Popular Post MacGreg Posted January 31, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said: And We can tell our boys/girls how trusting Us will help you. We can and do tell you until We are blue in the face. Trust me, boy... how many times have I said that. But until you finally do, until you finally see giving up yourself totally into Our care isn't going to hurt you, then it doesn't work. you cannot fake this feeling. Because I will never betray the trust you give Me. I will push and ask, demand but never for more than you can give. you may not think you can... but I know.. I know.. you can. And that is trust, when you believe that. The feeling most definitely can't be faked. Because then fissures occur, and things start to collapse. Doms who are really Doms (and not just assholes carrying the empty title to get their sick kicks on unsuspecting subs) would never coerce a sub into play or cause unnecessary harm. The goal is to guide, discipline and bring the sub to a place where he/she feels safe, valued and cared for; a place of refuge where fetishes can be explored and emotions worked out; a safe sub-space. Without trust and the willingness to listen and let go, that can't happen. Being coerced and kicked around is not what a sub needs. That's what I'm dealing with right now. 3 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichaelS36 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, MacGreg said: Being coerced and kicked around is not what a sub needs. That's what I'm dealing with right now That, that is very difficult, Mac. I've had them come to me. They normally do not stay because I will not give them what they want. I try to counsel them, ask them to seek help if possible, but most move on. There are plenty of those willing to beat them. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, MichaelS36 said: That, that is very difficult, Mac. I've had them come to me. They normally do not stay because I will not give them what they want. I try to counsel them, ask them to seek help if possible, but most move on. There are plenty of those willing to beat them. That just breaks my heart. How sad... 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichaelS36 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, Thorn Wilde said: That just breaks my heart. How sad... It is very sad and very hard to deal with. I may be a sadist, but I'm not a monster, I will not abuse people. Many of them find the Doms, Mac speaks of and many hurt themselves. As tim said earlier, it just drives home more, the feeling they are worth nothing. 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MichaelS36 Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 tim was in that place early on. And I am not saying this is the way to fix anything, however, I think because tim had not only my collar he also wore my ring. I think without the marriage there are times he might have been lost to me. Again, I'm not saying you should get married or that it is a cure. I think in our case it was just another cord that held him to me. It's taken ten years for tim to get this place. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Popular Post Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, MichaelS36 said: tim was in that place early on. And I am not saying this is the way to fix anything, however, I think because tim had not only my collar he also wore my ring. I think without the marriage there are times he might have been lost to me. Again, I'm not saying you should get married or that it is a cure. I think in our case it was just another cord that held him to me. It's taken ten years for tim to get this place. there was a lot of one step forward and two back ... but yes, for us our marriage was part of me not quitting. 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 It makes me happy to get a glimpse into your life together, @MichaelS36 and @Mikiesboy. There is so much love. That’s so wonderful. ❤️ I’m off to bed now. Early start tomorrow (well, early for me, anyway). I’m off to Denmark for a folk music thing with my parents. Four days in a hostel with a bunch of folk singers and a hundred-odd guitars, lol! Boyfriend’s staying here. Wasn’t sure when/if he was coming when the trip was booked... So he gets to feed my parents’ cats. Nervous about the journey; there’s a gale blowing over Kattegat, and I get motion sickness... Anyway, goodnight DiC! I may not be around much while I’m travelling, but I’ll stop by occasionally. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Thorn Wilde said: It makes me happy to get a glimpse into your life together, @MichaelS36 and @Mikiesboy. There is so much love. That’s so wonderful. ❤️ I’m off to bed now. Early start tomorrow (well, early for me, anyway). I’m off to Denmark for a folk music thing with my parents. Four days in a hostel with a bunch of folk singers and a hundred-odd guitars, lol! Boyfriend’s staying here. Wasn’t sure when/if he was coming when the trip was booked... So he gets to feed my parents’ cats. Nervous about the journey; there’s a gale blowing over Kattegat, and I get motion sickness... Anyway, goodnight DiC! I may not be around much while I’m travelling, but I’ll stop by occasionally. Have a great time... xoxox 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyhousemouse Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 it's been a journey for us too, i completely understand the one step forward two steps back Phil has been tireless in guiding me through the crap in my head to a place like the one Mac Sir mentions the safe place, where i feel valued, and safe but i work on trusting Him and now i can see (most days) what He has always seen 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyhousemouse Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 6 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said: It makes me happy to get a glimpse into your life together, @MichaelS36 and @Mikiesboy. There is so much love. That’s so wonderful. ❤️ I’m off to bed now. Early start tomorrow (well, early for me, anyway). I’m off to Denmark for a folk music thing with my parents. Four days in a hostel with a bunch of folk singers and a hundred-odd guitars, lol! Boyfriend’s staying here. Wasn’t sure when/if he was coming when the trip was booked... So he gets to feed my parents’ cats. Nervous about the journey; there’s a gale blowing over Kattegat, and I get motion sickness... Anyway, goodnight DiC! I may not be around much while I’m travelling, but I’ll stop by occasionally. enjoy the trip! and the music! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Moderator Reader1810 Posted January 31, 2019 Site Moderator Share Posted January 31, 2019 28 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said: It makes me happy to get a glimpse into your life together, @MichaelS36 and @Mikiesboy. There is so much love. That’s so wonderful. ❤️ I’m off to bed now. Early start tomorrow (well, early for me, anyway). I’m off to Denmark for a folk music thing with my parents. Four days in a hostel with a bunch of folk singers and a hundred-odd guitars, lol! Boyfriend’s staying here. Wasn’t sure when/if he was coming when the trip was booked... So he gets to feed my parents’ cats. Nervous about the journey; there’s a gale blowing over Kattegat, and I get motion sickness... Anyway, goodnight DiC! I may not be around much while I’m travelling, but I’ll stop by occasionally. Good night and have a great time with your folks and the folk music. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 good night all 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyhousemouse Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said: good night all good night sweetie rest well xo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyhousemouse Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 (edited) good night Sirs and friends good conversation in here earlier, things to think about and talk to Phil about rest well, see y'all tomorrow i'll leave a light on for any still up and needing to find their way Edited January 31, 2019 by mollyhousemouse 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitt Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 I need to find my way under my quilt! Is currently 7* here with a wind chill of -11! That's -13 /-23 for you celcius peeps. We were 37* this afternoon. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Morning, DiC! You’re probably all still asleep, unless some night owl is still awake, lol! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Site Moderator Reader1810 Posted January 31, 2019 Site Moderator Share Posted January 31, 2019 9 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said: Morning, DiC! You’re probably all still asleep, unless some night owl is still awake, lol! Call me Night Owl... I guess I should try and sleep for a couple of hours, so I’ll say good night... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Reader1810 said: Call me Night Owl... I guess I should try and sleep for a couple of hours, so I’ll say good night... Goodnight! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Ahahaha, the car won’t start! Well, that’s just great. We’ve got some time, but... If it’s not the battery, we’re not going anywhere. Lololololol! 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Found a friendly soul who helped us jump start the car. It’s cause of the cold, and this car not being used very frequently... But we’re on our way, and will probably catch the ferry just fine. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Popular Post Share Posted January 31, 2019 Um .. not so sure about this one, in this weather.. i know i am sad but i can't think of much that would make me want to jump outta bed...except to look after Michael. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 7 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said: Um .. not so sure about this one, in this weather.. i know i am sad but i can't think of much that would make me want to jump outta bed...except to look after Michael. Well, that’s a start, isn’t it? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Popular Post Share Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Thorn Wilde said: Well, that’s a start, isn’t it? that's the best damn reason i can think of ... He is everything to me. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thorn Wilde Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, Mikiesboy said: that's the best damn reason i can think of ... He is everything to me. I know. And that’s not sad. That’s beautiful. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted January 31, 2019 Author Popular Post Share Posted January 31, 2019 Just now, Thorn Wilde said: I know. And that’s not sad. That’s beautiful. no.. that isn't .. but it seems i am supposed to feel that way about my job and other crap i do not want to do. and i don't feel that way. anyway i should be going to get ready for work... see you later. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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