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Oh dear, I'm late for the Bard's birthday I hope it was fantastic and may the coming your be absolutely wonderful Take care and have an awesome day, my friend Kevin

Sorry I'm so late on this. I hope your birthday was awesome, Tom! Have a terrific year! -Kevin

Oh how tragic My thoughts and prayers will be with Johnny and his family. -Kevin

Oh Joe I'm so sorry. Everything's going to be okay. I promise. Take care and feel better, Kevin

WOOO HOOO!! Yay for Nick!! Excellent job, Nick. I must say I always look forward to your posts! I can't wait to see what the next 1500 have in store for us! -Kevin

I can honestly say that I never know what I'll see when I look in the mirror. Oh, there's the obvious fact that I change my hair and clothes styles so much that it's easy to "forget" and be surprised. Beyond that though... Sometimes I stare into the mirror and notice all the things I want to change. The nose I wish were just a bit more narrow. The chin that I'd prefer if it didn't angle up quite as much. The two barely visible lines on my forehead that don't seem to go away. Other times I vainly ponder all the things I like. My eyes, with their dynamic, clear blue and the way I can use them so effectively to convey my feelings. The way my smile changes the whole shape of my face into something I quite like. The way I've used that smile to get me what I've needed, or wanted, or needed and wanted to give. I see the fruits of the labour I've spent on my face. The smooth, firm, skin that I spend so much time moisturizing, exfoliating, and protecting. The teeth I've spent so much money whitening and straightening. The brows and lashes I've so maticulously tweezed and waxed. Often, in more somber, darker moods I see just another silly, twinkie gay boy who's already desperate to stop the advancing years. I see an absent-minded, flighty young man who lacks the drive and focus to accomplish many of the things he wants the most. Other times, when my mood and day are brighter, I see someone strong and independent. Someone resourceful and adaptive. Someone who's careful not to hurt others and who often puts their best interest above his own. Someone postive and cheerful, with a witty, out-going personality. I see hope. Fear. Power. Weakness. Love. Lust. Pride. Humility. Determination. Flexibility. Mistakes. Accomplishments. But most of all...I see another chance. -Kevin

WOOO HOOO!! YAY for Patrick's birthday!! I hope it's filled with all the happiness and joy that you deserve and may the coming year shock you by it's sheer enjoyableness! -Kevin

YAY! On the extra chapter! BOOO on the pink eye. I've never had it, it is supposedly really contagious though. The best way to avoid getting it is supposed to be to simply not touch your eyes (unless you've just washed your hands). Anyway I hope you don't have it and if you do I hope you recover quickly! Take care and have a great day Kevin

Hi all, This topic is actually very similar to First Crush which took place about a year and a half ago (of course that one talked about any first crush, not just celebrity). As I said in the topic I guess my first celeb. crush was when I was a kid and watching re-runs of the Partridge Family. I thought Danny was cute. -Kevin

Happy Birthday, Bev!! I hope it's fantastic -Kevin

OH my gosh! I knew your avatar looked vaguely familar, but I hadn't placed it as Kelsey Grammer until now! LOL, it's so cool and freaky now that I know! I LOVE QAF! I hadn't realized yours was from it though. Who is that kissing? Brian and Justin? I've always loved yours, Raz, because to me it looks so delightfully exuberant Same here. He made it with a blue background for me because that's my favourite colour (although I usually prefer a deeper colour, but that probably wouldn't have looked as good in the picture). Similarly the green in the eye patch and feather is one of my favourite colours. It's also sort of me in "pirate form", my eyes are blue, and my hair was is very often blonde (for the last year it's typically been red, but prior to that it had been pretty much exclusively shades of blonde for years). Have an awesome day all! Kevin

I'm glad you do Good luck with everything! Kevin

Hey old Bob!

Hey Mark! I'm so glad you enjoyed reading it! I hope you do fill one out! I'd love to check out your answers, those things are so much fun to do and read! LOL, well let's just say I can do practically everything with my left hand that I can do with my right hand, but it takes me a little longer to do it. Thanks, my apartment is starting to look like it's been taken over by a tribe of angry boxes...so I take that to be a good sign Have an awesome day and take care! Kevin

Hey Viv I've yet to read "The Shower", but I agree that Luc is a very amazing and gifted writer! I'm definitely in the "too wrapped up in the story at the time to think about it" camp. However, I sometimes do ponder such things later as you suggested. Generally I assume the events are from imagination, but possibly/probably based on real events. When I (on the extremely rare occassion ) write anything, I find it most appealing to write feelings, events, emotions etc. that I've never experienced in that way, but of course everything a writer writes is going to contain some part of themselves. So I use that baised perspective when I evaluate "fact or fiction" in other writer's work. So if I read about a hot scene in the back of a car, I wouldn't necessarily assume that it happened to the author (though I would allow for that possibility), but instead just assume that the author has thought or fantasized about doing that, has seen/read/heard about events like that and been inspired, or that perhaps it did take place but in an altered form. Generally I guess I try to respect the author's "privacy" on this matter as well. So I'd never just become convinced that what I was reading happened, and thus start thinking about/treating the author accordingly, but at the same time I wouldn't be surprised if I found out it did happen. YAY! I can't wait Nifty phone! Mine recently died (geez I'm going through them like crazy this is about the 4th or 5th one in a year! ), but it's still under warrenty so they're just sending me a replacement. LOL, well personally I don't really like pizza. I'll have some like once or twice a year, BUT when I do and when I used to live in places where those were the only three options, I usually did opt for Papa John's. I didn't really like Pizza hut or Domino's (but then I don't really like pizza). I think the only time I've had pizza since moving to Houston (so for the last year), was about a month and a half ago when I was hanging out with a couple of friends and we were hungry, but had been drinking and couldn't drive ( ), so we ordered pizza. I can't remember where we got it from, but I think it was a local place. Awww, I'm so glad they had fun! awwww, lol! Well it certainly sounds like you handled it really well! It also sounds like the kids don't see it as a big deal, which IMO, is a good thing Just read that! Thanks for pointing me to it! It sounds like you guys had an awesome time! take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

We have an Urban Out-fitters here in Houston, actually probably several. I've never purchased anything there, but some of their stuff is fun to try on and/or otherwise play with. As for Jamba Juice, I love that place! I'm glad you guys had so much fun Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Well why not I suppose. Personally I hate taking pictures and would be quite unhappy if I thought they actually reflected the way I look to people. I'm going to maintain that the camera has a way of removing life from me and making me look like some sort of walking corpse. But I took these about 11 - 9 months ago and posted them in my blog, so I guess it can't hurt to repost them here. I actually prefer the way I look now. My hair (which I change like every three weeks anyway ) is most similar in style right now to the third picture, but probably a little shorter on the sides, and a bit longer on top/in the front. And right now it's sort of a dark strawberry blonde. To go with the look I of course have my eyebrows the same colour, and they're a bit thinner. I'm also have a slightly better (fake) tan now LOL, of course it would be easier to just take recent pictures than to sit here and try to explain the differences, but let's face it, I just abhor pictures and I'm not gonna I must say though you're all a bunch of very beautiful people! Take care all and have an awesome day! Kevin

Hey Sharon! WOW! That sure sounds like a fun vacation! You know actually I'm inclined to agree with you about the beach thing! I like going too...but yeah I don't like actually being on the beach as much. For the most part I agree with you about the sand, except that SOMETIMES I do like to play in. I can't really swim in general, but while I do like to play in water, ocean water is really gross! Also, I'm chronically afraid of sun exposure; it's really bad for the skin and aging, and taking care of my skin and slowing aging are two of my favourite pastimes. Besides I get my vitamin D and my tan from bottles Anyway I'm really glad you went and had fun good luck with everything and I hope the house there works out! Kevin

Oh my gosh that's so cool!! Do you get a discount?

Hey Raz!! An imaginary all expenses paid vacation of your destination! LOL, they may be straight, or maybe they're just really closeted (even to themselves?) I have Ohhh, I'd like to check that out, I like those three people! What's it about? Take care and have an awesome day!! Kevin

So I saw this in Viv's and Steven's blog and thought it looked like fun SO: TEN EMOTIONS. 1. are you missing someone right now?: no 2. are you happy? Yes, very 3. are you talking to anyone right now?: No, I don't try to talk and write (even blog entries) at the same time. 4. are you bored?: Virtually never. 5. are you German?: Yes, more than anything actually 6 are you Irish?: Probably a little bit, and people always think I am since I'm fair complected and often red-headed 7. are you French?: Yes 8. are you Italian?: No 9. are your parents still married?: Nope, they divorced when I was a toddler 10. do you like someone right now?: I like almost everyone all the time TEN FAVORITES. 1. store: Totally unfair to ask that! Umm, I'll go with Abercrombie and Fitch or else Express for Men. 2. flowers: I'm not really interested interested in flowers. 3. color: BLUE!!!! 4. sport: To play? Definitely Soccer! But I like play lotsa sports. To watch? I'd always rather play than watch. 5. mall: Yes, please 6. movie: Hmm, I dunno. I'll go with Rent, but I like lots of movies. 8. season: Whichever one is currently happening. So Spring/Summer I guess 9. animal: Cats, Dogs, and Squirrels are my favourites. 10. state: I dunno, I really wanna go to Cali and NY, but I'm enjoying Texas, and I guess La was okay. TEN FACTS. 1. hometown: Born in Blacksburg, VA, grew up near Lafayette, Louisiana. 2. hair color: What kind of a question is that!? LOL, it's currently a slightly reddish blonde. It's naturally a light brown/dirty blonde. It's usually some shade of red or blonde. It's been every natural (and a couple of unnatural) colours imaginable. 3. Birthday: August 27th 4. hair style: I recently cut it somewhat short, and have been gel-ing/spiking up the top/front. Blah, it's the standard gay boy haircut. 5. eye color: Blue. Sometimes dark blue, sometimes light blue, sometimes grayish 6. best friend: Hmm Megan and Jesse are my best friends in Houston, but I've got some other ones too. 7. mood: Cheerful and perky 8. skin color: White, but I've been getting a tan from a bottle. 9. available: Ready and willing 10. left/right-handed: Right, but I can do a buncha stuff with my left as well TEN THINGS ABOUT YOUR LOVE LIFE. 1. have you ever been in love?: REAL love? Probably not 2. do you believe in love: Yes 3. why did your last relationship fail: I just didn't feel the same way 4. have you ever been heartbroken: define "heartbroken" 5. have you ever broken someone's heart?: possibly, I hope not. 6. have you ever fallen for one of your best friends: Yes 7. have you ever liked someone but never told them: Yes 8. are you afraid of commitment: I don't think so 9. has someone ever kissed your hand: Not that I can recall, but that's totally going on my list of things I hope happen to me. 10. have you ever had a secret admirer: Yes TEN THINGS: THIS OR THAT. 1. love or trust: Both please 2. hard liquor or beer: I prefer wine or mixed drinks (like mudslides or margaritas). If I HAVE to pick between those two, then beer I guess. 3. night or day: I love the night life 4. one night stands or relationships: Relationships 5. television or internet: I don't watch TV at all whereas I'm an internet junkie. 6. pepsi or coke?: I don't drink any sodas or any caffeinated beverages. When I was a kid and used to I preferred Dr. Pepper, but of those two, Pepsi. 7. wild night out or romantic night in: Well both; it depends on the circumstances. 8. chocolate or vanilla: Do you really need to ask? 9. phone or in person: In person 10. Love or Lust: Love, but if we're talking about relationships can I have a side of Lust with that? TEN HAVE Y0U EVER 1. have you ever been caught sneaking out?: I never had to sneak out 2. have you ever skinny dipped: Yes 3. have you ever done something you regret: As far as the isolated incident goes, sure, but I don't regret my past in general since it got me here. 4. have you ever sky dived: No, but I wanna. 5. have you ever been on a house boat: I'm not sure, probably not 6. have you ever finished an entire jaw breaker: yeah, of course 7. have you ever liked someone so badly it hurt?: Yes 9. have you ever danced in the rain?: Yes 10. have you ever had a hang over?: Nope, I seem to be immune. I think it's all the water. WHO 1. Who was the last person you laughed with? Rachel at work a little while ago. 2. Who can cheer you up instantly?: Virtually anyone who tries. 3. Who do you think will make you smile tomorrow: You mean first? Anyone of my coworkers, and later I'm meeting friends, so I'm sure I'll have lotsa opportunities to smile. 4. Who is making the world a more terrible place to live in: What a dreadful question! 5. Who dominates the family: Well I rarely see my family nowadays, but I suppose my grandmother did when I was growing up. 6. Who is like a brother/sister to you: My cousin Katie 7. Who is the youngest person you know: I have no idea! 8. Who makes the best dinner: I cook pretty well, I think. At least I like my food. 9. Who needs to chill: This guy at work. WHAT 1. What do you hope will happen next week: I hope I find a new job and get most of my packing finished. 2. What would you name a newborn puppy: Benji 3. What relaxes you: ALOT of stuff. Um, I'll go with a nice, long, hot bubble bath with some soft music playing a glass of wine. 4. What is the most difficult decision you had to make: I guess coming out. 6. What's your style: I have quite a few. Clothes, and dressing up in new styles, is kinda a hobby of mine. 7. What is your number one priority: Helping people 8. What is the worst movie you've ever seen: I'm really not that hard on movies, and if I think I'll hate them that much I don't watch in the first place. I guess I'll go with anything by Will Ferrel except "Bewitched" and "Stranger Than Fiction", which were both somewhat decent. 9. What do you want for Christmas: My two front teeth? I dunno, maybe gift cards to various stores. WHEN 1. When is it a good time to be truthful: 5:27PM on the third Tuesday of every month. 2. When was your last break-up: Depends on how you define break-up. 3. When do you take time for yourself: Probably much more often than most people. 4. When is the next time you'll see your best friend: Depends on which "best friend" you mean. Tommorow I guess. 5. When will world hunger end: It won't 6. When was your last bad hair day: About a week ago, which is why I cut it all off and got a shorter style 7. When do you usually take a shower: I always take one shortly after I get up. I often take a shower or bath before bed, and sometimes I catch one sometime in the middle. 8. When are you going to go on your next date: Grr, the boy I kinda liked just started seeing someone else. So no telling. 9. When will emo kids grow up: Depends on the emo kid in question. 10. When did you first learn about sex: Define "learn about". I mean I guess I always sorta knew it happened. I guess I learned details around 10 or so. In general I'm sure there's more to "learn about", just as there is with all of life's activities. WHY 1. Why do you feel the way you do right now: Just lucky I guess 2.Why are teenagers becoming more apathetic: Who says they are? 3. Why did you say the meanest thing you've ever said: I can't remember the meanest thing I ever said. 4. Why can't perfection exist: Just can't, but let's all keep trying anyway. 5. Why is gay marriage illegal: People are silly. 6. Why, in your opinion, are some countries more privileged than others: It's partly culture, largely history and circumstance, largely natural resources, mostly luck and coincidence. 7. Why is your father the way he is: Shouldn't you ask him? 8. Why do bad things feel so good: Do they? Are they bad? Who says they're bad? Who says they feel good? 9. Why would you hurt someone, if you ever did: I really regret ever hurting people. I guess it's happened most often because I couldn't divide my attention and resources among everyone. 10. Why did you go online today: It's one of my main sources of entertainment. SPILL YOUR GUTS Q. First thing you did this morning?: Excercised for 20 minutes on my elipitical machine! (boy did you pick a good day to ask!) Q. The last thing you ate?: A massive salad! Q. What's something you look forward to most in the next 6 weeks?: Settling into my new place, finding a new job, my best friends' wedding, meeting Matty in person, lotsa other stuff too. Q. What's annoying you right now?: Nothing really. I guess the way time just keeps on moving when it would be nice if it stopped for a bit. Q. What's the last movie you saw?: Hedwig and the Angry Inch, last Thursday at gay movie night. Q. Do you believe in long distance relationships?: Believe? Well, I'm sure they exist. As far as whether or not I think they're advisable, I don't think there's a simple answer and of course it depends on the people involved. Q Where is the last place you went?: The bathroom. Q: Who is the last person you called?: My Mom Q: Been cheated on?: No Q: Do you think that someone is thinking about you right now?: I have no idea. Given the sheer number of people I know, compounded by the sheer number of thoughts they might have I suppose it's possible. Q: Do you wish on stars?: uh huh Q: Did it work?: So far it always has. Q: Do you untie your shoes every time you take them off?: Depends on the shoes. I have to untie many pairs or I won't be able to get them off. The ones I don't have to untie I usually don't. Q: When did you last cry?: Geez, it's been weeks; I need to do that! Q: Do you like your handwriting?: Well of course not! It's hideous and barely legible. Sometimes it's fun to play with though. Q: Are you a friendly person?: Yes, very Q: Are you keeping a secret from the world?: Nope Q: Who's bed did you sleep in last night?: Mine , better luck tomorrow night right? Q: What color shirt are you wearing?: Yellow Q: Do you have any pets?: My baby girl, Lucky Q: What is the color of your bedsheets?: I have several sets, most are a shade of blue Q: What were you doing at 9 last night?: Hanging out with my friend Brian and playing Chess. Q: Last person you talked to: Myself Q: When is the last time you saw your dad?: Gosh! It's been years. UM, maybe 2001, or 2002, I'm pretty sure it's been this millenium. We talked the day of the VT shooting of course, but yeah haven't physically seen him in a long time. Q: Look to your left: My glass of water, my left knee, my printer Q: Ever cried yourself to sleep?: Yes Q: Ever cried on your friends shoulder?: Yes Q: Song that makes you cry?: Hmm, usually the song loses it's ability to make me cry after I've heard it a few times. "My One True Friend", "Alone Again Naturally", "Tears in Heaven", "Concrete Angel", that popular song about Jesus that I can't remember the name of off-hand, and lots, LOTS of other songs have had a pretty emotional impact on me. Q: Are you a normally happy person?: Unusually so 1. Smoked a cigarette: About 4 or 5 EVER, the last one was almost 6 months ago. 2. Smoked a cigar: Nope 3. Drank so much you threw up: LOL, oh my gosh yes! I used to do that alot, but I usually threw up on purpose before bed. The last time I threw up from drinking was about 5 or 6 months ago. 4. Had feelings for someone who didn't have them back: Yes 5. Been arrested: No 6. Gone on a blind date: Define "blind date". I've had a date with someone whom I couldn't remember what he looked like, but not in the conventional sense. Although a friend of mine at work wants to set me up with a friend of hers. 7. Skipped school: Yes, quite a bit actually 8. Seen someone die: No, never in person thankfully. 9. Been to Canada: No, but I totally wanna die there someday. 10. Been to Mexico: No, but I'd like to check the place out 11. Been on a plane: Yes 12. Been lost: As I always like to say "You can't get lost if you don't know where you're going". Most of the time I allow myself to get "lost" I'm just wandering around exploring anyway, so yeah, I can't exactly "get lost" in the first place. 13. Been on the opposite side of the country: I'm from the middle, southern bit of the country. I've been to the east cost before, haven't been to the west cost yet though. 14. Swam in the ocean: If you can call what I do swimming. 15. Felt like dying: I've never wanted to die. I've been so sick I felt like I was going to though. 17. Played cops and robbers: Yes, of course 18. Recently colored with crayons: Try dry erase markers. 19. Sang karaoke: Yes, it's fun! 20. Paid for a meal with only coins: Most of my meals cost way too much for that nowadays. I've probably done that with cheaper food when I was a kid though. 21. Done something you told yourself you wouldn't: Well yeah, but I didn't believe myself in the first place. 22. Made prank phone calls: Only to friends. 23. Laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose: Yes 24. Caught a snowflake on your tongue: I've only seen snow like three times in my whole life, and I don't think I've ever seen an actual snowflake. 26. Written a letter to Santa Clause: Yes 27. Been kissed under the mistletoe: No, but that's going on my list too. 29. Blown bubbles: Of course 30. Made a bonfire on the beach: Not the beach, but several other places. 31. Crashed a party: Define "crashed" 32. Gone roller-skating: Oh yeah, lotsa times! Personal questions to know you better: 1. Nicknames? Kev, Kevvy (but ya gotta be pretty special to call me that), K-Red, cool-aid (both those two are work nicknames relating to my hair), KK, and then lotsa derivatives of various screen names. 2. Mother's name? Sharon 3. What is your favorite drink? Water by far! 4. Tattoos? NO, I'd never get a tattoo, I couldn't possibly commit to having something on my body that long. 5. Body piercing? I have issues with cuts/scars/wounds and while they often would have fit well with my "look" I can't get past the fact that it's a hole in my body. 6. How much do you love your job? I really like my job, and I love my coworkers, but nevertheless I really want a new one. 7. Birthplace: Haven't we covered this already? 8. Favorite vacation spot? Geez, I wouldn't know a vacation if it bit me, but I'd probably enjoy myself almost anywhere. Right now in this moment I'm thinking a ski vacation on some mountain, in a beautiful log cabin would be fun. 9. Ever been to Africa? No, and I'd prefer to go to Europe and Asia first, but I'd like to go everywhere so Africa would be good. 10. Ever eaten cookies for dinner? Nope, I've definitely had unhealthy, "fun" food for dinner, but I'm not that wild about cookies. Try cheese fries and something insanely chocolately (like cake, pie, or sundaes, not cookies). 11. Ever been on TV? Local TV when I was a kid, but I really wanna be on TV, TV! Like as an actor or something. 12. Ever stole any traffic signs? No way. 13. Ever been in a car accident? Yeah, but I was never driving 14. Was it your fault? You weren't paying attention now were you? 15. 2 doors or 4? On a car? 4 In general? one is usually sufficient. 16. Favorite salad dressing? Ranch 17. Favorite pie? Anything ultra rich and chocolately. 18. Favorite number? FOUR!!!!!!! FOUR!!!!! FOUR!!!!! FOUR!!!! 20. Favorite holiday? Christmas I suppose, but I have alota fun with Halloween. 21. Favorite dessert? Okay since you're trying to nail me down on "ultra rich and chocolately", I'll go with a chocolate fudge cake, with extra thick chocolate icing, a scope of ice cream, covered in chocolate syrup/hot fudge, LOTS of heavy whipped cream, nuts, and a cherry. Happy now?...I AM 22. Favorite food? Artichokes, Leeks, any kind of fresh veggie in general 23. Favorite day of the week? Lately? Thursday 24. Favorite brand of body soap? Well I don't really use "body soap", I have a bunch of different kinds of body washes, most of which purport to do something magical to the skin. I really like the way this one from "The Body Shop" makes me feel though. I can't remember the name though, but it's in a red bottle. 25. Favorite TV show? I don't watch TV, but I guess Queer as Folk, or Friends (I downloaded them) 26. Favorite Toothpaste? Moonlight Night, Vivid Night Whitening, by Crest. 27. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? I could literally be almost anywhere with almost anyone doing almost anything, and I'm pleased about that. 28. What do you do when you are bored? The only times I've been bored in the last several years have all been at work or school, I never get bored when I have time to myself. In those scenarios I usually just try to throw myself into whatever is going on. If nothing's going on and I can't chat with anyone, then I happily get lost in my head. ************************** So long little quiz thingy, but it was fun! In other news I'm getting ready to move and looking for a new job will be on very little for the next three weeks. Take care all and have an awesome day! Kevin

Hi all Yep, there was one notable study conducted in the 1970s in which researchers interviewed Seattle prostitutes, drug addicts, and institutionalized gay people and found instances of some guys reporting more than 3,000 sexual partners. 700 may indeed be some kind of "average" from that number, or simply some number that's been adjusted in an attempt to make it more believable and counter-balance the initial subject pool (which it obviously still doesn't do). In any case, chances are the research does indeed come from a sampling of prostitutes, drug addicts, or the mentally ill. OKAY, sorry but I personally think that math just doesn't hold up! The key term to remember here is different partners. IMO, that may indeed be a perfectly legitimate way to estimate Johnny Queer's number of sexual encounters (though it still seems high to me unless he's at least periodically in a relationship), but I find it highly unlikely that he would be able to find 260 different partners by the time he's 30 unless finding new sexual partners was one of his main focuses in life (in which case he obviously wouldn't represent the average, modern queer). First off, almost everyone who's "out" and "active" enough in the gay scene to be picking up that many partners is going to have at least a few relationships over that period of time. I know alot of gay people under 30 and the overwhelming majority have had at least one, "mostly monogamous" relationship (rather one or both parties ended up cheating, or even if it was an "open" relationship, it was at least monogamous to the point that the members wouldn't have been having sex with outside parties to the extent you described above). The few individuals in my age bracket that I do know of who haven't ever been involved in a gay relationship have all had comparatively very little gay sex/sexual encounters in general. So if Johnny Queer represents the average, modern day American queer, then he's not average unless he's involved in at least a couple of relationships by the time he's 30, and unless these relationships have at least briefly destracted him from his pursuit of anonymous sex. Now let's pretend that Johnny Queer really is avoiding all romantic relationships and instead just having casual sex. Even in that scenario it seems pretty likely that if Johnny wants to have that much sex he's going to have to have a couple of "FBs" or at least occasionally go home with the same person more than once, in which case he is of course not finding that many different partners. The inherent problem with all this reasoning is that Johnny Queer is constrained by the population in which he lives and the methods he chooses to find his tricks. Let's suppose he frequents gay clubs. I can tell you first hand that it's generally the same crowd the frequents the same clubs. Not completely of course, but generally and overall. I go out to a gay club about once a month, perhaps a little less (certainly less than Johnny Queer in the above example), yet I still see the same guys over and over. Sure I usually see mostly new ones, but chances are if I were there every weekend I'd see remarkably few fresh faces, and I live in one of the largest cities in the United States. Presumably Johnny Queer does not live in a city as large as the one I do. In which case he's likely to have many fewer gay clubs/bars, in which case there's likely to be even fewer fresh faces every weekend. Let's suppose Johnny is instead getting his tricks from visiting gay hook-up sites, or other local listings. Even in this case, that does readily facilitate anonymous sex, it's more or less the same core group of people that are always prowling (and again this would be even more true if the local area were even smaller and less densely populated). We've also got to remember that if Johnny Queer is indeed a typical gay guy, then chances are several of the people who hit on him won't interest him, and at least some of the people he wants to have sex with won't be interested.

Oh dear, I seem to have missed another birthday I hope it was super special, Kurt! May this year find you in a constant state of wondering about which pleasant happenstance shall befall you next. Take care Kevin

This is so true! This is among the advice that sleep specialists often give their patients! Hmmm, my French is exceedingly poor and rusty, but I'll have a crack at it Il faut faire vite ce qui ne presse pas pour pouvoir faire lentement ce qui presse = It is necessary to quickly do something that isn't pressing so that that which is pressing may be done slowly. OHhh, I'll take care of this one for ya, Jamie! -Kevin