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"lesbianonic" is another I like: Lesbianonic Adj. Of or relating to lesbians or lesbian affairs. "After I'd heard all the lesbianonic details of their break up I knew Sue just wasn't good enough for Donna." "When Mary began questioning her sexuality she eagerly sought out all the lesbianonic information she could find."

I can't stand them in most cases! At least not at the beginning! The last thing I want to do is start a story and have to wade through page upon page of back story and details before I get any character interaction. Throw me into the story, "confuse me", and make me want to figure out what's going on. Then please dump all the info you like on me. When I began my story (don't go read it yet, it's on hiatus) one of the complaints I got was that I didn't provide enough exposition. Well I did that very much on purpose. I intend for it to be a very long, very involved story and before I'm done I plan to have all the characters and their backgrounds very much fleshed out, but whole story is really meant to be character and not plot driven, so the last thing I want to do is spend all my early pages and chapters "setting the stage" when there'll be plenty of time for that! Instead I want to introduce the characters and their unique situations, and the best way to do that, IMO, is to throw the reader right into scenes involving these characters and let them work out for themselves who's nice, who's neurotic, who's a jerk, and all the rest. Anyway, my preference as a reader (or movie watcher for that matter) is to be hurled into the middle of the story and get all the details as I swim out. I do want all the details, but I want to care first. As a writer I tend to do the same. -Kevin

You've noticed me reading those books? **looks around suspiciously** Tonight I'm reading "Carrots and Celery" over at Nifty. I heard it about in one of the recent threads in the Lounge, and it drew me in quickly because so far it seems like such a light, feel-good story. I like that occasionally

Well I intend to have a "weird night" tonight. I don't intend to go to bed at all. For more than a week now I've been wanting to spend about 10 or 12 hours quietly alone without any interruptions or responsibilities, and I'm going to make good on that desire tonight...ought to be easier whilst everyone else is asleep

I think that would be the height of flattery. As for me? Well I'm full of ideas, but I haven't really the discipline or work ethic to get them down on paper. So instead they all remain delightful adventures in my head. Someday I'll get them all down though...or not.

Thought you invented it, did you? It's okay, Robbie. In fact I'll give you a standing invitation to hi-jack the threads I create...as long as you talk about something fairly important anyway May I be frank? (don't worry I'll turn back into Kevin by the end of the post ) I've listened to you question your sexuality for going on three years now, and for the majority of that time I've been desperately hoping for you to work it out and get on with your life. At this point though I honestly don't care if you figure it out or not. And no, not because I've gotten fed up with it, or because I don't care in general. But because you have gotten on with your life! You're socializing with all sorts of new people, you're making new friends, you're flirting and having fun, hell you're even seriously considering messing around with your friends -nvm my actual opinion of that, that's irrelevant - the point is you're no longer letting your sexuality, or your lack of knowledge/acceptance about it hold you back! At this point I would like to believe sincerely believe that if the right person came along you would do something about it! Regardless of all the complications that might go along with it. You've come a very long way, Robbie, and I'm extremely proud of you and happy for you! I honestly don't care if you ever give yourself a label or not. Just as long as you're happy and you don't let your fears hold you back. Whether you ever sit down and decide "I'm gay" just doesn't matter that much. Dude, it's tough but sometimes you have to say goodbye. At this point, even if you suddenly had an epiphany and decided that you were completely straight, would you really want to have a close friendship with these homophobes? After all the GLBT people you've met? After all the things you've seen and done? Do you really want someone who hates them - even if they don't hate you - to be a major part of your life? Are you really even closer in the first place with these people than you are with your lesbian friends? with T, R, and C? With the rest of the GSA? With your accepting roommates and their girlfriends? From what I've been hearing it sounds to me like these other people are more important in your life right now. Whereas these other two homophobic friends are just...old habits. No offense, dude, but I'm pretty sure not only have they, but so has the GSA, your sister, and both your parents. A little detour about grandkids. I think almost every good parent wants grandkids, at least a little. But I also think that more than they'd like to see grandkids someday, they want their kids to be happy. Some day I am going to be a parent, no ifs ands or buts about it, and I want a lot of things for my child not least of which is children of their own. However, as a parent the only thing I need for my son(s) or daughter(s) to have is a general sense of being happy, safe, and loved. Beyond that none of the other things really matter. I also want my child to know this and to flat out make decisions that are the best for him/her and not for me. Anyway, being gay really has nothing to with having kids. If you want kids strongly enough you'll have them one way or another, and if you don't want them that strongly...then you probably shouldn't have them in the first place. Take care, my friend Frank Kevin

That's true, but a person can't get away from his problems if he takes them with him.

I'm sure your jeans look great! Slightly too long jeans are kinda cute IMO. Well just so you know I admire and approve of you and all around have positive feelings toward you. Seriously, I am saying this because I just read that, but I honestly mean it too I feel ya on this one! Ohhh, I have the opposite fear! I can't stand to feel "normal", "typical" or worse "average". Give me "abnormal", "unique", "odd" (this is probably my favourite ), or even "weird" any day! There's a quote I quite like: Remember, you're special...just like everyone else. -Kevin

HAHAHHAHAHA That's nifty!

You should add it to the list! I've never really followed this stuff very much. I watched some sort of interesting gay and lesbian anime (so perhaps that would count?) a while back with some friends. It was cute and I didn't mind watching it, but I don't think I'm going to get into it.

Wake Up Alone - Amy Winehouse.

I like that one Anna Nalick - Forever Love

That's what's often been rumoured. So Danny got kicked off? Awwwww Who's left?

I agree with Gary. I certainly took my fair share of midnight (or later/earlier) strolls when I was 19, but I do urge caution. It's a dangerous world out there, and you're too nifty to go and get yourself hurt Well then you'd might as well. Always best to be prepared for any contingency.

That's interesting! Most of my heterosexual attraction is focused on slender, stylish black girls. Isn't it odd that we have a very specific "type" in these matters? The mechanisms and causes of attraction to a certain "type" is something that interests me very much. My main two male types are light haired guys (blond or red) and Asian guys. I'm potentially attracted to any "type" though, but I'm disproportionately attracted to these groups. Actually I have worked out a pretty feasible theory for why that is though. I'm sorry, but while I might sympathize I just can't really accept this as a viable excuse. As I oft said it's fine with me how ever people want to conduct their relationships and whatever their "rules" are, but unless both people are on the same page I really can't offer any more slack to bisexuals. In fact I'm inclined to offer less because I'm so fed up with this excuse! If you make a commitment to someone you make a commitment to someone, and until the time that you both mutually decide to cancel or alter that commitment I expect both people honour it, regardless of other factors. If you can't then you damn well shouldn't make it (or give the impression of having made it) in the first place as far as I'm concerned. Indeed, the only thing that irritates me more than the bisexual thing is gay guys in straight relationships that cheat and then use their sexuality as an excuse. I know this sounds harsh but my attitude is "yeah, I get it you're gay and you don't find your relationship satisfying. Well either end it or suck it up and quit messing around" I know I know, it's not always that easy, there are kids involved or economic issues, or who knows what, but still as far as I'm concerned being unfulfilled and dissatisfied is never a proper justification for infidelity (and I'm not just talking about sexuality matters here). Blah, sorry I got ranty everyone, but I feel strongly on the fidelity front. As far as I'm concerned you can be as sluty and promiscuous as you like, but once you make that commitment you'd better stick to it! Anyway, now that I've probably managed to offend a significant number of readers I'll shut up Thanks!! Take care all and have a great day! Kevin

Those are excellent points, James, and I think you're right in quite a few cases! I have a hunch though that that isn't exactly the case here. It sounds to me like Tris' friend is openly gay and has been for quite sometime. Denying it probably isn't a viable option anymore. I also have a hunch that at one point he probably was okay with it as Tristan has indicated. Instead, what I think most likely happened is that somewhere along the way some things happened which might have made him tie sex and being gay into some very bad stuff which deep down he doesn't like that he's a part of. In other words he might have gone from being okay with being gay, to having issues with it and especially sex. Just my hunch though. This is going to sound obvious and overly simple, but you really ought to try to put yourself into an environment in which - and surround yourself with the sort of people with whom - you can be yourself without needing to hide these deep desires in the first place. Hiding anything like that is stressful and eventually if you're not careful it'll bring about unwanted consequences. Alcohol is a trick beast indeed. It's interesting, I've certainly never tried to use it as an escape, but I've very frequently used it recreationally. Fortunately it's always been something I enjoy, but can take or leave alone entirely. I suppose what's really interesting is that even before I was out I was never particularly concerned about saying or doing "too much" when drunk. I don't know, just never worried much. Now, I don't think there's anything in particular which I could say or do when drunk that would embarrass me. My life is an open book and I welcome readers.

Hi everyone, There was so much talk of Vladimir surviving or getting killed in the other thread that I decided to do what I do best: make a poll! LOL, so what do you guys think, will Vladimir still be alive by the end of the story? Also, I personally have never really thought that Dimitri and The Scar could completely trust each other. I think it's more likely that The Scar will try to do him in though, so that's why the 2nd part of the poll asks about his survival. My answers: Yes, I think Vladimir will survive. For some reason I envision something like The Scar trying to kill him and Dimitri deciding to save him. I think this might prove to be the impetus for The Scar trying to kill Dimitri OR I think The Scar trying (and failing at first or else Dimitri uncovering a plan) will prove to be the impetus for Dimitri to try to save Vladimir. I'm much more iffy about whether or not Dimitri will make it but in the end I don't think he will. What do you guys think? -Kevin

I do this a lot myself! Well okay then, that's really commendable of you! I've pretty much trained myself to overlook something as trivial as typos and other common errors and to be honest I wouldn't have said anything if the topic hadn't come up. However, like you I'd want to know myself, so I'll letcha know in the future if I see any So what did you guys think of Eric's commitment to getting Wilde a tan? Personally I think getting him out in the sun will be easier said than done.

That sucks! Good luck, Gary Oh my gosh! That's awful, so sorry, Rose

I've always wanted to try cricket. Looks fun. Congrats to India, condolences to Australia.

*sigh* not exactly a classic tune, but most definitely prolific.

That's very true, being gay is one of the best things that ever happened to me as well. I had a happy and fulfilling enough life before, but I must say my life after coming out is much more rewarding in nearly every way.

Then it's curious that he doesn't want to experience the sex that goes along with it unless he's drunk.