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I hated the 3 way, but aside from that, it's one of my favorite stories ever!

Uh, if you find the fact that in most cultures out there, gay people are not accepted like straight people "depressing" as a thought, then yes, "today is not the day" will also make you feel 'depressed'. It is a FACT that, though in a lot of culture things are moving in a positive direction (for gay people), today is still not the day where we can all express ourselves openly without any fear or anything. The world keeps evolving, and no matter how far we have come forward, today will never be the day where we will all become perfect and stop evolving socially. Is it depressing? yes, but then, the fact that things are at least changing is a positive (ala, non-depressing) thought. So, as a whole, I wouldn't say "today is not the day" is a depressing line because the line itself implies there has been some definitive improvements. Sorry, but that just made me giggle.

Because being a gay is a difference social experience than being straight. Live in a country where you can be punished (even death) for your sexuality, where your parents can disown you, lock you up in the house, or simply take you to some pseudopsychiatrists and give you "alternative medicines" to "cure" your sexuality, where your friends and jobs and your mental health and sanity are dependent on your sexuality ... well, coming out ain't just difficult. Sometimes it's an impossibility. It's such a strong taboo -- and unknown issue -- that a lot of people can't even come out to themselves, let alone their family members or friend circles. But things are changing. Can we hope for a day when there won't be any coming out, because our parents and everyone will simply assume the person is either a straight or gay or bi, and won't bother? Yes, maybe, but today is not the day.

I know it's better to be single than in the wrong relationship. But I am not sure if it's good to remain alone for a very long time, especially if you don't have proper company, friends & family with you. Masturbation can only give you so much. You need that 'personal touch', the feeling that the person means so much to you, and the ability to share, love, understand. And I am not the one to jump into bed with people just to 'get off'; I wouldn't, can't actually, do it unless I feel I can stay with him forever. However, my condition is such that dating is nearly impossible. Not least because it is a very conservative country/family I come from. I am terribly introverted/unsocial, to the point that it is a psychological disease actually. I have been diagnosed with psychological depression at a very early age. I don't talk, can't share things, and loose my temper and attention easily. Who would like to stay with me, and do I have the capability to get into and sustain a long-term relationship at all? I don't like these dating sites either. If it happens, it must happen naturally. But I worry I can't make it happen naturally either without damaging another side of my life. Given my conditions, I don't think I will ever be able to get into a long-term relation. I already do feel lonely. I was just wondering, to those of you who are single, can you go on with your life without feeling depressed that you don't have the 'one person' with you that we all desire? How terrible and powerful is this desire? Can we go on with our life happily and without much of a problem without a partner or does it become a serious issue? Cheers, (my random nonsense thoughts)

Does it hurt? We are all biologically, psychologically, emotionally wired to feel attracted. Does it bother you that you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend around you? Personally, I am okay most of the time. As much romantic and idealistic I maybe, I try to keep myself busy with other works, forgetting that somewhere, my body and mind aches for a lover. However, there are times, when you just can't stop that desire, and you feel so, so depressed. Like you really need to have his arm around your shoulder, but you can't find the person, because you just are single. Especially during the teenage years, the thought of being single can be distressing. Overall, those who are single here @ this forum, do you wish you could be with someone now? Is it because you haven't found the right match, haven't felt so strongly for anyone etc?

Frankly, due to inbreeding problems, I don't mind it remaining illegal (though gay men/women is different, and also I understand some not having any control over their feelings) but death penalty for these things seem a bit too much.

The initial feeling of what we call love is to me, hormonal, and is better called infatuation. It is when you really stay with a person, puts up with all his shits and heputs up with all your problems, when you want to stay with a person with all his problems -- that's LOVE. Also, no point in overanalysing it as someone said. These emotional issues are difficult to define (and even understand), and that's precisely is the reason why love gets to be soo much discussed. It's a beautiful thing, one understand when one is really 'in' it.

Much as I dislike everything to do with this franchise, I've still come to decide that the book isn't quite as trashy as I initially assumed it would be.

Well, while I did enjoy reading D&CW more than I enjoyed reading most other fictions (though it was often too bleak for my taste), I'll offer some constructive criticisms here. I think, while the prose, characterization, psychological depth and everything was top notch in the story, the plotting got a bit ... how do I put it ... convoluted and jumped into all directions, like a soap opera. Still, whatever is left is an excellent piece of work, but I do believe you can make it even better with a more well-constructed plot, which means you might need to start from the beginning. P.S. Good to see you post something after a very long time. P. S. S. Please don't ruin Jacob and Matt's (since you brought them) relationship here ... and it might be silly to ask, but GIVE CODY A HAPPY ENDING!!! edit - As for rewriting stories, once a story is done, I think it's better to keep it that way. Sure, if one wishes to hone their writing talent, it's better to try that out with a new story and a few new people in it, than over-critique their former works. Once someone goes into that kind of territory, it will never cease to stop disturbing them, and they will want to rewrite and edit their works forever, no matter how many times it's been done. Living in Surreality is perfect with all its imperfections (which are bound to be there on an art form).

Priceless advice there, especially the bold bit, I will keep track of this. Thanks everyone My main problem I think is with my ADHD - can't do anything straight for more than like 5 minutes. I've such poor attention span.

In my childhood I could write like no one's business. I just wrote, wrote and wrote. Now I have to labor myself all day to even finish a page. I so wish I could write a story. So many ideas keep coming but when it's time to jot them down I just...can't go any further than a few pages. Is it because of my ADHD? Is it because of changing language (to English) from my mother tongue? Is it because I am becoming a perfectionist? I just don't know. Anyone else here too suffer from the same problem? That they could write non-stop earlier but now can't do that with the same force?

Live in a country where you can be legally killed for being a queer, live with parents who'd disown you or be filled with shame at your queerness, live with friends who just can't stand gay guys...heck, when even the all-loving and merciful God who's created you look down upon you (as per your scripture or how ppl interpret them) well, one'd know where the self-hate would come from. I can write a thesis on this issue, but I'd end it here. This might be a once-in-a-lifetime-event, but I cent percent agree with you and liked what you've said. Your words resonated with me very much.

Oh and a very beautiful tribute. :-) Heartwarming. You bring out the memories I have with one of my childhood friends. He must be so proud of you somewhere.

Rest in peace. Was he a GA member? If there is an afterlife, I hope you will get to meet him there.

Congrats to her and all the best for her future. Why did she say she won't work? In any case, it's good to know she's had the guts to come out.

Mobile - Nokia (though use a Samsung now) Drinks - Coke/Pepsi Laptop - Sony/Lenovo OS - WIndows, Symbian, Android.

I wanted to try out a windows phone (Nokia one of coure) but ended up with the good old Samsung SII. Which one do you use? I am assuming Nokia?

Matt, do you use the black one or the white?

Happy Birthday Matty! You are one of the most friendliest person here! Hope you have a great year ahead and that all your dreams come true! And do let us know what Cammy has got planned for you! (if it ain't too personal...or am I just being too nosy? ;-) )

In the end we are all bisexuals I think. We just lean towards one end, or scattered in between. I don't think anyone is exclusively 100% gay or straight. Besides one can love someone without being physically attracted to him or her. That's possible for even romantic love.

Ipod which I hardly use. Never felt at ease using it. Can safely say I am not an i-person. But yeah the phone design and build quality looks GREAT.

No wonder. Loved her in Hunger Games. Very good actress and very pretty as well.

Visually?

But you have tasted only one!

If you count the one I was born it...then one. Yeah amazing. *hides*