Andrew Q Gordon

This might be the funniest post I read all day. I buy the cheapo ones from Target too but that's because I am just cheap - and I don't wear jeans too much on account I have to wear a suit and tie to work.

I read that part and thought 'I can see why a lot of bisexual people would be frustrated by that description' But on the other hand, I know a lot of gay men who say they are bisexual - but never date women - they just think that because they find woman attractive they are bisexual. Me? I find plenty of woman attractive - physically and emotionally but I have not been inclined to date a woman since I came about 20 some odd years ago. Having been with both sex, I knew after my first real 'date and sleep over' that I was gay not bisexual. I avoided the path some gay men take by saying they are bi until they come to gripes with being gay. Which is why you are who you are and why we love you for who you are

Hero and Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon were both among my favorite as was Curse of the Golden Flower - but my favorite ones are those I would watch on Saturdays - something like Kung Fu theatre - those "b" movies where the dubbing was horrible and they always said - "so you think your Kung Fu is pretty good." and some white haired Master would kick the crap out of anyone but the hero. They were worth having it rain on a saturday

Although it is a day late, here is an article I received on the "TRUTH" about bisexuality. Truth About Bisexuality Now I won't vouch for it's accuracy or anything, but since it came to me on this day after I figured I would share it.

Happy birthday Steve - Make it a good one

You people get all the good stuff - both sides to pick from AND your very own day. What are you doing to celebrate? Um wait - on second thought don't answer that, just have a great day. Andy

Happy Birthday M - I saw your Status Update saying you are over the hill - damn if you are over the hill I must be under the mountain Have a great day - your twenties will be a rocking time - enjoy them. Andy

Nephy, I would offer my condolences but you do not seem to need them, so instead I will join you in hoping your mum has found peace. I also wish you the same peace as you remember her in whatever way you feel best. Andy

Z- Two things that will help you get your desired result - 1) When you post your story - open a discussion thread and repeat what you said here - 'yes i know there are some mistakes and I am working to correct those - please send me those comments in private - but here can you give me feedback on my story etc' I get grammar feed back on my thread from a friend and I don't mind, in fact I asked for it but that is me. She is the only one who does it because she and I are good like that. 2) I suggest you add that little note at the end of your chapters for the folks who are giving you reviews. Finally, I would just ignore those picky grammar comments. Don't let them get to you because I suspect what you will mostly get are positive comments. Be aware, however, that IF you ask, some people will give you straight up constructive feed back i.e. something that can also be called constructive criticism. It is hard to accept this -even when it is done politely BUT this is often your best feed back. Try to take it and use it. Oh and let me know when you post it, I want to read what has you so passionate - I am willing to bet it is good stuff Andy

Mark, I lobbed in a cream puff of a pitch for you to hit out of the park [my being a prude] and you whiffed on it totally. Are you okay? Do I need to road trip to Missouri to check up on you?

Mark, Being the prudish sort that I am - sorry but I am, can't help it - I shy away from sex scenes, BUT this was well done - I only cringed a few times instead of my usual half dozen then clicking away . The ending was really well done - as John Stewart would say - "Nailed it!" Too often authors wrap up by explaining everything to the last detail - lump me in there minus the author title. So I left thinking about this. Thanks Andy

Soup, At the risk of coming across as a dirty old man - [but since I am gay I will risk it], You are quite beautiful. And since I know you are equally beautiful inside, someone is going to be very lucky when you pick 'the one.'

Haha, very cool - have you ever applied to be the Tiger Catcher? Sounds like a good gig!

I assume you want to see stats on Pennsylvania first.

IDK - Bi??? I didn't make it up, just regurgitating what I was told.

I don't that is why we are hiring a surrogate J/K Add me to Lacey's opinion that we don't need to know about the gay birds and the gay bees - though I am told if Mike and I do have a child it will be called a 'gaby' not a baby.

What if you like to hit from both side? Is that all the areas not mentioned in the chart? If you pitch and catch are your required to assume the role most in demand if you go to a specific region i.e. be a pitcher in germany but catch when in columbia? Is preference something you need to declare when traveling to these countries mentioned or can you be ambiguous like I was in college and select 'undeclared?' This stuff makes my head spin.

Congrats Eric, You will like it being on your own. I grew up in North Wales, North Penn HS and all, then worked in Norristown for years so I know Plymouth Meeting pretty well. Chestnut Hill is awesome, very much a fan of the retail area/commercial strip with all the shops and restaurants in addition to the super cool houses/architecture. Best of luck with the move and school and work Andy

Tiger, I wish I had some words or way to help, but I fear I do not. But from all that I have read and all that you post, you are not useless. Quite the opposite, you are a wonderful person who brings happiness to those whose lives you touch. They say it always seems darkest before the dawn, so I will think positively for you that the dawn of a new day is about to break and you will be able to move on from this difficult time. Andy

Tiger, That truly is sad, we prosecutor hate crimes in my office - I am one of 4 gay men and two lesbian woman - one of whom is my supervisor. One of the other men and I volunteer to take all the hate crimes involving sexual orientation - everyone knows we are gay - defense bar, judges, probation, US marshals you get the idea. Spreading this to anyone who will see it is a wonderful gift to those who died. There are few who remember them beyond the news coverage [Matthew Shepard excluded.] I have been to more than a few candle light vigils - including one for Shepard on the US Capitol Grounds. They are horribly sad but vital events. I am extremely fortunate to work for a boss who has zero tolerance for any hate crimes, no matter the bias but sadly we are not the norm for law enforcement. I just wanted to say thanks for sharing this, I hope others see it and pass it along. Andy

Graeme and Steph, Thanks for doing this for everyone, I appreciated all the patience you had with all my questions. I can't imagine all the work this took, but if 25 times what you had to do for me is the norm then you are both Saints. Thanks again. Andy

I couldn't agree with you more. It is one of the biggest 'arguments' we have on this issue. I think what we want is the rights, because we can call it whatever we want - just as I often call him my husband even if 'legally' he is not. But he thinks we need to fight for marriage because we are 'settling' otherwise. I am fine with doing it his way - but I am still of the mindset; give me my rights and I don't care what you call it - that is for me to decide. FYI - DC will marry anyone - I grew up around where you go to school, so it is a short ride on the Amtrak to DC when you two are ready. Heck, I will even help you find a good judge to do the ceremony Andy

I have said this many times myself - so on so many level I agree with you. My partner and I are planning to get married in DC on or about our 16th anniversary next Feb. There are many reasons to do it, some personal some more general. I have always wanted to get married to Mike because I love him more than anyone. No I don't need anyone to tell me that but I want my family and he wants his family to realize our relationship is the same as our siblings. Then there is the kid issue. Not that it makes any difference really but I think it is good for the kid to see we are that committed that we were willing to tell everyone we cared about that this is what we choose to do. Those are my personal reasons for this. [Okay I also want to cash in all those IOUs for all the gifts we gave when no one expected us to get married - we sat through their weddings and gave them gifts - pay back time ] But in a general sense I want to get married as well. First DC residents, city council and other leaders went out of their way to make this available to us. I live the area and work in the city and I can say that it was a big deal. I personally know the judge who handled the case denying the right to put this on the ballot for a vote- a wonderful straight woman who has a quirky sense of humor. She told me she agonized to be sure she got it right so it wouldn't be over turned - it was THAT important to her. I thanked her and told I was planning to make good use of it soon. SO in that it is important that people take advantage of it. It would suck if they threw us this party and no one showed up. it also gives a few dollars to the city of DC as a thank you for giving us this right. Then there is the idea that I want to be one of as many people as possible to show the rest of the world/country that Gay & Lesbian couples want this right. The more who avail themselves of it the more it shows how much it is wanted. Tying into that, I want to be part of the group that shows the rest of the country/world that gay marriage happened and the world didn't end. Just like it hasn't in Mass and other places where gay marriage is allowed. So while I have long been one of those people who has said we just need the civil rights not the name, I think there is a very symbolic message I can send by marrying my partner and I think I owe it to the future to do it. Andy

Do something happy, something fun, maybe frivolous if you like, go out in the sun, stay inside if you like, for as my mother used to say, this is your day - the Day of Jasmin! Happy Birthday!

Wierd topic Anyta but what the hey I'll bite - Me - I never wipe the walls, use the squeegee, or polish the taps. The hubby does all of that and usually - because of our schedules - uses the shower after me. But my parents do all of that, so when I am there I have to do it - I usually get a hotel anyway so it is rare. So while I personally think it is OCD to do all that - you and your family are not alone, my parents and the husband and his family both do it - I am the lone hold out. Andy