Any 18+ Virgins In There?

[Warrior1]

I am 22, and still completely inexperienced, either way. Ugh, totally hate my life.

 

Anyone I can share my grief (being a bit silly, it's NOT THAT big a deal) with?

[Drew Espinosa]

Welcome to the Club, Warrior! I'm twenty and a virgin

Edited October 19, 2015 by Drew Espinosa

[sacredlove]

Well, I'm 27 and still a virgin. Somehow, it's good to know that I'm not alone and you're definitely not alone in this. I'm sure eventually we all loose our V-cards. In my case, I guess it will happen at the right time with the right person.

Edited October 19, 2015 by sacredlove

[James Bond007]

I recommend only giving your V-card to someone you really like and that he likes you.

Edited October 19, 2015 by James Bond007

[Drew Espinosa]

There are days where I just want to lose and get over with it and others where I want to save it for that special guy...

 

Hopefully, it'll be the latter.

[MrM]

There are days where I just want to lose and get over with it and others where I want to save it for that special guy...

 

Hopefully, it'll be the latter.

 

 

Save it so you can do it with someone you want and who wants you. Sex is something very special and it hits places you didn't even know you had. 

[James Bond007]

There are days where I just want to lose and get over with it and others where I want to save it for that special guy...

 

Hopefully, it'll be the latter.

Drew! I understand it is, it is frustrating! Their were days that I wanted to just lose it. I am glad I waited for the right guy, he is glad to. I reccomend waiting. It is so worth it! But you must make the choice.

 

I am here if anyone ever needs to talk

[Cynus]

It depends on what you classify as 'sex'. If you're referring exclusively to anal/vaginal penetration then yes, I am still a virgin. If you're referring to oral, I have a wealth of experience. Penetration isn't really one of my interests, either giving or receiving, though my first boyfriend and I were close to reaching that point for his sake when he passed away.

Either way, you're definitely not alone. I have a number of friends my age and older who are virgins, and it simply happens to end up that way sometimes. I would blame it on the culture of sexual repression for the past few centuries which we're only starting to break out of. Hell, the kids I grew up with in Mormonville didn't even know what sex was!

[Dodger]

You’ll get a lot of advice from people telling you not rush into things, wait for the right guy to come along, it’ll happen when you least expect it and so on.

 

However, you have to realise that Mr Right isn’t going to come knocking at your door and there’s a big possibility that you may have to go looking for him. If you're not getting any opportunities then the chances are you're looking in the wrong places or not looking at all. If you are getting opportunities then you may be setting the bar too high. Your first time is special, but you don’t need to find the perfect guy to do it with. You don’t have to settle down for the rest of your life with him and you don’t need to be in love with him, you just need to be attracted to him and the rest will happen on its own.

 

I’m not recommending that you start hanging around public washrooms or anything like that, there are nicer ways meet guys than that. The most important thing obviously is to make sure that you stay safe and don’t take any risks. There are a lot of nice guys out there around your age. Get to know the guy a little bit first and make sure he’s genuine. If you don’t feel right about somebody then DON’T do it. If you do feel right about somebody then the chances are you won’t be able to keep your hands off him anyway. So relax and have a bit of fun.

 

It can be a one-night stand or someone that you’ve known for years. Even if you never see the guy again it can still be a special experience for you both. Whatever happens you're going to have to put yourself out there for him to see you. In your own time of course, but my advice is not to sit back and wait for something to happen because you could be waiting a long time.

[TetRefine]

If your a bottom, I'd suggest being upfront and honest about your virginity and expectations. Also make it clear you want the other guy to take his time and be in tune with how it feels for you. If your a top, it is easier to fake (at most) novice experience because you aren't taking it up the ass, lol. 

 

In my own personal experiences, I'd suggest the first couple times having sex to be with someone you know and trust and is willing to take their time and respect the boundaries. I'd only suggest starting one night stands after you have a couple experiences under your belt, because most of the time that kind of sex is more about physical passion and getting off. Both kinds are great and I've done my fair share of each, but I think drunken bar and Grindr hookups are better left till after you've learned a few things about your body and how sex goes. 

 

Its never as easy as porn makes it seem (well, most of the time).

[Northern Dutch Guy]

Welcome to the Club, Warrior! I'm twenty and a virgin

 

Hey have hope... I was a gay virgin till I was 30 YO and met my lover and partner till... Yes we are together since like that day (though we had a few  short breakups in the first few years...) and now we live together over 20 years.  So keep your head up !

 

So you have a lot of years to go... to mature and find/meet that guy.   Mine comes from the pre internet time... Just a message in a paper... Can you believe that ?

I could not believe a guy like him needed an advertisement !!! So ..

Also keep an open mind and ... do not shut down your friends because they are not gay... reach out and make new friends and somehow in that growing circle you will find...that special someone...

 

Love AndyG

[Victor Gutte]

I am 21 and pretty much untouched (in a way) .....no relationships here

[Lugnutz]

49 now and will be yelling at kids to get off my lawn in the future. By myself.

[Ashi]

Yesh?

[James Bond007]

Yesh Ashi?

[jfalkon]

I might as well admit it.  There is no "experience" on my resume either.

 

49 now and will be yelling at kids to get off my lawn in the future. By myself.

 

That's probably more or less my fate too, but I will be planting cacti in my yard.  

[Cynus]

I suppose being the "sex-willing asexual" that I am, my particular situation affects me less than it would others, so maybe I can't relate here. What I will say is that sex is definitely not the only thing in life, and there is a lot of fulfillment to be found elsewhere. There's no need to let lack of sex run one's life. 

[Northern Dutch Guy]

It depends on what you classify as 'sex'. If you're referring exclusively to anal/vaginal penetration then yes, I am still a virgin. If you're referring to oral, I have a wealth of experience. Penetration isn't really one of my interests, either giving or receiving, though my first boyfriend and I were close to reaching that point for his sake when he passed away.

 

Either way, you're definitely not alone. I have a number of friends my age and older who are virgins, and it simply happens to end up that way sometimes. I would blame it on the culture of sexual repression for the past few centuries which we're only starting to break out of. Hell, the kids I grew up with in Mormonville didn't even know what sex was!

 

OMG

 

 

I more or less grew up the same.

Parrents never said anything about sex.

 

Both me and my partner come from very strict religious families...  

 

What I know now is  ... there were a lot of early marriages because of pregnancies... between teenagers...

 

OMG... Only much later I learned that the things I did with some older boys since I was like 12 yo... was sex...

[Northern Dutch Guy]

It depends on what you classify as 'sex'. If you're referring exclusively to anal/vaginal penetration then yes, I am still a virgin. If you're referring to oral, I have a wealth of experience. Penetration isn't really one of my interests, either giving or receiving, though my first boyfriend and I were close to reaching that point for his sake when he passed away.

 

Either way, you're definitely not alone. I have a number of friends my age and older who are virgins, and it simply happens to end up that way sometimes. I would blame it on the culture of sexual repression for the past few centuries which we're only starting to break out of. Hell, the kids I grew up with in Mormonville didn't even know what sex was!

 

Soooo sad your friend passed away...

Love, hugs... kisses

[Warrior1]

Hey have hope... I was a gay virgin till I was 30 YO and met my lover and partner till... Yes we are together since like that day (though we had a few  short breakups in the first few years...) and now we live together over 20 years.  So keep your head up !

 

So you have a lot of years to go... to mature and find/meet that guy.   Mine comes from the pre internet time... Just a message in a paper... Can you believe that ?

I could not believe a guy like him needed an advertisement !!! So ..

Also keep an open mind and ... do not shut down your friends because they are not gay... reach out and make new friends and somehow in that growing circle you will find...that special someone...

 

Love AndyG

 

 

This gives me hope. Better to find it late but a lasting one, than to find early but that does not end well ... 

 

However, sometimes I feel desperate to have someone beside me, to touch someone, to kiss, to put my head on his shoulder, etc. I know being desperate would only worsen the situation, but I can't help it. 

[James Bond007]

Its only human nature to want to be loved and held. But having sex before you meet the right person, is not worth it. Yes it can be fun at the time, but afterwards, you will only feel lonelier.

[Northern Dutch Guy]

This gives me hope. Better to find it late but a lasting one, than to find early but that does not end well ... 

 

However, sometimes I feel desperate to have someone beside me, to touch someone, to kiss, to put my head on his shoulder, etc. I know being desperate would only worsen the situation, but I can't help it. 

OMG...

I think I know your feelings... and Please ... understand... the love rockets sometimes start one way 1st...

My partner was in love with me... he said the 1st moment he saw me...

And for me it was... like... Hmmm, interesting and certainly not ugly...

....

And it was because he gave me so much love.... we dated... and became a couple... and I fell in love with him after that....

 

for I had never felt that feeling before... being loved...

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So be good and... be open to friends and who knows ... like me you will find the lover you are looking for like forever...

 

Love

H&M

[Northern Dutch Guy]

Its only human nature to want to be loved and held. But having sex before you meet the right person, is not worth it. Yes it can be fun at the time, but afterwards, you will only feel lonelier.

Hmm  yes...

Sex only will ... feel that way... I know. and ... it is not the OK feeling....

 

But sometimes ... it is  and feels different...

Sometimes It is also as you said... you want to be held and loved...

I hope you will find that way...   that special way... soon...

 

Love,hugs and...

 

Be happy....

[James Bond007]

I found what I was looking for.

I was just trying to help Drew out.

[W_L]

There are days where I just want to lose and get over with it and others where I want to save it for that special guy...

 

Hopefully, it'll be the latter.

 

 

I am 22, and still completely inexperienced, either way. Ugh, totally hate my life.

 

Anyone I can share my grief (being a bit silly, it's NOT THAT big a deal) with?

 

You don't need a man to satisfy your sexual needs, there are always toys

 

Now emotional needs, I want a partner too. I have been looking for 7 years now and it is difficult to find one.

 

With the issues of STDs and the seedy nature of anonymous sex, I still have my V card at 28 (I have broken in myself and oral on both sides, but haven't done either end in anal).