[DomLuka] Some people just don't take a hint!

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Does anyone else have annoying neighbours that come over uninvited all the time? I live in an apartment block for students and the guy downstairs moved in at the same time that me and my flatmates did, I even had classes with him, before I switched major. Anyway, he comes to our flat all the damn time, I swear he reaches stalker levels sometimes. One time we just ignored him so he rang the flat, which we also ignored, so then he called my flatmate from a disguised number (so it wouldn't appear on caller I.D.)...it's just too much. I wouldn't mind so much if he was a nice guy but he's not, he's really really frickin' annoying!!! Anything you've done he's done 10 times better, and more often. My bf and I have taken to retreating to my room whenever he knocks on the door. I feel bad for him since he's obviously really bored and lonely, but y'know what, this isn't a holiday camp and I'm not here to entertain him...*frustrated yell* gah, sorry about that, my bf is in the shower, and I needed to rant about annoying people, lol. Anyway, I hope you all have much more pleasant neighbours than I do. I think I'm going to see if my bf needs his back scrubbing...

 

Ben

[Rocketcnj]

Does anyone else have annoying neighbours that come over uninvited all the time? I live in an apartment block for students and the guy downstairs moved in at the same time that me and my flatmates did, I even had classes with him, before I switched major. Anyway, he comes to our flat all the damn time, I swear he reaches stalker levels sometimes. One time we just ignored him so he rang the flat, which we also ignored, so then he called my flatmate from a disguised number (so it wouldn't appear on caller I.D.)...it's just too much. I wouldn't mind so much if he was a nice guy but he's not, he's really really frickin' annoying!!! Anything you've done he's done 10 times better, and more often. My bf and I have taken to retreating to my room whenever he knocks on the door. I feel bad for him since he's obviously really bored and lonely, but y'know what, this isn't a holiday camp and I'm not here to entertain him...*frustrated yell* gah, sorry about that, my bf is in the shower, and I needed to rant about annoying people, lol. Anyway, I hope you all have much more pleasant neighbours than I do. I think I'm going to see if my bf needs his back scrubbing...

 

Ben

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Ben...well at least scrubbing your BF's back is a great way to end the day...Now, how about you adn your flat mates and your BF get together and sit down and figure out a nice way to talk to your neighbor about the need for personal space and privacy and that it would be best that to respect everyone's privacy in the building that people telephone first before coming over....and that given all your schedules it is inconvenient for him to just drop in...and you will follow the same rules as far as his privacy......of course it won't help to scream or get upset and if he doesn't observe the house rules, then you all need to figure out something else...since you don't need him stalking or something worse....he may just not be aware that he is being inconsiderate or can't see outside the box of his ow loneliness or his "me me me" attitude that he is better then others....either that or find him a BF if he is Gay or a GF if he is str8....so he has someone to spend time with....

 

in my neighborhood we all are polite to each other and say hello, engage in light chit chat and respect each others privacy..I am lucky since its a cool townhouse complex and we all look out for each other....

 

maybe you can check with your other neighbors and get their view points and see how you can all sa that nicely to him.....and don't direct it at him but just in general but so he gets the point..you are all busy and in the few spare moments you have its nice to have privacy in one's own home and good manners dictate that you all call first before coming over and not ring door bells etc.....

 

sort of create a group house rules kind of thing.

 

I hope that helps.

 

Michael

[Mark Arbour]

Now, how about you adn your flat mates and your BF get together and sit down and figure out a nice way to talk to your neighbor about the need for personal space and privacy and that it would be best that to respect everyone's privacy in the building that people telephone first before coming over....and that given all your schedules it is inconvenient for him to just drop in...and you will follow the same rules as far as his privacy......

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Or you could just lock your door and not answer it when he shows up. Eventually he'll get the hint.

[Masked Monkey]

Now, how about you adn your flat mates and your BF get together and sit down and figure out a nice way to talk to your neighbor about the need for personal space and privacy and that it would be best that to respect everyone's privacy in the building that people telephone first before coming over....and that given all your schedules it is inconvenient for him to just drop in...and you will follow the same rules as far as his privacy......

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Or you could just lock your door and not answer it when he shows up. Eventually he'll get the hint.

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I find a large growling dog with his nose in their crotch gets the point across quite well.

 

Snow Dog the Domaholic Danderthal

[dkstories]

Tell him nicely you have no interest in being his friend and to not come over anymore...no exceptions.

 

Then if he keeps on calling, or coming over, call your local police and file stalking charges, go to court and get a restraining order (or similar device). If you were American, then I'd tell you to buy a gun and shoot him when he tried to break the door down, but since you're British...um, hope the bobbies get there in time?

[Mark Arbour]

Tell him nicely you have no interest in being his friend and to not come over anymore...no exceptions.

 

Then if he keeps on calling, or coming over, call your local police and file stalking charges, go to court and get a restraining order (or similar device).  If you were American, then I'd tell you to buy a gun and shoot him when he tried to break the door down, but since you're British...um, hope the bobbies get there in time?

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Hey, aren't you the guy that writes all those bloody vampire stories? What a wimp.

 

(j/k)

 

[dkstories]

Oh, and Mark, great line as your signature, except right after the guy said that, he got a lesson in the power of the light side when Anakin remembered himself and saved the life of his son by throwing the Emperor into the pit, thus killing him.

 

[Mark Arbour]

Oh, and Mark, great line as your signature, except right after the guy said that, he got a lesson in the power of the light side when Anakin remembered himself and saved the life of his son by throwing the Emperor into the pit, thus killing him. 

 

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Yeah, well there's that.

 

Where you been anyway?

[Kel]

Does anyone else have annoying neighbours that come over uninvited all the time? I live in an apartment block for students and the guy downstairs moved in at the same time that me and my flatmates did, I even had classes with him, before I switched major. Anyway, he comes to our flat all the damn time, I swear he reaches stalker levels sometimes. One time we just ignored him so he rang the flat, which we also ignored, so then he called my flatmate from a disguised number (so it wouldn't appear on caller I.D.)...it's just too much. I wouldn't mind so much if he was a nice guy but he's not, he's really really frickin' annoying!!! Anything you've done he's done 10 times better, and more often. My bf and I have taken to retreating to my room whenever he knocks on the door. I feel bad for him since he's obviously really bored and lonely, but y'know what, this isn't a holiday camp and I'm not here to entertain him...*frustrated yell* gah, sorry about that, my bf is in the shower, and I needed to rant about annoying people, lol.

 

Ben

 

Ben,

Glad you decided to rant here instead of taking the actions this guy did over the weekend!

 

Kel

 

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Fire Allegedly Set to Get Guests to Leave

May 30, 9:27 AM (ET)

 

 

GENEVA, Ill. (AP) - A 46-year-old man allegedly set his own home on fire in order to get two visitors to leave, police said.

 

Dean Craig was charged with felony arson after allegedly splashing rubbing alcohol on the floor of the two-story home in Aurora Township and using a lighter to ignite the fire around 1 a.m. Sunday, the Kane County Sheriff's office said.

 

When authorities arrived at Craig's home, which is owned by his mother, it was engulfed in flames, police said. Craig and his two guests were not injured.

 

Craig allegedly had asked two visitors to leave, but when they refused, he threatened to light his house on fire, police said.

 

Craig was being held Monday at the Kane County Jail on $25,000 bond. He is scheduled to appear in court on June 9.

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Hahaha, yeah, we wouldn't go to such extreme measures, although it is mighty annoying when people won't leave. Actually, last night while we were out we discovered that the annoying guy is actually pretty fun when he's drunk, so since we only have to live near him for about another month we can deal with it. But thanks for the advice anyway

[movieguy47]

How come i got image of *Kramer* in my head

[DomLuka]

Okay, I remember reading this thread a while back and now I have something to add to it. I don

[Conner]

Your new neighbours definitely fall into the creepy category, Dom. It does sound like they're right out of a Stephen King story.

 

Obviously, some caution is called for. I would suggest that neither you nor your guy go over there alone again. My only other suggestion is that you and your other neighbours document the wierdness.

 

I appreciate the fact that you want to be sensitive around the young girl, but her behaviour must be quite distressing for you. It would be for me. That's really a tough one, but if the behaviour continues, you may have to involve the police if they don't become more cooperative.

 

Hugs,

Conner

 

P.S. Btw, I liked the way you made reference to "my guy". I immediately had that old Supremes (Diana Ross) tune going off in my head - definitely before your time, Dom. We're talkin' classic Detroit Motown here.

[dkstories]

Dom, I just saw your post, bud.

 

Pick up the phone, call the local police department (non-emergency number) and ask to speak to the narcotics folks. Tell them exactly what you've written and anything you've noticed about their visitors (frequency, how long they stay, etc.)

 

It might not be a meth lab, but having some experience with them my mind started screaming that as I read your post. It fits...everything you've written. You might think 'big deal' about it, or just not want to get involved...but...

 

Did you know meth labs often catch on fire, the chemicals from the process can cause serious health problems when inhaled, and can cause ground-water poisoning? Many meth labs burn down at the slightest little accident. When they are found and cleaned up, workers MUST wear hazmat gear with oxygen supplies.

 

In Stanislaus County here in Modesto, the Police have a van that they drive around neighborhoods. Sensors in this van detect the dangerous chemicals in the air from meth labs and they can use it to 'zoom in' on the source of the fumes. By the time they get within a block of the source, they're usually wearing respirators just so their lungs won't be damaged by the toxic crap.

 

Pick up the phone, call the police non-emergency number.

 

I may be absolutely wrong, totally off-base here. If I am, I thank god for it because you don't want a meth lab next to you. You'd be safer walking down a street in Iraq without security guards.

[Masked Monkey]

I think you should listen to Dan on this one, I lived next to a dealer once (well, twice actually and in the same house) and much of the behavior was the same including the creepiness of the kids. What I discovered after they left (because of the 2nd home invasion robbery) was that the local police thought that I was the dealer and they were distributing because of the amount of time that the 16 year old was spending at my house trying to get away from her parents. The bottom line is that it takes a lot of work for the police to identify an individual house in a neighborhood, any input that the community can give them goes a long way.

 

:king: Snow Dog

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

That sounds really really creepy Dom. Maybe for now if your gate to your back yard is one of those tall ones you could put a bolt type lock up higher than she can reach. Of course if its a low gate that's not an option...I'd be really freaked out if some strange kid was in my yard all the time.

[Mark Arbour]

I had an elderly aunt who lived in San Francisco's Castro District in the 1970s. She'd been there for years, and as the neighborhood changed, she opted to stay. She often told me that she really liked her neighbors: "They're such nice boys. I just wish they'd keep their bedroom curtains drawn."

 

Maybe you should open the windows and f**k like bunnies.

[Noikris]

Sounds major creepy, I guess I should be glad that I have only boring neighbours that I don't even see more than once a month.

Except when I was younger we had these annoying people who mimicced everything we did. Like backyard flowers etc. But that was years ago.

 

So, have you done anything to those neighbours of yours, Dom?

[DomLuka]

LOL. I forgot about this thread. Actually, the neighbors moved away. They weren