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My favorite gay thing is my boyfriend... ... he's gonna kick me, I just know it. LOL

I'm not out at work because it's totally irrelevant to what I do. I'm sure I could be out if I wanted to, but honestly I don't think it's anyone's business who I want to snuggle up to at night. I have worked and probably do work with some gay people. One of the old managers was gay, and he was painfully obvious. This is where I think I could be out since no one had a problem with it at all. In fact many of the other managers talked to him about his boyfriend just as if they're talking about their own husband/wife. He left a couple years ago. There is another guy working there in his 60s who I think is gay since it was a rumor at one point, and someone I used to work with said they saw him on a date with another man, but there's no confirmation. Since it's irrelevant, no one lolly gags on the topic.

Sean Biggerstaff He played Oliver Wood in the first two potter films. Good looks, friendly mannerisms, Scottish accent... he's dreamy.

*is glad he sold it to a kid whose Dad knows a thing or two about maintenance and has a good mechanic friend, and not Kevvers or Galahad*

*sigh* I just sold my car. Yeah yeah I know, few of you could give two shits about it, but I'm sure ya'll are aware of how much I love my cars. Not nearly as much as I love my boyfriend , but you get the idea. I stuck a few For Sale signs on it and drove it to my uncle's house Monday, and he put it on his lawn that night. Supposedly his yard has magical powers for selling things quickly (except the house, apparently, lol), and I just confirmed it, having agreed on a selling price with the new owner and completed the sale a couple hours ago. The guy saw it on the side of the road yesterday and called me about it, I showed it to him early this morning, and he bought it for his 16-year-old son this evening. The kid loves the mufflers and what remaining audio equipment it has. I babied that thing for four years and now it's gone... but the good news is I might be giving a dealer an offer on a used car that they have tomorrow. We'll see how that pans out.

Kevvers is a virgin of something?? *runs and hides from Kevvers*

Welcome to the group, "Member".

... and your phone number.

You're called newbie because we own you! LET THE HAZING BEGIN!! Now go get me a beer, newbie. Hehe I'm just teasing you. Post a few times and the newbie status will change to member. *starts chanting "One of us... one of us... one of us..."*

Not at Rutgers in Piscataway/New Brunswick. There's a "Gay Frat" right on Frat Row within spitting distance of downtown New Brunswick. I only know of it since I went to the first GSA meeting of the year last September and a really cute guy showed up and presented the Frat to us, inviting us to a party (it's also incidentally well known for the best parties). The school itself is rather progressive and I doubt that I would have any trouble if I walked around campus holding hands with my boyfriend. Even on the engineering campus, where I swear even some of the girls have penises. I could probably go to frat parties or rush most frats and not have trouble. The one place I might have trouble is ROTC, but that's a given.

What are you talking about? The children in the game are VERY realistic!

You don't need mods for any of that stuff. In the neighborhood view, call up the cheat box (Ctrl+Shift+C) and type "boolProp TestingCheatsEnabled true" into it. It's a very powerful cheat code that lets you produce the Tombstone of Life and Death (lets you do practically ANYTHING) and allows you to keep their needs at full strength all the time. It also allows you maximize their skills. I stopped at Seasons and I mainly build. Playing gets boring since it's the same crap over and over. There is no cheat or mod for gay marriage. I have many gay couples that are married just like the heteros.

So... they spend quality time fixing the kid? Ouch.

[Austin Powers] "Twins, Bazzle!" [/Austin Powers] Oh, behave! hehe sorry

Yeah I skipped over anything having to do with material possessions. You can have everything or you can have nothing and still have a successful relationship together. Although, it's not unheard of for possessions to end relationships. In my Grand Prix community, several marriages have ended because the guy spent all his time with his car, modding it and racing it. Then again, if both people like the possession, then having/using it can solidify a relationship or fix a failing relationship. As if they both liked a certain car, so the guy buys one from a junk yard and they spend quality time fixing it, then driving it. But then, I would say the possession was merely a catalyst and not the true reason for making the couple successful.

In the first part, I picked: The happiness each person experiences - If you aren't happy, then the relationship suffers. This is evident with a friend of mine, who claims he makes her happy when it's painfully obvious that he doesn't. The relationship has been on and off for years and it seems like they're together only to make their parents happy. The opportunity each person has for personal growth - If one obstructs the other in their growth, be it financially or academically, then at least one person will be unhappy. See above. The degree of trust each person has in the other - I think this one kind of speaks for itself. If you don't trust your lover, then the relationship will be short lived. The number of common interests and activities the partners share - This is subjective. Personally I feel it is the differing interests and therefore lack of common interests that aid in making a relationship successful. Having different interests gives each person the chance to learn more about their lover each day. Having similar interests gets boring and after a while, you might feel more like friends than lovers when doing things together, and I think romantic ventures might eventually feel weird. Others might feel differently on this. Personally, since John is so interested in sports (particularly foreign sports) and I am not, I have been able to learn about things that I otherwise would have never learned, and I enjoy every second of it. That said, there is a degree between these differences that needs to be considered. An Eagles fan probably won't get along with a Cowboys fan. I'm not saying it's impossible, but they should probably attend separate sports parties when those teams play each other. The ability of the relationship to provide for the physical health and needs of each partner - I think it's all too common that when physical needs can't be met, the relationship deteriorates, and not always in the physical sense. It's usually a mental one as the one that can't provide very well feels guilty and therefore unhappy. This isn't significant, as solutions can always be found. The general affection each partner has for the other - How can you not love someone and be happy in a relationship with them? I forget which one I chose to be the most significant but honestly I think the question has no answer at all. There isn't really any one single thing that is the most important in a relationship. It's like saying horsepower is the most important thing in a car. You can say that all you want, but other people will value torque, while others will value fuel efficiency. It's all relative, but the important thing is all those things have to come together to make a truly great car. Someone said length is the most important thing, and I can't disagree more. Length of time in a successful relation is actually undefined. Much like the summation or difference of an even function with an odd function. *looks around at all the dazed and confused faces and curses Advanced Calculus* If there is a finite length of time to a relationship, that means that the relationship has failed and subsequently ended. Had the relationship been successful, it would still exist. Therefore a successful relationship has an as yet undetermined length of time. As the marriage vows go, "till death do you part" is the only variable that can truly define the length of time of a successful relationship.

Carrots are gross. I don't have a policy. I've gone on only several dates and they've all been with the same person. Incidentally we made it official shortly after the first date. *puts on Engineer's hardhat* That's not enough data to even remotely suggest a trend. *removes Engineer's hardhat* With any luck, I won't need to see a trend! EDIT: I just realized how suggestive that statement was LOL. NO we didn't sleep with each other after the first date. After the first date, he asked me to be his boyfriend through IM (the only way to do it since we live so far apart). Like Krista, I don't kiss and tell, but we've had monthly dates since the first one, so the data set has yet to suggest any sort of trend. Yeah I know, I said I took off the hardhat. You can take the hat off the engineer, but he'll strike you down with a Mechanics or a Calculus text before he lets you take it away.

Sorry, his closet is too small and full of other stuff. We've kissed in his room, on his bed, on his roommate's bed, in my car, in his dorm parking garage, in the Union Station parking garage, in a park next to the Lincoln Memorial, walking alongside the lake bordering the FDR memorial, DuPont Circle Park, an ice cream parlor near DCP, the entrance to his school, through my driver's window, in front of the mirror in his floor's bathroom, and some other places that need not be mentioned. Before he reads this and I get into trouble, none of these kisses were intense/sexual. Many of them were sweet, and many of them were simple quick lip kisses, kinda like married couples kissing each other farewell while one goes out for a little while. Not hot and passionate and animalistic. You don't need to know about those kisses. ... and all of the kisses I've shared with other people have been with just one guy.

Sorry Galahad, I don't have big enough bewbies for a wet t-shirt contest.

*throws cold water on Galahad*

1987 - Born in Boynton Beach, Florida, lived in Boca Raton, Florida until I was 9. Technically we lived in a place called "West Boca", supposedly the richer area, but it's not an actual place on a map, so Boca Raton was our mailing address. 1996 - Moved to Flemington, New Jersey. 2005 - Graduated HS and moved to Pomona, New Jersey, 20 minutes west of Atlantic City, New Jersey, where I attended college for 3 years. I lived there for six semesters and lived at home in F-town during summer and winter breaks. Governor John Corzine's government SUV made it's famous 90 MPH wreck less than a mile from where I was. I remember the helicopters roaring overhead as I walked to class as they carried him to the hospital in nearby Galloway Township. 2008 - Moved back to F-town. Sometimes I get the urge to move closer to my current school, Rutgers University in New Brunswick/Piscataway, but it's cheaper to commute every day. I hope to be living in Denver/Boulder/Golden, Colorado or Oak Ridge, Tennessee for a period of 10 weeks this summer. We'll see.

Joe, I didn't realize you were such a ladies man! Hehe at least you have a cute GM to lay on. I'd rather jump into rush hour traffic than even so much as hang out with my managers or supervisors.

Don't make me spray you all with a hose...

OMG there's a Tim sighting! lol Anyway... I prefer masculine guys because I honestly find the effeminate type to be rather annoying. Expanding on that, I mean it only in the sense of a loving partnership or sorts. If they're willing and we're compatible, I'll befriend them in a heartbeat, but I won't invite them to spend the rest of our lives together. Having fashion sense is okay, but letting it control the way you think would get very annoying very fast. Lucky for me, my boyfriend has a fashion sense, but always has his attention on sports. I hate many sports and find others to be boring, but John manages to make some of them interesting and tolerable, and I enjoy watching some with him. I call myself masculine for a couple of reasons. The first reason I will present by saying that I know exactly what a catalytic converter does (did a report on it in HS chemistry), I know the difference between a twin-screw supercharger and a turbocharger, and how to install a turbocharger into a supercharged vehicle without the need for a new upper intake manifold, and I quite enjoy myself lying on my back on cold concrete under 4000 pounds worth of car, watching the oil drain (okay, more like 2000 pounds distributed even on two points, but I digress). Matter of fact, give a healthy amount of PB Blaster, I can change the pads and rotors at all four corners of a car in under an hour (beginning after the PB Blaster has had time to set on the caliper bolts) in most 4-wheel disc brake applications. I've had my gay card taken away probably 3 times now by Eric, Dan, and Trebs. John took away my sports card, but no one can take away my car card, and that plants me firmly in the masculine ring. Would I invite an effeminate to dinner? Define dinner. If it's dinner with family, then probably not since friends do not ordinarily partake in family dinners. If it was dinner amongst friends and I had one or more effeminate gay men as friends who had nothing better to do with their night, weren't already joining us, and would mesh well with the other friends present, yes I would invite them. Yes there are a lot of stipulations there and there is a reason for that. I highly doubt Kevin would want join me and my local car club members for dinner, when all they talk about are mods on their cars and 1/4-mile times and or other car-related stories. On the flip side, none of my car friends would particularly enjoy themselves having dinner with me, Kevin, and a few of my other effeminate friends. I wonder how many times I've used Kevin as an example in the past... lol

Well at least they're working to correct the problem. The language of that policy is indeed horrendous.