There are plenty of Gay men who have dreamed all their lives of planning a wedding, but never thought the wedding would be their own. In the past, they did wedding planning as a career. They had to enjoy the pomp and ceremony vicariously. Those men aren’t the majority of Gay men, but they do form a significant segment of our community. ;–)
Men are not targeted by all the marketers of wedding clothing, decorations, venues, musicians/DJs, photographers, wedding magazines and other providers. Boys are not socialized (ie programmed) to dream of their one special day. Boys are not encouraged to fantasize about being a prince for a day.
On the contrary, boys are discouraged from expressing emotions other than anger. Boys are told that men don’t cry. Boys are expected to man up. Our culture is creating generation after generation of aggressive, but emotionless robots.