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Davey

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Yesterday we did stocktake at work. To some of you that will be inventory I guess

Well when your standing with a scanning gun in your hand counting your mind has plenty time to wander.

I got to thinking about this whole situation with Jon and his acceptance of his sexuality. Ok so im aware that its not been an overnight flash in his brain where he's suddenly thought 'shit im gay!' But it has kind of taken me by surprise how comfortable he seems.

When I first came out to myself I was a mess, I thought my life as I knew it had ended and I'd end up being bullied for the rest of my life. Stupid I know but I was scared.

 

He called Chris this afternoon to ask him if he'd go home for a few hours on saturday because he wants to talk to his Dad and would like the moral support. Im amazed! The first person I told was Chris and it took me six months before I told anyone else. I didn't tell my parents for like a year and a half. Of course I never actually got to tell them that was done for me :(

 

He seems so strong for his age, part of me is worried he's just riding out the buzz from having told us and is going to come crashing down. I dont know what to do, only last weekend he was telling us how he wanted to wait before he told his Dad, and now he seems to have made a complete 180

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Dave...well the best person to know how your father in law will react is Chris since he went through it already.

 

My guess is that his Dad, who seems to be accepting and loving, will just want Jon to be happy and feel loved and to love....I bet it will be more then fine.

 

and yes, I do remember that "coming out" buzz and the occassional crash afterwards...its such a freedom like experience. I was like you and came out gradually and over time....and had many of the feelings you had..some well founded, others just silly, as whom would and would not accept me and even though I was into adulthood, those feelings are scarey.

 

I am betting that Jon's peers will be ok (althoug I was in Barnes and Noble on Saturday in one of those comfy chairs....in the same area were 4 teenagers (str8 couples it appeared) and one girl kept commenting about a magazine she was reading and said "eww..how Gay" or "eww..I heard he is Gay" like it was some horrible disease...I was getting angrier by the second....but sadly wasn't given the chance at eye contact or else I they would have gotten an earful (sadly, I kept thinking that she would be the type like Janey who Gay bashes and I gathered her boyfriend and the other guy would be there helping her it and I said a silent prayer for the Gays and Lesbians she probably taunts) So, my "Rainbow" rose colored glasses came off (figurately speaking) and realized that even amongst the younger generation there still is homophobia..

 

I am hoping Jon will experience acceptance and where he doesn't out in the world he will find comfort in that its someone else's issues and hopefully ignorance can change with educting people but to always remember its not him, its their baggage..

 

I am betting Jon will be fine..more then fine:)

 

Good Luck and tell him and Chris we are rooting for them when they meet with their Dad/your Dad-in-law:)

 

Michael

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That's what I'm thinking too. He already knows how his Dad will react, and the consequences. I'm sure he knows that not every coming out will be easy. But he also has two big bros that will help him fight :2hands: and dry the tears away.

 

Tob :ph34r:

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