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Hey Sharon! As I think we've discussed, I too have a fear of bridges! It's really weird since I'm bothered neither by water or heights. Actually I'm pretty sure it's the railing that makes me uncomfortable. When I lived in Baton Rouge I had to cross the Atchafalaya Basin every time I wanted to visit friends/family "back home". I ended up doing this at least two or three times a month in most cases. According to Wikipedia it's exactly 18.2 miles across! I remember clocking it at 19.5, but I guess they're more likely to be accurate. Anyway it was definitely freaky! I actually did notice that I started to grow a bit more comfortable with it though as I did it over and over again. Anyway I'm glad the trip went well and I hope everything works out great!!! Kevin

So this is a thread that's going on in the "Games and Humor" section of The Lounge, right now, but I had so much fun with it I thought I'd post it here too! ***************** IF YOUR LIFE WAS A MOVIE, WHAT WOULD THE SOUNDTRACK BE? So, here's how it works: 1. Open your library (iTunes, Winamp, Media Player, iPod, etc) 2. Put it on shuffle 3. Press play 4. For every question, type the song that's playing 5. When you go to a new question, press the next button 6. Don't lie and try to pretend you're cool... 1. Opening Credits: "Kick Off" - "Relient K (Whoa! What an amazing coincidence! This isn't even really a "song" just sort of an intro to "kick off" a cd...or the movie of my life I guess ) 2. Waking Up: "I Never Promised You a Rose Garden" - Loretta Lynn (Not as apt as the last one, but this seems like excellent advice to give someone at the beginning of anything) 3. First Day Of School: "Sexy Back" - Justin Timberlake (Ohhh yeah! There's an entrance for you! ) 4. Falling In Love: "Killing Me Softly" - Roberta Flack (awww!! "He sang as if he knew me") 5. Fight Song: "S.O.S." - Rhianna ( I'll dance them to death! LOL, I guess at least the title works if I'm losing the fight) 6. Breaking Up: **crosses his fingers for "Tainted Love"** "I Will Survive" - Gloria Gaynor (Oh my gosh!!! This is PERFECT!) 7. Life: "Fell In Love with a Girl" - The White Stripes (What!?! LOL, well I guess I'm young still, so we'll see ) 8. Mental Breakdown: "Omobolasire" - Prozzak (LOL well "I was delirious", but mostly this a big miss!) 9. Driving: "Sophomore Slump or Comeback of the Year" - Fall Out Boy (Not their best work, but this is okay to drive to) 10. Flashback: "Crocodile Rock" - Elton John (Ohh, this is delightfully nostalgic ) 11. Getting Back Together: "I Touch Myself" - Unknown 80s ( Shouldn't this NOT be necessary anymore if we're getting back together? ) 12. Losing Your Virginity: (on second thought I'm just happy I didn't get 11's song here!! ) "Hey Ya" - Outkast (OK! Funky, fun, and high energy, and besides "Sex is always better when there's feelings involved") 13. Wedding: "The Origin of Love" - Hedwig and the Angry Inch (WOW! Perfect, my two best friends that just got married actually used a brief selection of The Origin of Love in their vows) 14. Birth Of A Child: "Wonderful" - Everclear (Oh no!!! What a horrible song for this section This song is about the pain a child goes through when their parents split up. Yikes, I guess this means we're going break up and screw the kid up ) 15. Final Battle: "Pain" - Three Days Grace (Ohh, one of my favourite songs!! Still it doesn't bode well for the battle does it?) 16. Funeral Song: "Fallen" - Sarah McLachlan (Sure, pretty much any Sarah McLachlan song is okay to die/be buried to - and I do mean that in the nicest possible way - besides this is one of my favourites of hers) 17. End Credits: "Seasons of Love" - Rent (Wow! Wasn't this actually the ending credits song?! Awesome movie/play!) ********* So I feel like I had amazingly lucky results! They were almost all surprisingly good fits! You guys please feel free to post your own results or comment on mine/others. Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Hey Jamie! Awww wow, thanks, Jamie!! That was really sweet of you to say! As for the boys though... *sigh* I'm so not sure where I stand right now. LOL, surprisingly though that doesn't seem to be bothering me very much. I'm just sorta gonna see what happens. Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Awwww! YAY For CJ!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! You've been a wonderful asset to the site and a wonderful friend, for this and countless other things I offer you my sincerest well-wishes and praise! Have an awesome day Kevin

Happy Birthday, Dude! I hope it's totally awesome and amazing!!! -Kevin

Ah a special day for a special person! May your birthday be just as special as you are and may the coming year be...special. I hope it's fill with lots of love, joy, peace, excitement, learning, creativity, and anything and everything else you might want! HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAMIE!! -Kevin

Aww I'm sorry, Nick I'm glad everything's mostly working out though! LOL, as a HUGE coincidence I happened to be dealing with a nosebleed right when I read that you were too! LOL, I wonder if they're spread through internet contact? Take care and I hope you have a much better day Kevin

Happy Birthday!

Awwww YAY! For Eric's Birthday!!! May this day be like every other...only 10x better May this year be like every other...only without any disappointment or pain And may your life be like every other...only more enriched, exciting, fulfilled, and prosperous. Have an awesome day, Eric! Kevin

WOOO HOOO!!! YAY for Ronnie's birthday!!! May your day be filled with all the joy 24 hours can hold, may your year be remarkable and bring you all the things you need, and may your life be imbued with peace, happiness, success, and good-health. Have a great one Kevin

Hey Richie! Well I'm glad to hear that there is hope! LOL I can't imagine you being too mean to people either Awww thanks! *eats his cookie** Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Hey Camy!! Thanks, I guess admitting you have a problem is the first step LOL! awww thanks Camy That is very good advice! Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Hey Joe While I agree with you on almost all counts, This has definitely not been my experience. I've always dealt with much shorter lines at straight clubs, whereas at gay clubs I've often literally been standing in a line that was more than a block long. I'm glad you haven't had to deal with the lines though Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

WOOO HOOO! Yay for Kanaye's birthday! I hope your day was filled with all the joy and happiness that you could ask for and may the coming year be terrific!! -Kevin P.S. didja save me any of that cake?

Hey Vic! Ya know that had occurred to me actually! But I figured it was still no excuse, plus it was lasting a really long time. No way!! LOL, I'm sure you're not that bad though *sigh* Yes, I think vocalizing was part of my problem I do seem to feel less irritable now though Take care and have an awesome day! Kevin

Oh my gosh, Ronnie!! It's great to see you! How have you been? Thanks, Yeah I am feeling much better lately Awwwww I'm so sorry. I hope everything works out and that maybe your mom will end up being cool with it in time! Take care and have an awesome day! Great to hear from you! Kevin

Hey dude! It sounds like you did have a great time and I'm so glad that things are really coming together for you and Joey! I think that's an incredibly giving, sweet way to feel - albeit a tad morbid. Actually I know where you're coming from. I've had friends who lost their fathers and were devastated whereas like you my life wouldn't really be different at all and we're not nearly as close. More similarly I've always said I have a much more father-son type relationship with my grandfather than with my dad. It sounds like he's a really awesome friend! It also sounds like you're doing your best to be there for him and to give him what he needs, so you should be proud of yourself. As your life progressives the sad truth is that there's every likelihood that you'll have plenty of opportunities to practice your comforting skills. It certainly sounds like you're doing pretty well for now

*waves and smiles* Happy Birthday! May it be filled with nice things and many wonders! -Kevin

Who you may ask? That'd be me I've been a royal jerk to pretty much everyone the last few weeks. I pretty much realized I'd gone completely over the edge today when I was at work and one of my co-workers was helping me with some paperwork. I'd made a mistake on one of the forms and she was explaining what I'd done wrong and what I needed to do to fix it (which wasn't pleasant, and was a lot of work). Anyway I guess I was starring at her like I didn't understand or something because she explained it again, nicely I might add, and asked "does that make sense?". And I just pretty much went off and said "Yeah, I understand it; I'm just not happy about it ". She didn't say anything, was still quite nice really, but I knew I'd crossed a line. There was no real reason for it either. By all accounts it should have been a good day. I mean I'd actually done quite well for the week and even if this deal had been completely unsalvageable, which it wasn't, it wouldn't have really mattered that much. Plus everyone else was in a perfectly good mood and being quite nice to me. I was just being an all around cranky bitch. Not just at work either. With all my friends lately I've pretty much been hypersensitive and all but looking for trouble. It seems I've been going out of my way to either be offended, annoyed, or hurt by them. The ones that have stayed on my "good side" are pretty much the ones that are extremely sympathetic, and rational and have basically let me whine and...use them I've kinda been doing nothing but "taking" and not giving when it comes to my family too. *sigh* and I guess my whole attitude has been...different. The other day someone pointed out that I was being very negative. Then later I got a "You're so aggressive", which actually was probably a compliment since it took place in a club and he was referring to my sexual behaviour (which he was into), but nevertheless... I was troubled by these remarks and asked a close friend if he thought I was too pushy. He diplomatically responded "you're just very assertive". It's a sad and frustrating thing. I never really felt like people were taking advantage of me before, but I was always laid-back, positive, and easy-going. I like to think I used to be a rather giving person...I guess I went from never saying "No", to never expecting to hear it. Then there's driving...YIKES , when I look back on the way I've been driving (weaving in and out of traffic, speeding, tailgating, accelerating to get through lights, etc.) it kinda scares me. I've pretty much been ignoring Lucky (my cat) too. Anyway, I know I need to fix it. I know I need to change. I know I need to care. And I'm going to. I apologized (twice) to everyone at work, and I'm going to work on making amends in the other areas as well. See I've always had one really good thing going for me. No matter what I've always been on my own side. I've always liked and respected myself. I've always prided myself on being my own best friend...well I was starting to get on my nerves too. So I know it's time to fix it.

Thanks, Nick! Glad you enjoyed it

Haha! Oh wow! I can't believe this happened to someone else too! Yours sounds even more embarrassing though!

Oh Luc I'm so sorry all that happened to you I'm really glad you're back though and doing better. I think you're handling all of this extremely well! Way to go! I'm most certainly not trying to encourage you one way or the other with Scott, but I do have to say that all of that sound very romantic in a "as fate would have it" sort of way. Of course I urge you to think things out and make the best possible decisions you can for yourself. You're terrific! -Kevin

Hey LC First off, welcome to the blogging world! I can't wait to see what other fascinating things you have in store for us! I really liked this poem! I seriously think it's an excellent coming out poem, and I think it would do alot of good for other gay people to read it when they're on their own journey from the closet. It's a great start! Perhaps it would help if I told you the things I was thinking when reading it. 1) Obviously right away I was like "Ohh, it's about coming out" 2) Toward the end it seems to be a sort of love poem too. Like someone specific gave you the courage to accept who you are and be yourself. This is in contrast to the initial reaction I had that the poem was directed to someone who didn't know. The last line (really powerful and moving btw) instantly made me think "WOW! This poem would be great to recite as wedding vows" (but two of my best friends - lesbians - just got married so weddings, especially gay weddings, are probably on my mind more than usual) 3) It has definite Christian overtones. You may or may not have meant to include that, but a lot of the phrasing is similar and reminiscent of that used in Christian worship. For example the whole "Because I know who I am, I am yours" screams Christian profession of Faith and surrender to me. Similarly the part about finding courage to be yourself and the "You've showed me who I am, You've showed me what is right" brings to mind other common Christian themes. Anyway, they say that how one interprets a poem says more about the person than the poem, so it makes sense that I'd read it that way. I'm gay and have gone through the coming out process. I'm a romantic person and on top of that my two best friends just got married. I've lately been re-vitalizing my Christian Faith, but from a homosexuality accepting perspective. Of course what really matters obviously isn't my interpretation of the poem. It also doesn't even matter that much how the people in your life, the people you may have been trying to come out to, interpret it. What matters most is how it made you feel to write it. I think poetry in general, and this poem in particular, is about expressing your feelings and getting something out. It sounds to me like you did that. So in my opinion it doesn't matter that other (non-gay) people don't understand it, nor does it matter what I or anyone else at the site thought of it (really enjoyed it though ). I think it was very brave of you to post that on your myspace! And don't worry about rushing to come out, I mean it sounds like you're starting to be ready for it and I think that's awesome, and if you are ready you should do it, but remember to do it at your own pace and when you are ready. There's also one important thing that you have to remember: Your coming out is completely and entirely about you and no one else. Several years ago, well before I even thought about coming out a friend of mine came out. Only I didn't hear it from him, I heard it through the gossip mill. So the next time I saw him when we were with mutual friends who also knew, I just casually and supportively mentioned something about him being gay to let him know that I knew and was okay with it, and that since I would have been the only one there that night that he might have to "hide it from" it wasn't necessary and he could just relax and be himself. Anyway, he just smiled and responded and went with it, and everything was cool. Later that evening though, after we'd both had several drinks, we were talking about it and he said that he was so sorry that he hadn't told me himself and that he'd been worried that I'd be mad/hurt that I didn't hear it first hand. And actually I had been, but in that moment I suddenly came to the great truth about coming out and instead responded, "Dude, this isn't about me at all, it's about you". And I remembered that when I came out myself, and it really helped. So remember, this is about YOU, not any boyfriend you may or may not have, not any of your friends, and not even any of your family, just you. Like I said, I'm proud of you way to go! I'm sorry **Sassy finger wave/hip swing** You go, boy! All the best Kevin

Happy Birthday! May your day bring the joy and peace that you deserve and may the coming year be one filled with much contentment and prosperity All the best, Kevin

Hey dude, I'm glad you're having fun in Hawaii! Here's a tip, carry a couple of nutritious power/protein/granola bars with you and when you get hungry just whip em out! That's what I used to do. Take care and have an awesome day Kevin