The Drop in Centre

[MacGreg]

1 minute ago, Thorn Wilde said:

On my way to that festival I mentioned yesterday. Was gonna go with my mum, but her body isn’t up to it (it’s a back + hip thing), so I’m going on my own, and now my social anxiety is flaring up in a big way. There will be people there I know, but I haven’t arranged to meet anyone, so I feel like it’s gonna be really awkward...

You'll have a good time. It's something you love.

[Mikiesboy]

3 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

On my way to that festival I mentioned yesterday. Was gonna go with my mum, but her body isn’t up to it (it’s a back + hip thing), so I’m going on my own, and now my social anxiety is flaring up in a big way. There will be people there I know, but I haven’t arranged to meet anyone, so I feel like it’s gonna be really awkward...

you can do this.. just wander in.. get a drink or something to hold.. smile at people.. say hello.. you'll be great

[Reader1810]

6 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

you have a good memory Reader .. thanks  xoxo

 

[Mikiesboy]

7 minutes ago, mollyhousemouse said:

our marriage license is framed and hangs in the hall with some pictures. 

congratulations

thank you, molly xoxo

[mollyhousemouse]

52 minutes ago, Backwoods Boy said:

Good morning, and thanks much for those.  Now I can justify all the swearing I do.  Too bad I can't share them with my mother.  The designated punishment for cursing was having one's mouth washed out with soap, a regular event in my childhood, even when the only words in my swearing vocabulary were "jobbie, wee-wee, toilet!"  I think you can guess the first given the more-common second one.  I'll pass those links on to a few fellow foul-mouths.  

urggg i remember the soap, pink Lifebouy and you weren't allowed to spit or rinse...shudder...

8 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

we just got the belt

got that once for a lie and once when i pushed my kid sister down tbe stairs 

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, mollyhousemouse said:

urggg i remember the soap, pink Lifebouy and you weren't allowed to spit or rinse...shudder...

got that once for a lie and once when i pushed my kid sister down tbe stairs 

omg ..molly!! 

[Reader1810]

8 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

On my way to that festival I mentioned yesterday. Was gonna go with my mum, but her body isn’t up to it (it’s a back + hip thing), so I’m going on my own, and now my social anxiety is flaring up in a big way. There will be people there I know, but I haven’t arranged to meet anyone, so I feel like it’s gonna be really awkward...

What @Mikiesboy sounds like a good plan, Thorn. 

[Mikiesboy]

So we have all the tales of corporal punishment used on us ... so who thinks it changed their behaviour even a little bit.

 

i vote no it didn't

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, Reader1810 said:

What @Mikiesboy sounds like a good plan, Thorn. 

only know cuz i need to do those things .. i hate parties and things like that .. even when i'm not on my own

[Mikiesboy]

@Reader1810  got the radio on??  

[Reader1810]

5 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

only know cuz i need to do those things .. i hate parties and things like that .. even when i'm not on my own

Same here. 

[Reader1810]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

@Reader1810  got the radio on??  

Yep! 

[Reader1810]

7 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

So we have all the tales of corporal punishment used on us ... so who thinks it changed their behaviour even a little bit.

 

i vote no it didn't

Not in the slightest. 

[mollyhousemouse]

10 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

omg ..molly!! 

yeah....i know

9 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

So we have all the tales of corporal punishment used on us ... so who thinks it changed their behaviour even a little bit.

 

i vote no it didn't

not a bit

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, mollyhousemouse said:

yeah....i know

not a bit

so ... i'm betting you didn't do this crap with your kids

[Backwoods Boy]

13 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

So we have all the tales of corporal punishment used on us ... so who thinks it changed their behaviour even a little bit.

 

i vote no it didn't

Only temporarily, but I think it aggravated later behavior.  😈

[Reader1810]

@Mikiesboy So,  ❄️❄️❄️ on your birthday, eh? Hope it’s bright and sunny, too. 

[Kitt]

Didn't change my behavior at all. In fact once when I was about 16 ish, mom grabbed a fist full of my hair and started dragging me towards my room while "grounding" me.  I grabbed a fist full of her hair and told her quite calmly I would let go when she did, then we could talk, but as long as she thought she could manhandle me she would get it right back.  It really wasn't in character for her to get physical, and to this day I have no idea why she did, but was no way I was going to go there. Too many of my friends had been abused.

8 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

so ... i'm betting you didn't do this crap with your kids

Nope. I found throwing a "mommy fit" much more effective.

Edited December 15, 2018 by Kitt

[Mikiesboy]

1 minute ago, Reader1810 said:

@Mikiesboy So,  ❄️❄️❄️ on your birthday, eh? Hope it’s bright and sunny, too. 

yeah.. hopefully not too much ..lol

[mollyhousemouse]

13 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

so ... i'm betting you didn't do this crap with your kids

nope.....don't get me wrong, they got a swift swat on the behind once ot twice but that's all it was A. Swift. Swat.

mostly it was time outs & calm discussion we decided early that we wouldn't do those things

[Thorn Wilde]

Thanks, everyone. I found someone I know. Having a beer. Music is good.

 

About the swearing, though... isn’t it bizarre, really? We’ve constructed these languages, pure inventions of ours, and have arbitrarily decided that there are some words in those languages you’re not allowed to say. Except you can, if you replace a letter or two, then it’s fine. Isn’t it bizarre that we, a proverbial room full of grown-ass adults, write f*ck or feck or frak, as though we didn’t know exactly what what we’re saying?

[Mikiesboy]

2 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

Thanks, everyone. I found someone I know. Having a beer. Music is good.

 

About the swearing, though... isn’t it bizarre, really? We’ve constructed these languages, pure inventions of ours, and have arbitrarily decided that there are some words in those languages you’re not allowed to say. Except you can, if you replace a letter or two, then it’s fine. Isn’t it bizarre that we, a proverbial room full of grown-ass adults, write f*ck or feck or frak, as though we didn’t know exactly what what we’re saying?

feck and shyte  because of Da Rules here .. if this was hangouts. ... meh, say what you want and spell it correctly

[mollyhousemouse]

14 minutes ago, mollyhousemouse said:

nope.....don't get me wrong, they got a swift swat on the behind once ot twice but that's all it was A. Swift. Swat.

mostly it was time outs & calm discussion we decided early that we wouldn't do those things

we also would set expectations at home &  before going anywhere

[mollyhousemouse]

9 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

Thanks, everyone. I found someone I know. Having a beer. Music is good.

oh Thorn 

so glad you went!

[Reader1810]

8 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

feck and shyte  because of Da Rules here .. if this was hangouts. ... meh, say what you want and spell it correctly

Actually, you can say the words now, just not excessively in the same post. Personally, I  the Irish lilt feck and shyte evoke.