PrivateTim

I am pretty shocked (not really since I have seen it up close) that a bunch of people (gblt) who don't want to be judged by people for whom they choose to sleep with can turn around and use phrases like "nastiest thing ever" and "disgusted by" on who somebody else chooses to sleep with. I have a lot of older gay friends, 50's to 70's and there is nothing I love more than hearing their stories of gay life in the 1950's through the 1990's. One friend met his first partner when he was 17, the partner was 54. They were together for twenty years until the older partner passed away from natural causes. So here he was, suddenly single again at 37 and he never really dated so he had to start from scratch in 1977. He met a 19 year old lifeguard at the beach and they fell in love and became partnered for ten years until the younger partner drowned during a bad rescue. In both cases there was a pretty good age range, but it never mattered to them, why should anyone else give a flying frig? What I find disgusting is the comments I hear from my friends and I am out with them and an old guy comes in with a younger guy. Or the comments I hear about a guy in his 50's or 60's in a club. Most of the stupid little gints making the comments have no idea that the club they are in or the bars and restaurants on Santa Monica Blvd (West Hollywood) wouldn't exist and sure wouldn't be open air and have patios where cars driving can see who is in them except for those old men they revile who made it possible through their struggle to be treated equally. If a 65 year old can get an 18 year old for what ever reason, that is their business.

I blame JP for a lot of Jeff's issues and he threw Jeff aside for a second time (Andre being the first) for a guy he knew only 4 months, Sam. I think it especially bad given that he first hooked up with Jeff when Jeff was only a junior in high school so I blame JP for retarding Jeff's growth and maturity. I find JP incredibly self absorbed and selfish emotionally and personally. Giving away material possessions doesn't make you not selfish, in fact I know a lot of guys in the gay community who are 'generous' like JP, but in reality it is all about them, not the person on the receiving end. I am a few chapters into the Land Whore and resent JP even more at how easily he moved on from Jeff given that Jeff is the probably father of two of his kids and how easily he let the kids forget "Papa".

When you go to Roscoe's House of Chicken & Waffles you have to have a side order of deep fried chicken livers if you don't get an E-Z Ed's Omelet that is stuffed with chicken livers.

Five chapters into 1968 I am liking JP even less..........

Oh gawd, in Arbour's wildest wet dream was he ever that cute

So I finished Chronicles of an Academic Predator. I really like walking through the 1960's and the interplay of history and people's lives. What I don't like is most of the sex, to me it distracts from a great story of personal relationships and people interrelating. I'm also not terribly fond of JP, I think he is a bit of a bully. Or I should say I liked the JP of the first few chapters when he was more contained, more cautious and more considerate. There also seems to be a lot of guys wanting to have sex and finding each other pretty easily which wasn't all that easy in the early 1960's if I understand how gay life was back then. And given the number of gay guys who could have been pissed at JP and ruined his career at a conservative campus like Northwestern in the 1960's it seems like there should have been some drama from Willie, Ronnie, Scott or Jason. Anyway, as I work my way through the series I hope I come to like JP better.

Not from "it gets better", but Ellen.

While I have been a pretty consistent reader of the Bridgemont series I never read CAP because the "predator" word turned me off. But I finally decided to break down and read it and I am liking it. I am only in Chapter 19, but something really confuses me and I am sure it is discussed someplace, but I couldn't scroll through page after page looking for the topic. Why does JP do what he does with Scott Mallory? Surely JP had Scott right where he wanted him and he could have found stuff that was humiliating like scrubbing toilets, etc. to "bully" him with, but with the sex stuff, surely the table is turned and that gives the power to Scott if he wanted to destroy JP. Maybe it is answered later on, but it seems out of the norm for cold, calculating JP.

Not to bruise your fragile psyche, but in Chapter 6 you talk about the "execution of Edmond Jouhaud", but he was merely sentenced to die, the execution never took place and he was actually rehabilitated under Mitterand. General Jouhaud died at age 90 in 1995.

That is the University of Southern California Marching Band. I can only say that Tommy's grandparents have warped him by taking him to USC football games. I am hoping a trip up north can restore him to normalcy.

I like the AFI lists, they take you through all the classics. Moulin Rouge gave me a headache with the movie never being on one scene longer than 3 seconds. No wonder youth have ADD. Chicago on the other hand was brilliant. Love musicals, My Fair Lady, Sound of Music, Paint Your Wagon, Funny Girl, Oklahoma, Show Boat, South Pacific, West Side Story, Fiddler on the Roof and the King and I. There are also the classic Westerns, She Wore a Yellow Ribbon, Stagecoach, High Noon, Big Country, Shane, How the West Was Won and Fort Apache. Or pick an actor and go through his work. My two faves are Cary Grant and Peter O'Toole, both could do any genre; drama, comedy, sports, western it didn't matter. Cary Grant's best are Bringing up Baby, His Girl Friday, Operation Petticoat, Walk, Don't Run, Father Goose, Arsenic and Old Lace, Houseboat, That Touch of Mink, North by Northwest.... gawd I could go on forever on his movies. Peter O'Toole has Lawrence of Arabia, The Stuntman, My Favorite Year, Zulu Dawn, Murphy's War, Lion In Winter, Beckett, How to Steal a Million, The Ruling Class, Goodbye Mr. Chips..... and many more. Love John Wayne, Jimmy Stewart, Katherine and Audrey Hepburn...... Damn I love movies......

Just make sure Mark Arbour isn't around..... snuggling and cuddling inevitably lead to sex in his stories

You misspelled it. It is Stanfurd. and it isn't even a really a university, they say so right in their name, Leland Stanfurd Junior University. See, they admit it! A junior university. Go Bears.

You have to sag then so people can see it.

This was the next to last Ugly Betty and it doesn't seem to have been discussed here. Ugly Betty was one of the best TV shows in recent memory and beautifully treated Justin Suarez's teen angst.

I would be interested in the methodology used to get the information. The numbers on the sexual activity of teens, especially the boys, seems low and out of sync with other surveys on sexual behaviors and with what I've observed anecdotally in my exposure to teens. In fact, the age at which teens become sexually active seems to drop every year.

If I were young again it would be Taylor from The Ordinary Us and Hello Stupid.

I think TMZ is just wrong for the invasion of privacy that they foist on all the celebrities, not just Bieber, but all of them. And I will go with Libera for fantastic young voices.

Like this pretty much.

To his Coy Mistressby Andrew Marvell Had we but world enough, and time, This coyness, lady, were no crime. We would sit down and think which way To walk, and pass our long love's day; Thou by the Indian Ganges' side Shouldst rubies find; I by the tide Of Humber would complain. I would Love you ten years before the Flood; And you should, if you please, refuse Till the conversion of the Jews. My vegetable love should grow Vaster than empires, and more slow. An hundred years should go to praise Thine eyes, and on thy forehead gaze; Two hundred to adore each breast, But thirty thousand to the rest; An age at least to every part, And the last age should show your heart. For, lady, you deserve this state, Nor would I love at lower rate. But at my back I always hear Time's winged chariot hurrying near; And yonder all before us lie Deserts of vast eternity. Thy beauty shall no more be found, Nor, in thy marble vault, shall sound My echoing song; then worms shall try That long preserv'd virginity, And your quaint honour turn to dust, And into ashes all my lust. The grave's a fine and private place, But none I think do there embrace. Now therefore, while the youthful hue Sits on thy skin like morning dew, And while thy willing soul transpires At every pore with instant fires, Now let us sport us while we may; And now, like am'rous birds of prey, Rather at once our time devour, Than languish in his slow-chapp'd power. Let us roll all our strength, and all Our sweetness, up into one ball; And tear our pleasures with rough strife Thorough the iron gates of life. Thus, though we cannot make our sun Stand still, yet we will make him run.

OCD