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Hopeless Love


Nephylim

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What is it about falling in love with someone you know you can't have?

 

From a serious crush on a movie star to the straight boy/girl, it happens so many times I was wondering if there was any reason why our emotions let us down so badly in these situations... and this is what I came up with.

 

Falling in love with someone you can't have is safe.

 

Okay it's painful and angsty and heartbreaking and desperate but it's safe.

 

You know you can't have them, that there's no chance it will ever happen so you can dream about it, wish for it, long for it... all you want and you know that you are never going to have to take a risk with it, open yourself, expose yourself (in the emotional NOT the sexual way)

 

As much as it hurts you can't get rejected, you can't have your self esteem torn to shreds, you don't have to take risks, accept consequences. It allows us to explore our sexuality through fantasy without the risk of action.

 

A serious crush is something that every teenage girl can tell you about, but do we ever grow out of it?

 

Hell no :)

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Objectivist

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I think I'm just prone to wanting things I can't have.

ricky

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An interesting observation. Perhaps it is just a desire to mate with perfection. Our selective nature mandates that we try and pick the best to mate with. Even if procreation is not possible. By selective mating we are drawn to the more perfect. I think we are genetically predisposed to natural selection.

 

Remember that before we were social animals, permission was never asked. You found the one you wanted and if you were the stronger, you took them for your own and they remained yours until death or until they were taken by another OR a more perfect specimen was found.

 

Perhaps it is a carry over from our primal urges.

Just another thought.

Nephylim

Posted

I like your version better LOL

ricky

Posted

I like your version better LOL

 

That's only because you are so proficient with the fire tongs. lol

phana14

Posted

That's only because you are so proficient with the fire tongs. lol

Ricky, heh

Nephy's mellowing. A tiny bit at a time.

Nephylim

Posted

I AM NOT !! :devil::P

ricky

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No, he's right. You are. You used to use the poker and the shovel. Now you tease with the brush and the fire tongs.

Of course it lets you punish us longer and they're moans and gasps :wub: instead of screams and wails. :devil:

Daisy139

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I very much agree with wanting to mate with the best available....to a certain degree this may just be programmed into us.

I also noticed form my own experience that I tend to have a crush on someone who seems perfect to me and then project everything into that person I would want from the perfect partner / relationship. It's so easy and fantasizing about that perfect relationship (when you're single and not happy about it) is like a feel-good movie you can play and direct in your head at any time with that supposedly perfect person starring in the lead....

 

Very interesting question.

Mark Arbour

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You can't possibly have that problem. Who doesn't love you?wub.gif

Nephylim

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You can't possibly have that problem. Who doesn't love you?wub.gif

 

Jonny Depp :(

Mark Arbour

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Jonny Depp :(

 

OK. There's one guy. I'm wondering, though, if our standards aren't a little too high when we're aiming at the Hollywood glitterati? Or too low, depending on how you view them. biggrin.gif

ricky

Posted

 

Jonny Depp :(

 

Why would you want Johnny Depp when there is me? I'm three times the man he is. :thumbdown:

 

Literally if you measure. :blink:

Nephylim

Posted

Mark and ricky you both make excellent points.

 

Tell you what... if you dress up as a pirate and show me you're hook, I'll walk your plank and to hell with Jonny

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