The Drop in Centre

[Thorn Wilde]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

What happens if its late?

 

 

I don't even know... But I'm behind on everything. I haven't finished a damn thing this semester. Except a novel, so that's where my priorities have been, I guess...

 

1 minute ago, MacGreg said:

Can you reach out to your professor? 

 

Probably. I'll drop him a line in the morning. Might be able to just hand it in late.

 

Still kind of want to quit regardless. This whole programme has changed since I started. I was off sick for a year, so this is literally a different degree from what I was supposed to do. The dissertation's changed completely, from a practical that was record an EP with artist of your choice and then do a release gig, to a written theoretical thing. I'm supposed to be a sound engineer, not a scholar. Like I said. Tired. Sorry I'm being so negative...

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, Thorn Wilde said:

 

I don't even know... But I'm behind on everything. I haven't finished a damn thing this semester. Except a novel, so that's where my priorities have been, I guess...

 

 

Probably. I'll drop him a line in the morning. Might be able to just hand it in late.

 

Still kind of want to quit regardless. This whole programme has changed since I started. I was off sick for a year, so this is literally a different degree from what I was supposed to do. The dissertation's changed completely, from a practical that was record an EP with artist of your choice and then do a release gig, to a written theoretical thing. I'm supposed to be a sound engineer, not a scholar. Like I said. Tired. Sorry I'm being so negative...

sounds like you should talk to the school, a counsellor or something if you think its not the right thing

[Thorn Wilde]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

sounds like you should talk to the school, a counsellor or something if you think its not the right thing

 

Already have. She said if it's not working out for me quitting might be the best thing for me. At the same time I'm concerned about what will happen if I do. I'm getting my education covered by NAV, which is a welfare programme, due to my mental illness and stuff. If I quit, I might lose my support, and if I can't get work straight away I'll be screwed. Basically, I'm a mess. I'm very good at tricking myself and everybody else into thinking that I'm less sick than I actually am.

 

Christ, I feel like such a downer. Sorry.

[Mikiesboy]

waiting for Michael to get home.  He texted me and said Open that wine you got for Christmas.. have a glass boy.. you've earned it..  

[Thorn Wilde]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

waiting for Michael to get home.  He texted me and said Open that wine you got for Christmas.. have a glass boy.. you've earned it..  

 

You have. Enjoy your wine!  

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, Thorn Wilde said:

 

Already have. She said if it's not working out for me quitting might be the best thing for me. At the same time I'm concerned about what will happen if I do. I'm getting my education covered by NAV, which is a welfare programme, due to my mental illness and stuff. If I quit, I might lose my support, and if I can't get work straight away I'll be screwed. Basically, I'm a mess. I'm very good at tricking myself and everybody else into thinking that I'm less sick than I actually am.

 

Christ, I feel like such a downer. Sorry.

You are not whining.. you are telling us things we dont know.  You need to  speak to people to get all your eggs in a row... basket or something ... you need to find out your options

[Brayon]

9 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Read about the business of helping people slow down.. that's rather telling, i'd say.

Reminds me of a business that growing down here in FL, that was part of a national trend. Professional Cuddlers. You would book a 15 minute or 30 minute session, and the rules were:

1. No inappropriate touching.

2. Clothes stay on.

3. You stay on top of the covers of the office's beds.

4. The security camera doesn't get turned off.

[Thorn Wilde]

3 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

You are not whining.. you are telling us things we dont know.  You need to  speak to people to get all your eggs in a row... basket or something ... you need to find out your options

 

 

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, BHopper2 said:

Reminds me of a business that growing down here in FL, that was part of a national trend. Professional Cuddlers. You would book a 15 minute or 30 minute session, and the rules were:

1. No inappropriate touching.

2. Clothes stay on.

3. You stay on top of the covers of the office's beds.

4. The security camera doesn't get turned off.

Cuddling with people i like is fine ... strangers? only if a comet is crashing into the earth

[Thorn Wilde]

2 minutes ago, BHopper2 said:

Reminds me of a business that growing down here in FL, that was part of a national trend. Professional Cuddlers. You would book a 15 minute or 30 minute session, and the rules were:

1. No inappropriate touching.

2. Clothes stay on.

3. You stay on top of the covers of the office's beds.

4. The security camera doesn't get turned off.

 

I've heard about that kind of thing. They did a piece on it on Bill Nye Saves the World on Netflix if I'm not mistaken. They had like cuddle get-togethers and stuff, too. Seemed nice. 

[Brayon]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

Cuddling with people i like is fine ... strangers? only if a comet is crashing into the earth

Agreed. I saw it on local NBC Channel 8 news. They charged $150.00 for 15 minutes.

 

3 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

I've heard about that kind of thing. They did a piece on it on Bill Nye Saves the World on Netflix if I'm not mistaken. They had like cuddle get-togethers and stuff, too. Seemed nice. 

Yes, that was one of the services that were offered. Group cuddling. They consider a form of professional therapy.

[Starrynight22]

16 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Cuddling with people i like is fine ... strangers? only if a comet is crashing into the earth

I'm not even a fan of cuddling people I like.  

 

I have touching issues 

[Brayon]

A quick update on my dilemma on my opposing viewpoint essay.

So, we are only allowed to use this one website, which is a database of articles, reports, etc. for just this class. Couldn't find anything in the Journals, News, and Reports that wasn't one-sided in favor of a pro-SSM viewpoint.

 

So I expanded my search. And found two articles written by the same person. One is Pro SSM, the other is PRO-Religious liberty. They are posted Studnet Essays. SO my essay is going to be based on two essays written by the same student author and was upload to the database as free to use research source.

 

I was told to use what I can, and only from that website.  

[Thorn Wilde]

1 minute ago, Starrynight22 said:

I'm not even a fan of cuddling people I like.  

 

I have touching issues 

 

Everyone has their own personal boundaries. I'm a big cuddler, personally. I can spend an evening getting to know a person and end up cuddling, but that's me. Different strokes for different folks, as I believe they say.

[Thorn Wilde]

2 minutes ago, BHopper2 said:

A quick update on my dilemma on my opposing viewpoint essay.

So, we are only allowed to use this one website, which is a database of articles, reports, etc. for just this class. Couldn't find anything in the Journals, News, and Reports that wasn't one-sided in favor of a pro-SSM viewpoint.

 

So I expanded my search. And found two articles written by the same person. One is Pro SSM, the other is PRO-Religious liberty. They are posted Studnet Essays. SO my essay is going to be based on two essays written by the same student author and was upload to the database as free to use research source.

 

I was told to use what I can, and only from that website.  

 

Wow, that's meta.  

[mollyhousemouse]

Hello Sirs

hello everyone!

 

@Mikiesboy glad you enjoyed the wine!(need a high five emoji   )

@Thorn Wilde we all whine here from time to time.  it's a safe place to do that. it's what comes next that is important 

@BHopper2 do the best you can with the tools that you have been given.  

@Starrynight22 Phil's family are not big huggers, He's a hugger now.  but not everyone is

 

but that "professional cuddler" thing?  yeah....nope

 

going to go check on dinner 

 

[Thorn Wilde]

12 minutes ago, mollyhousemouse said:

 

@Thorn Wilde we all whine here from time to time.  it's a safe place to do that. it's what comes next that is important 

 

 

Thanks, molly!  

[Reader1810]

1 hour ago, mollyhousemouse said:

but that "professional cuddler" thing?  yeah....nope

There’s more than one type of “professional“ cuddler. Before his arthritis got too bad, my uncle was a baby cuddler in the NICU of his local hospital. The idea behind that being contact like this was good for preemies. The hospital had a volunteer program so there was always lots of cuddler available. 

 

Edited December 11, 2018 by Reader1810

[mollyhousemouse]

5 minutes ago, Reader1810 said:

There’s more than one type of “professional“ cuddler. Before his arthritis got too bad, my uncle was  baby cuddler in the NICU of his local hospital. The idea behind that being contact like this was good for preemies. The hospital had a volunteer program so there was always lots of cuddler available. 

 

THAT is a wonderful way to volunteer!

way to go Uncle!

[Starrynight22]

When I was in high school a friend had a baby who had complex and severe medical needs.  He often had stats in the local children's hospital where they had a unit specialising in kids using trachs and ventilators.  There was a baby there, size of a 6 month old though they said she was 2.  She was profoundly brain damaged and lived at the hospital due to her medical needs as well as being abandoned by birth family.  

 

When my friends child was there, for about a month, every time I went with her to visit (a few times a week) they would let me hold and pick up that baby.  She was like a doll.  Never really responded or seemed "awake".   Her only visitors were volunteers and staff. 

 

Its one of the saddest memories I have and one of the first times I personally realized how very very sad the hand the universe deals us can be.   

 

Its been 23 years.  And I think of that child probably every few months at least.  I'm sure she has passed on by now. My friends child died about 12 years ago from medical complications.  And he didn't seem as deeply affected healthwise as she. 

[Thorn Wilde]

7 minutes ago, Starrynight22 said:

When I was in high school a friend had a baby who had complex and severe medical needs.  He often had stats in the local children's hospital where they had a unit specialising in kids using trachs and ventilators.  There was a baby there, size of a 6 month old though they said she was 2.  She was profoundly brain damaged and lived at the hospital due to her medical needs as well as being abandoned by birth family.  

 

When my friends child was there, for about a month, every time I went with her to visit (a few times a week) they would let me hold and pick up that baby.  She was like a doll.  Never really responded or seemed "awake".   Her only visitors were volunteers and staff. 

 

Its one of the saddest memories I have and one of the first times I personally realized how very very sad the hand the universe deals us can be.   

 

Its been 23 years.  And I think of that child probably every few months at least.  I'm sure she has passed on by now. My friends child died about 12 years ago from medical complications.  And he didn't seem as deeply affected healthwise as she. 

 

That's just heartbreaking.  

[Thorn Wilde]

Gonna head to bed now, you guys. Supposed to meet a friend I haven't seen in months for a drink tomorrow night, and I hope I'll be well enough to go. He's good people and a professional contact as well (works in the sound department at the Norwegian Opera and Ballet, and used to work at the National Theatre, too; we worked together on an indie production of Marlowe's Doctor Faustus last year where he was the sound designer and I ran the soundboard), so really want to keep a good relationship with him. Need sleep if I'm gonna get healthy again.

 

Thank you all for being so kind and encouraging. Talk to you all tomorrow! Good night! ❤️ 

Edited December 11, 2018 by Thorn Wilde

[Reader1810]

@Thorn Wilde I wish you a good night filled with happy dreams...  

[Reader1810]

31 minutes ago, Starrynight22 said:

Its one of the saddest memories I have and one of the first times I personally realized how very very sad the hand the universe deals us can be.   

Definitely a very sad memory, but what you did was wonderful.  

[Mikiesboy]

45 minutes ago, Starrynight22 said:

When I was in high school a friend had a baby who had complex and severe medical needs.  He often had stats in the local children's hospital where they had a unit specialising in kids using trachs and ventilators.  There was a baby there, size of a 6 month old though they said she was 2.  She was profoundly brain damaged and lived at the hospital due to her medical needs as well as being abandoned by birth family.  

 

When my friends child was there, for about a month, every time I went with her to visit (a few times a week) they would let me hold and pick up that baby.  She was like a doll.  Never really responded or seemed "awake".   Her only visitors were volunteers and staff. 

 

Its one of the saddest memories I have and one of the first times I personally realized how very very sad the hand the universe deals us can be.   

 

Its been 23 years.  And I think of that child probably every few months at least.  I'm sure she has passed on by now. My friends child died about 12 years ago from medical complications.  And he didn't seem as deeply affected healthwise as she. 

the heart is for you ... and those poor children.   life can be very hard and sad ... you did a beautiful thing. you still do every time you think of her ... and that means something.   somewhere in there is something the universe wants to teach us  xoxox