Nephylim

I'm a thoroughly modern witch ... I fly a Dyson

If you love someone you love someone and you are faithful to them. If you are happy in the relationship you don't look elsewhere... boy or girl because you love the person and not the gender. I don't think that bisexuals are any more likely to be unfaithful simply because they don't label their partners so rigidly. Speaking as someone who has had exactly 2 sexual partners in her entire life both of which I was married to and with for 15 year + each and both of whom cheated on me in the end... my personal phylosophy is that if someone is happy in their relationship they don't cheat. If they are not happy then it really doesn't matter who they cheat with... it's the state of the relationship that's important not what happens because of it. Although I could not continue a relationship with someone who cheats on me I can still apprecaite why they did it and I have remained friends with both my former partners.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

There really isn't much to add to what has already been said. The very fact that you came on here to look for help says a lot about the kind of friend you are. As a mother I can honstly say there is nothing in the world as bad as seeing your child sick or in pain and I feel for what this poor person must be going through. As someone who has lost many people in their life...not a child touch wood... I would say the most important thing is to be alert for when they want to talk about it and when they don't. People react in different ways and by and large others try to avoid the subject like the plague but sometimes it is a relief to talk to someone about the anger, fear, pain etc. Just be open hun and be there. If you need to talk, to rant, to scream and shout we are here.

Until fairly recently I had only ever driven manuals. I have a semi automatic now which is way cool but I think I will be going back to manual next. It is too boring driving an automatic.. too many lapses in concentration

The eyes have it LOL You are beautiful.

*sigh* me too.... that would be, I think 4am

*sigh* My favourite

I like my coffee strong black and plentiful. It's pretty much the only non alcoholic drink I drink. I can't stand carbonated drinks they just make me feel bloated and sick. I think that society is a little too hysterical about what we eat. At the end of the day my mantra is... eat as big a variety of food as I can whenever I want it. I do keep a nether eye on fat sugar and carb intake and try to make my diet as healthy and varied as I can and it seems to be working. I never read the ingredients... no point it means nothing. But generally a little packacged chemical intake as long as it is balanced by plenty of fresh fruit and veg, is not likely to be doing me any harm. On the other hand the reports that dead bodies are failing to decompose and that men are becoming less and less fertile are slightly worrying.

The best form of defence is attack

Spring rain falls, hides tears death leaves companion cold saying farewell love.

Thanks

With THOSE eyes who notices the glasses

I can understand why you were hesitant to post but I am so glad you did. I think what you have said underlines the saddest thing of all about abuse... that so often the people being abused don't even see it until they are out of the abusive situation/relationship, or they think that it is their fault. That is why education is important. Why it is important to speak up and to show the world that beautiful, strong, intelligent people can sometimes fall prey to abuse and that gives hope to those who are still in that situation to realise that they are not weak, stupid, ugly or somehow 'deserving' of that kind of treatment. It also gives hope to show that people who have been abused are not necessarily traumatized, broken people, but can be strong and get past it. As someone who has been there myself and who fights it every day I salute you.

Welcome Kalen. Loving your story so far

I have a happy dance too... usually do it to jazz and only when I am strictly alone. Have some wine and a son free evening so I think some happy dancing is on the cards... just for you Steve. If ever we meet you can hit me with your prosthesis for the images that might conjure in a healthy mind

Great News. That is definately a move in the right direction. Although there is a lot of work, pain and tears ahead they will be productive ones and our thoughts are with him all the way

I never knew that. Thank you for teaching me something new today

Liking it. If I wasn't already half way to hell I would definately not make you a sandwich

How about spontaneous molecular deconstruction whilst being attacked by a shark, who was struck by lightening during a meteor shower? Or do you think that might be a little excessive? As an alternative how about accidentally cutting his own throat whilst shaving

Abuse is a great leveller and has no prejudices at all. It can happen to anyone at any time. As a family lawyer I see it every day. parent/child; child/parent: man/woman; woman/man: man/man; woman/woman: black/white; white/black: Any combination, any age, any time. As has rightly been said above it is often insidious and begins as general 'putting down' robbing the person of their self esteem and self respect so that by the time the physical stuff starts the person has nowhere else to go, does not believe they can live without the other person and half the time is convinced that the abuse is their fault. I have acted for people who have left their abuser time after time. The police stop taking action, people stop listening. They've heard it all before. The spiral gets deeper and deeper and then gets passed on to the next generation. It's tragic. It is very important to get the message out that people who are abused, raped, assaulted etc ARE NOT WEAK. They are not bad people and they are not failures. Like everyone else on the planet they have made some bad choices and it is NEVER TOO LATE to make good ones. Speak to as many people as you can and let them know what's going on... families, friends, counsellors, doctors.... anyone who can help in any way, even if it is only to give evidence later on that you have told people about it. If you are in the uk there is a law called the Protection From Harassment Act which makes it illegal for anyone to act in such a way as it puts another person in fear for their safety or in such a way as it threatens, harasses or pesters another person. This is the so called 'stalker' legislation. It is also a criminal offence to assault someone (an assault can be as simple as a push or even a slap on the shoulder), threaten to kill someone, put one or more people in fear for their safety, incite hatred towards someone becuase of their race, colour or sexual orientation..... The point is the legislation is there. THe police often don't want to do anything about it and will even tell people that there is nothing they CAN do but this is because so many people in relationship situations back out before it goes anywhere. (By the way if you make a statement to the police about any criminal offence they can proceed to prosecute even if you later withdraw the statement). However, if pressed they have to. If the police won't or can't help then go see a solicitor and get and injunction / restraining order. More than anything believe in yourself and that it is NEVER ok for anyone, no matter who they are to make you feel worthless or abuse you physically or emotionally. It is NEVER your fault. Oops sorry... slipped into rant mode.

I wish you peace. May you find it where you will. May it rise from the most unexpected horizons and bless you with it's gentleness in your darkest and most violent hours. I will not seek to excuse or condemn. I will not seek to caution or turn aside your purpose. No trite words, no empty sentiments. I just wish you peace at the end wherever that may be.

Purple flowers sway Scented air filled with sighing Underneath, coffin. Nostrils flared, eyes wide Pulse racing with deep desire Open vein, fresh red blood Morning blush, birds sing Tangled sheets cold but fragrant Scent of last night's love This is harder than it looks. Oh well... never claimed to be a poet

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY Hope you don't live in he UK because it gets so much less fun when it's legal