you find the right guy, who knows you may have already found him, and not you just need to develop something more. Anywho best of luck to you Kevin, you are a great guy, and im sure you will find your perfect other ever so soon, just remember that when you find him and live happy ever after , it will all have been worth the wait =P :D

 

Fyi : Im listening to Lee anns "I Hope You Dance" Such a touching song... Gets me every time.... :ranger:

 

Take care

-Mike :D

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Ieshwar

Hi Kevin!

 

I was shocked when you said that great guys are off the 'market'. You are AWESOME and free!!! *wriggles eyebrows* If I was in Houston, I would have jumped on you. But the fact that you would have run away, that's a different story! :D:D :D

 

Don't worry Kevin! I'm SURE, damn SURE that there's somone very lucky who's waiting out there. Special as you are, it's going to take a great time looking for a guy as special as you. (Is it even possible?)

 

Take care,

Ieshwar

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B1ue

I had to sit down and draw a diagram for that second to last paragraph. I think I got it now, but it was a near thing :P .

 

You're lucky that you can forestall crushes like that. I wish I could. I develop crushes often, and almost always on either a straight or taken man. It's rather irritating, actually, but fun also.

 

Oh, and that guy does sound like someone worth keeping around just for himself.

 

--Gabe

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myself_i_must_remake

remember your fail-safes,

 

don't come on too strongly.

don't get discouraged.

don't do anything dramatic when you don't feel like you're making progress.

 

from the way you described him, i bet he's used to guys liking him and making a sloppy move, so stand out by not doing that right away. honestly i think slow progress could get you somewhere though. although, i had no way of seeing how you guys interacted so i could be wrong, extremely wrong. keep talking to other guys so when you have a bad day you can feel cocky and be like "oh well i have so-and-so anyways" and it raises your confidence just to have other guys seeming potentially interested in you.

 

then again. i'm nineteen. what do i know?

a lot about books and nothing about people.

 

but i think anyone who reads this is pulling for you and you need to be reminded of that if you're going to take this on. i know my advice seems obvious, but it's what i always see people forget when they get into this kind of situation. always look at the situation from an outside point of view. always always always.

 

and... if you write, i don't know if you write on this site, start journaling this as it progresses and maybe it can go under eFiction even though it's a true story. i don't know.

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AFriendlyFace

Hey Mike :D

 

Im sorry to hear about that guy, there are some really good guys out there who arent taken *Points To Kevin*, It just takes time to find them. Heh I should really talk right? Im like the most impaient person you will ever meet haha, but even I know good things take time, it's just a matter of time till you find the right guy, who knows you may have already found him, and not you just need to develop something more. Anywho best of luck to you Kevin, you are a great guy, and im sure you will find your perfect other ever so soon, just remember that when you find him and live happy ever after , it will all have been worth the wait =P :D

 

Aww :wub: Thanks! That's really sweet of you to say!

Fyi : Im listening to Lee anns "I Hope You Dance" Such a touching song... Gets me every time.... :ranger:

Isn't it such a cool song! :)

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AFriendlyFace

Hey Ieshwar! :D

 

I was shocked when you said that great guys are off the 'market'. You are AWESOME and free!!! *wriggles eyebrows* If I was in Houston, I would have jumped on you. But the fact that you would have run away, that's a different story! :D:D:D

 

Don't worry Kevin! I'm SURE, damn SURE that there's somone very lucky who's waiting out there. Special as you are, it's going to take a great time looking for a guy as special as you. (Is it even possible?

Awww wow! :*)

 

You're the greatest! :wub::hug:

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AFriendlyFace

Hey Gabe :)

 

I had to sit down and draw a diagram for that second to last paragraph. I think I got it now, but it was a near thing :P .

Haha! Glad you figured it out at all :P

You're lucky that you can forestall crushes like that. I wish I could. I develop crushes often, and almost always on either a straight or taken man. It's rather irritating, actually, but fun also.

Aww I'm sorry :(

Oh, and that guy does sound like someone worth keeping around just for himself.

Yeah I think so :)

 

I'm hoping we can at least be good friends.

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AFriendlyFace

Hey Billy! :D

 

remember your fail-safes,

 

don't come on too strongly.

don't get discouraged.

don't do anything dramatic when you don't feel like you're making progress.

 

from the way you described him, i bet he's used to guys liking him and making a sloppy move, so stand out by not doing that right away. honestly i think slow progress could get you somewhere though. although, i had no way of seeing how you guys interacted so i could be wrong, extremely wrong. keep talking to other guys so when you have a bad day you can feel cocky and be like "oh well i have so-and-so anyways" and it raises your confidence just to have other guys seeming potentially interested in you.

 

then again. i'm nineteen. what do i know?

a lot about books and nothing about people.

 

but i think anyone who reads this is pulling for you and you need to be reminded of that if you're going to take this on. i know my advice seems obvious, but it's what i always see people forget when they get into this kind of situation. always look at the situation from an outside point of view. always always always.

 

and... if you write, i don't know if you write on this site, start journaling this as it progresses and maybe it can go under eFiction even though it's a true story. i don't know.

 

 

Well, this is all definitely excellent advice. The only thing is though I definitely don't intend to try to break them up, or make him fall for me. I would never do that! He's very happy, and it seems as though the boyfriend is too. Besides they were apparently like best friends for years before they started dating. So even if I were the kinda person who'd try something like that it would be particularly awful in this case. Apart from all that I'm a firm believer that any one who can be "stolen" isn't worth stealing.

 

So yeah, I'm just thinking I'll try to be his friend.

 

Thanks for the advice though :)

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